Would you tell your boss....?

Lucky&Lola

Okay, so if all is well with hubby's SA (third one) tomorrow we proceed with IUI this week.  Since I'll be having to have lots of bloodwork and U/S, should I tell my boss what I'm going thru?  She's not easy to talk to, but I'm afraid if I keep a couple hours here and there she'll think I'm looking for another job.  What would you do?

NewMrs07

I would just say you're dealing with a medical condition, nothing serious, and that's why you have to go to a few doctor appointments. I wouldn't tell her specifically what it is, especially is you don't feel comfortable telling her.

NowDNAtoo

I did not tell my principal, but I did tell my assistant principal (who knows if she told the principal everything).  Being a teacher it was hard to be out for the short time frames when kids are there and you need coverage.  Plus, she knew we were TTC and having difficulties.  We talk a bit and I consider her a friend.

ougrad1

I did tell my boss just because of that reason.  She was awesom although, I know some bosses aren't as supportive.  You can always tell her everything is alright but you have some medical issues that you'll need to be taking a "long lunch" for from time to time and you just wanted her to know what was going on.

QE2

Its hard to say how people will react. DH told his boss so when it came time for the last minute IVF transfers, DH boss was very understanding about him missing work with little notice. Sometimes people are a little more understanding when they're informed.

CharBart

I've personally told my boss what is going on...she has no clue about IF and finds all the stuff I'm having done fascinating, so I guess that helps.  I told her because I wanted them to know where my priorites are right now and she has a child so she understands.  I do think if I wasn't that close or comfortable with my boss I would go the "doctor test" route.

panda246

I would definitely let her know why you're taking some time off, but if you're uncomfortable I would just disclose the "doctor appointment".

Everything you and your husband have to go through is stressful enough.  No sense stressing over telling your boss details she really doesn't need to know. 

FrannyS

I would say something. I'd tell her if you are comfortable.  If not, I would tell her you have a medical condition that requires you to do lots of testing.

My boss knows everything but she is around my age and went through IF too and M/C too.

fess2

I agree with NewMrs07. ?I would tell, but leave out some of the details until you feel you are comfortable enough to open up.

My personal pros/cons:?

When I got pregnant, ?I told my boss immediately. ?He was very supportive, but he stressed me out with ?his questions regarding decisions for my ?future with the company. Although I still planned to work I still had a lot to figure out. Work one less day...half days..work a different position in the company...That was enough stress in and of itself. I didn't need his own personal timeline to affect mine. ?

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If you do tell your boss right away, you may see a compassionate side to her and this may lead to a better and more open relationship......

?Unfortunately, I miscarried early on in the pregnancy. ?My boss was very supportive of my situation then ?and now as I struggle to conceive again. He is being very flexible in my schedule. (my husband works out of town and I get time off without penalty when I visit him) That was a big surprise!! ?It showed he valued me as employee and wanted to retain me after the baby was born. ?Although I did not need the reassurance, it was welcomed.

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You just have to do your best to gauge her personality.

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Hope this helped.

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