confession: sorta vent?

zoology2

Ok this probably sounds bad but I have intentionally missed gtgs and mnos bc of a self conscious Reason...bc of my alopecia (or bald head) I have not wanted to face people really (dd2's birth was REALLY hard on me having to be in public) and as much as I know you ladies are a great support I still find it that I don't want it to feel weird or awkward being with you ladies bc of being with a lady with a head scarf (wigs look fun but don't feel fun, so itchy) On the flip side, my hair is almost long enough to get extensions sewn in so I can feel like somewhat of a normal woman. Though I do have a few bald spots. I guess having 3 kids in 4 years and bfing for 3 years will make drastic hormonal changes (which we suspect triggered this all) Plus being a SAHM it gets boring and tough taking care. Of 3 chilluns along with myself. So it would be nice to go out for once! So I hope to see you ladies soon and meet y'all in person amd see all the cutie pies y'all have! Sorry, I just had to get this all out! Thanks for making it this far if you have!

WyWysMommy

One of my best friends in college has alopecia, they think her hypothyroid is what caused hers. I plan on going to the next g2g or mno if it is far enough North, or if we have moved by then. (Really hoping for the later one!! Ha) You don't have to feel self concious around me. Promise!

mustangsallie

I'm sorry you feel self-conscious. If it makes you feel better, I am extremely overweight and feel like a hippo at every GTG.

You have been through alot lately and I am sure you are all kinds of crazy, you need a MNO!

 I hope you feel better soon, and we totally accept you for who you are.

mrspresley

feel free to vent but really you do not need to feel self conscious.  i am fairly new to the board and didn't really even "know" anyone from the board before going (except mikey&amie) and everyone made me feel very welcome.  hope to see you at the next GTG!

rolleifly

Well I promise I won't feel awkward or make you feel awkward. My mom had this (or what I'm assuming was this). She lost all of her hair shortly after my older brother was born and it didn't grow back until I was eight or nine. So I grew accustomed to the hair scarfs and wigs. We never talked about it, it was just a fact that my mom was bald for some reason.?

I haven't been to a GTG yet, but hopefully I can make it to the next one and see you there ?

Mrs.Donkey

I'm sorry you are going through all this. It sounds like you could really use MNO or GTG! Please, please do not think that any of us would feel awkward or be mean to you in any way because of this. I hope that you will feel comfortable enough to come out and meet us soon.

Boizmom

You're not alone sweetie!!

I have alopecia as well.  Over this past year I have lost about half of  my hair.  I started out with wonderfuly thick hair that I didn't know what to do with and now I have half the hair, it's kinky curly in some spots, bone straight in others and it's coarse like you wouldn't believe.  I have a signifigant thin/balding spot up in front where my hair naturally parts and on the temples.  

No one really knows what triggered mine either.  It's guessed that it was my birth control I used after my second baby was born for I had never used birth control before that.  My thyroid got all messed up for some time but then I stopped the bc (per my Dr's instructions) and my thyroid went back to normal.  And, alas...I am pregnant now with baby number 3.  LOL.  I am still losing my hair...there's hair all over the place and I do get tired of it.  Most days I just pull my hair up and out of my face and by the end of the day when I brush it out I have a whole other head of hair on the counter.  I really am not looking forward to what things will be like after the baby is born.  (You know how you naturally lose hair after a pregnancy.) 

 My hair loss has not been the only reason for me not attending GTGs and MNOs, but is one of them.  I am just naturally a very shy person to boot.

 

ibfloridagirl

I am so sorry that you feel self conscious, but let me let you in on a little secret, i'm pretty sure most of us feel self conscious in one way or another.  I know i do.  I have a very low self esteem and it's very hard for me to meet new people, i literally had a meltdown on what to wear to MNO because i don't fit in a majority of stuff and tend to believe that people think i look worse than i even do, lol.  I know it is not even close to what you are going through, but we are just normal girls and we all have our issues, at least that's what i tell myself before every GTG )  Can't wait to meet you, i hope we have a GTG soon )

Jessibell

ibfloridagirl:

I am so sorry that you feel self conscious, but let me let you in on a little secret, i'm pretty sure most of us feel self conscious in one way or another.  I know i do.  I have a very low self esteem and it's very hard for me to meet new people, i literally had a meltdown on what to wear to MNO because i don't fit in a majority of stuff and tend to believe that people think i look worse than i even do, lol.  I know it is not even close to what you are going through, but we are just normal girls and we all have our issues, at least that's what i tell myself before every GTG )  Can't wait to meet you, i hope we have a GTG soon )

This exactly. And we're just hanging out, not having runway walkoffs ;P

Although I cannot promise that stripper poles are never involved.

mlhowe07

I am sorry you are going through this. All of these ladies are so nice & welcoming, they would never feel awkward around you. They really are great & more importantly they are a great support group! I know it's hard to get out & meet new people, I think everyone feels insecure about something especially when meeting new people.

Maybe you can meet 1 of the ladies & start there, then you will have a buddy so to speak or someone you at least know when you go to a gtg. 

This really is a great group of women! 

ibfloridagirl

Jessibell:

Although I cannot promise that stripper poles are never involved.

hehe

flygeah

I agree with everyone so far.  This really is a great group of women.  I could not ask for a better group. 

When we get together it is to laugh and have a good time and it sounds like that is what you need no one is there to judge what you look like or what you are wearing. 

I agree with Mlhowe... why not meet with one person first?  Just to get your foot out there, then when a GTG comes up, you already know someone. 

 

lizzyjames

Please don't worry about it!  We (as a group) aren't the type that would make you feel out of place.  

 When my cousin lost her hair she was sooooo self concious about it but honestly, I thought she look gorgeous.  AND even more gorgeous when her hair started to grow back and it was super short and sassy.  Please come out and have some fun!  Those gummi bear martinis on Friday were sooooooo worth it. 

mikey&amie

I totally understand (to a different extent) I missed the very first one because I was nervous, shy, self conscious, but this really is a fabulous group of ladies and have made so many GREAT friends.  I'm so glad I sucked it up and went to the next one.  Please come next time, I promise you will have fun and no one ould make you feel out of place!

ibfloridagirl

mikey&amie:

I missed the very first one because I was nervous, shy, self conscious,

Really?!  I think yall are so pretty, i can't imagine being self conscious if i looked like any of you guys )

LarloBlue

I am new to the boards, but I think that it's great how supportive you guys are!! This is my first pregnancy and  I really have no idea what I'm in for! But it's nice to know that there are people like you guys that have nice things to say when someone is down about themselves!!