Importat Couple of Questions...

withoutshoes

1. How old was your DC when they stayed with someone overnight without you? 

2. Did you feel pressured to let them stay?

I might need advice later on....

Thanks for answering these questions ladies!  

ECUGirl2004

1. Nate was 13 months old when he stayed with my parents overnight.  He was younger when he stayed with just DH, when I had to go out of town for work.

2. No, it was my idea.

becki777

DS has not stayed overnight with anyone yet. Our anniversary is next month and DH/MIL both want me to leave him. If I wasn't nursing, I MIGHT think about it. As a compromise, DH and I are leaving him during the day for 7-8 hours while we go to our hotel, have dinner, etc. DS will join us at bedtime in the hotel.

futureJHL

Nora hasn't been without me or DH overnight yet... but that is my choice.  MIL pressures me all the time for Nora to stay with her...but I'm still breastfeeding, so it's not going to work until we stop that. And she'll stay with my Mom first bc I'm more comfortable with that and MIL is a baby hog...lol...she really is though.

raceyrae

She hasn't been overnight without me (she has without DH when he went away on some business trips).

tarheelbaby08

Emma was only 2 weeks old when we left her for the first time!  My mom came to stay with her at our house for the night, because I was in my friend's wedding about an hour away...If it was anyone other than my mom watching her I would have been worrying the whole time and actually would not have left her home at all!

jenhum

1. How old was your DC when they stayed with someone overnight without you? When Maddie was about 3.5 months, my mom stayed overnight with her for one night at our house while we stayed at a hotel (only 25 minutes away) for our anniversary. That's the only night I've been away from her so far, but we're planning for her to stay with my parents for a week when she is about 13 months.

2. Did you feel pressured to let them stay? None. I would be very annoyed if someone pressured me to be away from my child, and would probably be less likely to let that person keep them.

Good luck! I trust my mom 110% b/c she is around Maddie so much. When we visit my parents, Maddie sleeps in their closet (it's really big) and my mom sleeps with the monitor and gets up with her in the morning, so I know that she has plenty of experience taking care of her.

Although I'm not crazy about my FIL and stepMIL, I would probably also trust them to watch her overnight if they lived closer, b/c I know they adore her and they are smart, responsible people.

I don't know what your situation is, but my advice is not to be pressured into anything! You won't enjoy your time away if you aren't happy/comfortable about leaving him. I know that's easier said than done sometimes though .

WendyNC

She stayed overnight with my MIL at her house one night when she was 2 or 3 months old just so we could get a night's rest b/c that was during her crazy no sleeping stuff.  She stayed with my parents for two nights when she was almost 13 months old while we went to Asheville for the weekend.

And no, I wasn't pressured in either situation.  I'm perfectly comfortable leaving her with my parents b/c they watch her during the work week and she has a crib there.  Not as comfortable leaving her at my in-laws but we would in a bind. 

alchris

It still hasn't happened, and I'm sure it will be a lot longer as we don't live near family.  I wish you the best!

sms297

1. DD was almost a year. DH and I went to Boston for a wedding and made a long weekend of it. DD was here at our house with my mom. She was probably 18 months when she stayed at my parent's house for the first time.

2. Of course we got pressure to go away over night. Do it when you are ready. But also don't wait forever... it is good for you, DH and DC!

lah1177

1. How old was your DC when they stayed with someone overnight without you? I had to travel for work when she was 4 months old (for one night) and she stayed with my DH. Then I had to travel for three nights when she was almost five months old and he watched her again. She was about 12.5 months the first time we both left her overnight, she stayed with my mom for two nights. Then we went to Spain for seven nights when she was 14 months.

2. Did you feel pressured to let them stay? My MIL has made a couple comments about Ashley spending the night at her house and that will never ever ever happen. I don't care what type of situation we are in, she will not stay there. They live next door to a registered sex offender and have almost had drive bys in their neighborhood. So I don't think I will ever feel pressured by her b/c I won't allow it to happen. I don't think I would even let them watch her at my house overnight. Like MrsLee, I don't trust them further than I could throw them.

NatPhoto09

we are leaving our LO for 4 nights in early September when we go on our anniversary trip.  He will be 6 months and we are dropping him off in Miami while we are away.  I don't feel pressured b/c my family lives out of town. 

kateland3

1. still hasn't, nor do we have plans to do so in the forseeable future.

2. well, yes and no. directly, no, but i know my MIL thinks i'm too protective of him and wishes like hell i'd let him spend the night. really, henry's SUCH an easy baby, i'd rather have him here. it's not like i need the extra sleep, since he gets up at 10... i don't leave him much at all.

mrsNnearly

1. We haven't left him overnight yet, but plan to in September for our anny. He will be 4 months old and we are planning to be away for 2 nights while my mom watches him for us.

2. No one has pressured us at all. That would make me upset and uncomfortable. Going away for our anny was our idea, not my mom's. I agree with pp it will be hard to enjoy yourself if you are pressured into it and don't really want to go. GL!