Would this strike you as odd?

Starr_Mom

A little background: I met my BFF while our Army husbands were stationed at the same post. We became super close and we've remained friends even though we live pretty far apart (and neither of our Hs are in the Army anymore). Her H has always been a total d!ck and cheated on her all the time. She finally left him almost a year ago.... for a woman. It was a big shock because as far as I knew, she didn't swing that way. It's worked out and she and her GF are still together. She's really happy and that's the part that matters to me.

So I want her to fly into Vegas to go to the Britney Spears concert with me. This is totally us and we would have a blast. The deal is that MH & I will cover the concert & hotel and all she has to do is get here. She & her GF are having a hard time affording the plane tickets and decided they couldn't go. MH knew how heartbroken I was, so last night he offered to pay for my BFF's plane ticket. I emailed her today and let her know and she said that she would ask her GF if they could afford just the one ticket for her. Not really the deal I had in mind, but whatever. I emailed her again and asked if maybe she could just come alone to save them some money. She emails back:

We don't go anywhere without the other one. We don't go out alone, we don't drink alone or anything. It eliminates all suspicion or bad behavior.

WTH? Trust and respect is what eliminates 'suspicion or bad behavior' in my marriage. Not babysitting.

Brideofranken

that is what I refer to as an unhealthy relationship.

too bad for her...I wish she could be happy AND secure.

Starr_Mom

Yeah, something was off when I went to go see her last month. Now I get it. Sigh.

meghans30

Brideofranken:

that is what I refer to as an unhealthy relationship.

too bad for her...I wish she could be happy AND secure.

Agree . . . I was in a relationship like this in my early twenties . . . it didn't end well.

Brideofranken

it sucks for you that you hae to kinda lose a friend over it- but I guess if they're both happy...I don't know how an adult can feel happy in a situation like that though..

at least it probably won't last, and you can just be there for her anyway.

i mean...relationships like that really don't last. Someone always decides they want a longer leash, and the other person can't handle it...

BUT- maybe she just needed a transitional relationship and when she's ready, she'll start again with someone she trusts.

Starr_Mom

Yeah, I really don't see this as being a forever situation for her. It seems like something she just fell into when her marriage was really bad. I wish there was a way to tell her all the things I am thinking without offending her.