Another daycare rant

Maybride2

DS was held in the infant room way longer than he should have been, due to there not being an opening in the next room up.  All of the teachers involved admitted this, and in fact he was only in next room for two months before they moved him up to the third room.  They all agreed that developmentally, he was more than ready.

So he's been in the third room for close to 8 months now.  At the end of June, the lead teacher in that room told me she was working to transition DS to the fourth room - developmentally he was more than ready, and they were getting younger kids in the third room and there was getting to be too big of a developmental gap between the kids.  I was all for it.

That lead teacher has been out due to a family death all of July.  DS has not spent any more time in the fourth room........instead, a younger girl in his current class has been.  One of the teachers in the fourth room happens to be her private babysitter.  I feel like she's being given the "open slot" over my DS due to that relationship..........but I don't know how much of it is my business or if I should waste energy worrying about it.

I don't want made a big deal out of it, because I like the other little girl and her mother and I don't want the teachers in third room to think I don't like them anymore.............but if DS is developmentally ready to move up, I don't like the idea of him being held back like this.  I see how much older, bigger, and further ahead of his current classmates he is and it's starting to make me mad every morning when I leave him.

 

AlisaS

I would complain and get a firm date for your DS to move up.

ElopeToHawaii

My friend and I each have kids the same age at the same center and we've had similar struggles.  Our kids were both late walkers so they were in the infant room a long time although they were developmentally beyond that.  She really had to push to get her son moved up whereas I just had to do a little pushing.  So, it sounds pretty common.

I'd talk to the center director and let her know that you thought DS would be moving to the next room soon and that you'd like a firm date for it.  Non-confrontational, but it lets her know that you are on top of it.

blondie75

Can you just ask someone, maybe the director about it?  "Are we still on target to start transitioning DS......"

Maybride2

Thanks all.

Today when I pick up DS I'm going to talk to the teachers about it.........if I don't get an answer or like the one that I get, I'll talk to the Director tomorrow when I drop him off.

I know that if the lead teacher were there, DS would be in the fourth room permanently right now.  Things have been a bit more confusing with her being gone and the other teachers covering for her, and I'm sure that's all that happened with DS's transition......it just got lost in the shuffle.  But I want it made a priority again, now. 

soccermom-to-be

Sorry that I am a bit late to respond but I would personally have gone straight to the Director at DD's school.  In fact, when she was slated to move up in December with all her friends and couldn't based on space and birthdays (she was Jan 4th and all the other kids were Dec) I was okay with that... at first.  But then I was told by one of the teachers that she would move in 4 weeks but that didn't happen.  I called the Director and made an appointment to come in and meet with her to discuss when the date would be and she called back and said 'DD will be moving up on Monday'. 

I never complain or speak to her unless it's social so I think she was surprised and took my call as 'I mean business'.  Sometimes you have to go to the higher up to get what you want for your DC.  My mom told me to never back down because  if you do, there is always someone else  willing to take your spot.

jlw2505

I would talk to the director about it right away.  You can simply say that you were casually told a while back that your DS was going to be moving to the next room soon but you have not heard anything about it and was wondering what the plan was.  I know I had been told that my older DD was going to be moved up shortly after her b-day in mid June but then never heard anything.  I asked the director and she told that they were not moving any of the kids to that room over the summer due to student numbers being down and trying to keep staffing levels workable and stuff like that (she gave me all the details and it makes total sense).  She told me my DD would be able to visit a ton of the summer when kids from that room were out which she has and that my DD along with a number of the other kids would move up in Sept when the summer program ended.  The classes have ended up doing a ton of things together this summer so my DD is around the older kids and getting that exposure. I am so glad I asked and understand what is going on.