I am cheating on my doctor...

lulugirl

So you all probably remember my vent post about the crazy NP about 2 weeks go. Then I posted a F/U. I went back to the current OB to see a new doc (one that actually just had twins) and told her what happened. I felt better having talked to her but are still not sure that is where I want to be.

I made an appointment with a new doc that comes highly recommended by multiple moms in my area - I am supposed to see him Friday. They want copies of my records but I am not going to officially switch until I meet with him and make sure I am comfortable. I also like the hospital better that he delivers at (better NICU).

Ugh - I feel like I am cheating on my current OB practice - isn't that crazy!

I just want to feel comfortable. My peri yesterday said that since my twins are di/di that any OB practice would be fine since I am not really high risk.

Anyone else have doc drama?

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crazy4u624

I didn't have any doc drama, but just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel guilty at all. You are trying to get the best care for you and your babies....and that's most important. It sounds like the new doc that you will be seeing friday will be a great fit for you.....and it's certainly better to deliver in a hospital with a better NICU (but hopefully you won't need it).

If I were to be pregnant with twins again, I would probably go with a different OB and hospital. I was really lucky that everything went smoothly for me....no complications at all, no NICU time.....had things not gone smoothly, I don't think my OB or hospital would have been as prepared as they should be.

Definitely go where you feel comfortable and where you feel that you will be the best care for yourself and your babies.

eileenm21

not as much drama - I just don't know where to go!  I have not been released from my RE yet, but expect to be Friday.  My regular OB I really like, but is a single and his office is not equiped to do u/s there etc.  My friend who had twins strongly recommended since i will be there so much in the end to find an office that has it all there!  Plus now, I am not telling anyone, so I don't know where to get a reco from aside from the RE (which is good, but I would rather hear from a patient you know?)  I hated my old office but only because they pulled a lot of b.s. will double and triple booking and never have I been there where I wasn't waiting hours to see a dr.  but I know they have a solid and very skilled practice.  ugh help!

mrskimmieD

I had a little drama at my OB's office.  My OB's practice are all of the doctors that are the deans and teachers for the medical school at the hospital that I go to so the practice is very large - about 12 doctors.  They ahd a policy that you must see a different doctor at all appointments and I had some doctors I hated and I spoke up to the OB coordinator to let her know that I do not want anymore appt's with certain doctors and do NOT want them delivering my babies.  I had one doctor that made me wait almost 2 hours for an apointment and then she didn't listen to anything I was saying at my appt.  I ended up having to go to L&D that night because of contractions which could have been prevented if she would have taken the time to talk to me during my apointment.

My point is that you are your own advocate as well as the baby's advocate.  If you don't feel comfortable with your OB then find a new one and do not feel guilty.  The new OB you are going to see already sounds great and it sounds like you are making the right decision.  I would call your current OB and ask for a copy of your medical records.  You don't need to explain, just tell them you would like a copy.

Good luck!

jacobandcrystal

Don't feel bad at all!!  That NP said some of the craziest things I've ever heard.  When you talked to the doc at your current practice, did he/she give you better info than the NP did?

The only drama we've had was repeatedly asking for a peri referral from the OB.  They said they'd refer us down the road if we needed it.  At our last appt. we found out the twins are sharing a placenta so we didn't want to play around anymore.  This time my hubby called back and requested the referral again.  We have a referral in to the peri now, but it's still slow going because he was on vacation last week.

lisa&andy

Don't feel bad, you are looking out for yourself and your babies, you need to feel comfortable with your doctor. If they ask about the records, just tell them that you want a copy for personal reasons or I'd open my mouth and tell them what I thought about the NP, but that's just me, lol. Good luck with the new doctor, I hope everything works out! Did the other doctor ever say anything about what the NP said?

Barb0525

Don't feel bad AT ALL.  You are doing the right thing 100%.