CIO vs drowsy but awake at 2 months

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Last evening I posted about letting DS going for up to 5 mintues, and I'm not talking about all out crying, but fussing or whining, when trying to go to sleep at night (after a nice bedtime routine) or going back to sleep in the middle of the night.  And many people told me you should go pick up your child at that age, and to not start sleep training unitl at least 4-6 months.  However, I don;t see anything wrong with him learning to put himself back to sleep.  He has been able to be put down for naps (after rocking and cuddling with eyes heavy) and go to sleep on his own since about 6 weeks, and we still get up to eat once throughout the night.  I feel like I know his hungry cry and when he does that we get up.  He is over 12lbs now and he eats 6 - 6oz bottles a day, so he eats plenty (doctor says 6-8 hours at night is good).  Does anyone else let their LO cry a little before rushing in at this age or is it just me?  Now I feel like I'm a bad mom or something. 

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We have done the same.  We'll let him fuss for a little bit to see if he goes to sleep.  Luckily, our little guy has been sleeping through the night since about 7 weeks, so it's a rare occasion for us to have to do anything with him.

Meg41208

letting him fuss for 5 minutes does not = CIO

However, his capacity to self soothe is pretty limited at this time, so I wouldn't let him get all out hysterical at this age if you can prevent it.

Jackswife123

Meg41208:

letting him fuss for 5 minutes does not = CIO

However, his capacity to self soothe is pretty limited at this time, so I wouldn't let him get all out hysterical at this age if you can prevent it.

This. ?And really at this age...the only reason you're letting him cry is b/c YOU want him to sleep. ?He's crying for a reason.?

Belle15

I started doing pretty much the same thing.  Sometimes dd is just wimpering and fussing and will go back to sleep with in 5 min.  If it sounds like more then that I go and pick her up. 

thefarmchick

I let DS fuss a bit before picking him up.   He has himself on a pretty regular routine straght home from the NICU.  He gets up once through the night also to eat. But, sometimes he just wakes up and fusses a little bit, adjusts himself to a new position or farts and goes back to sleep.  He has a definate hungry cry/fuss that is different and our cue to get up.

I don't see anything wrong with it. Everyone has thier own system that works.

NatPhoto09

Cry a little is one thing and 5 minutes is another.  I think a little fussing/crying (maybe 30 seconds) is not bad but I don't think 5 minutes is a little.  

Edit: in HSHHC it says that at 2 months you should not let them cry even if you are trying drowsy but awake.  GL

NY-allie

Cry - No.  Fuss - Yes.  A lot of times he'll fuss for a min and the go back to sleep. 

turtlegirl115

My LO is almost 12 weeks. Last week the pedi told us to put her down sleepy but awake and let her learn to soothe herself to sleep. Said to let her cry 15-20 minutes, go back in and soothe her but not to pick up or feed her. I tried it but only lasted 5 minutes. I just can't do it.

 But crying and just a little fussy is two different things IMO. I think if he's just a little fussy, that 5 minutes is perfectly fine.

MissPresleysMommy

Even CIO advocates would not suggest letting a 2 month old CIO. They still need to know that mommy or daddy will come when they call.

Read "The No Cry Sleep Solution" it's a great book.