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poem

I know i've not posted since we're on an unknown length of time financial break- probably forever- excuse my exaggerating...i'm just sad...this would be my edd with #1 and this week i'm in my friends wedding..should be in a maternity dress for #2...just a reminder of all that.....but i found this nice poem i thought i'd share..sorry if you've already seen before

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.
1 chemical and 1 loss at 9 weeks prior to DS
IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010

Trying for # 2 since 2012.  2 failed FETS 1 failed IUI.
IUI#2 4/14/14-- BFP !!!!! Beta #1 14dpiui= 45 Beta #2 16dpiui= 80  Beta #3 18dpiui= 88 (chemical pregnancy)
March 2015- Chemical pg

1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!

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  • Thanks for sharing.
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  • mvp12mvp12 member
    You have me crying so hard. I copied the poem. I never read it before.
  • Thank you soo much for sharing that. I love it, I saved it to my computer. I needed that.
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  • Thank you so much. I am going to put this in my blog. I teared up when I read "my dreams are crying for me".
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  • JFaJFa member
    Beautiful......there are really no other words. Thanks for sharing...I will be printing this out!
  • That was beautiful.
  • here is another poem that i have found comfort in:

    A Talk With My Unborn Child
    a poem by Amy Borens

    These arms of mine are still empty, it's been far too many years.
    I can hardly keep them hidden, the heartache and the tears.
    I am waiting for you, sweet angel to bless my life, my heart, my soul.
    I think I've been a good wife, now I want so much a mother's role.
    My life doesn't seem complete.You are not there to hold.
    A big piece of my life is missing your destiny is yet untold.
    I see you in my dreams, baby ten little fingers and toes.
    You have your Mommy's blue eyes and your daddy's ears and nose.
    When my eyes are closed I think will your room be pink or blue?
    And how much of my life will pass before all my dreams come true?
    Will I ever know the joy of rocking you at night?
    Telling bedtime stories and tucking you in tight?
    Will I ever be able to comfort you when you fall and scrape your knee?
    To kiss and make it better at the tender age of three?
    Can I watch you graduate and drive you to the mall?
    Your dad could take you fishing and teach you to play ball.
    Will you make me a grandma when I am old and gray?
    Looking back at my life I would be blessed in every way.
    So why have I been left behind when I have so much to give?
    I would gladly show you the whole world if you could only come to live.
    Will my turn ever come? I search my anguished mind.
    But questions without answers is all I seem to find.
    I go home every night and fight the tightness in my chest.
    The silence is so deafening in my big empty nest.
    I guess God has a plan for me and I shouldn't have such fear.
    But why you can't be in my life he hasn't made quite clear.
    I pray for you little one everyday, can you hear?
    So tell God we are ready to hold you forever dear.
    You would never go without. We would shower you with love.
    My little piece of heaven Sent from up above. 

    TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
    BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
    3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
    TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
    BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
    Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
    Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
    Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
    Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
    Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
    Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
    Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
    Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16
  • I love this poem. It gets me everytime.

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