"Are you going to quit working after the baby?"

mlwurster

I must have been asked this 4 different times at my shower on Saturday!  No, I'm not going to quit.   Our doctors prefer insurance, the bank prefers the mortgage is paid, and the credit card companies prefer payments to be made.  I'm the primary bread winner in the family (MH is in his medical residency) and our all of our different health insurances are through my job.  Even if it was an option, I don't know if I would take the opportunity.

MissLinz

I am getting when are you starting maternity. Now? No, you know I work from home. I can go once I go into labor. Gees...

MrsBro6116

LOL...I get this from people I work with when I go on site visits. Their bosses practically die when they hear their staff ask.

And yes, I will be returning. I did not get pregnant and win the lottery! 

PR_007

I'm in the same boat as you.  I HATE this question. 

As much as I'd like to stay home I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US.  It's just not the same as it was 30 years ago when half these women were popping out babies and making ends meet on one salary.

sweetfern

I get that a lot from family, friends, and strangers.  My grandfather made a point to tell my husband how he wouldn't let my grandmom return to work after their first.

FrickandFrack

I get the same question but mostly from my coworkers.

mfransdell

I've gotten this too and I hate it. One, I actually like my job and would go nuts at home all day long. Two, we simply can not afford for me to stay home. I hate the thought of anyone else watching my baby, I was up sick thinking about it last night but it has to be done. The mortgage isnt going to pay itself!

aglenn

MissLinz:

I am getting when are you starting maternity. Now? No, you know I work from home. I can go once I go into labor. Gees...

This.  People are already asking me why I'm still working.  I have almost 2 months until my due date!  Maybe they have more paid time off than me, but I'd like to keep as much of mine as I can for after the baby's here, thanks very much.

dakota3

I'm going back to work. Some people make me feel like I will be abondoning my baby for 8 hours each day. ergh...it's giving me second thoughts.

Also I have absolutely no idea how I will balance a baby and working. I don't function well on little sleep and I'm a bit of a perfectionist--how will I be the perfect mom and the perfect teacher at the same time?  But...so many people do it...hopefully I can too, right?

Mrs_mam

People at work told me to "emjoy my vacation". Hello, I'm not going on a cruise!

ArmyBride0604

I don't mind the question as much as I mind the judgment from those that don't agree with my decision to continue working.  My cousin's wife was a SAHM and when she asked and I answered, her response was along the lines of, "when you hold that sweet baby, you'll change your mind."  I explained that me working helps us afford the life we want for our child (and helps us stay in the home that we currently live in) and she came back with "money isn't everything" - like we're greedy selfish people.  I hated to point out that they live in rural Mississippi and we live in a city - our cost of living is higher!

mlwurster

ArmyBride0604:

I don't mind the question as much as I mind the judgment from those that don't agree with my decision to continue working.  My cousin's wife was a SAHM and when she asked and I answered, her response was along the lines of, "when you hold that sweet baby, you'll change your mind."  I explained that me working helps us afford the life we want for our child (and helps us stay in the home that we currently live in) and she came back with "money isn't everything" - like we're greedy selfish people.  I hated to point out that they live in rural Mississippi and we live in a city - our cost of living is higher!

The women who asked followed up with, "You know the baby will be the most important thing."  Their question was full of judgement!  I tried to explain to them that while LO will be the most important, feeding, clothing, and protecting him will be necessities that only I can pay for right now.

Gina1221

mlwurster:

 No, I'm not going to quit.   Our doctors prefer insurance, the bank prefers the mortgage is paid, and the credit card companies prefer payments to be made.  I'm the primary bread winner

jackie.couturier

I get this question from co-workers a lot.  Frankly, I think it is inappropriate and no one's business but mine and my supervisor's.

kbud9

mlwurster:

ArmyBride0604:

I don't mind the question as much as I mind the judgment from those that don't agree with my decision to continue working.  My cousin's wife was a SAHM and when she asked and I answered, her response was along the lines of, "when you hold that sweet baby, you'll change your mind."  I explained that me working helps us afford the life we want for our child (and helps us stay in the home that we currently live in) and she came back with "money isn't everything" - like we're greedy selfish people.  I hated to point out that they live in rural Mississippi and we live in a city - our cost of living is higher!

The women who asked followed up with, "You know the baby will be the most important thing."  Their question was full of judgement!  I tried to explain to them that while LO will be the most important, feeding, clothing, and protecting him will be necessities that only I can pay for right now.

I hate this attitude you get from the occasional pious stay at home mother. I especially love the "i dont want anyone raising my kids but me" line. I have always been a working mother and regardless of who watched my kids DH and i are the ones who are raising them. People are idiots about this

MuckDiva

I am a teacher and am asked that all of the time.  DH and I just moved into a house that we got based our incomes.  Ummmm yeah- I am going back to work- I need to pay for my part of the house, my car, and my bills.  Some people don't think.