Retired In-Laws are "so busy."

skittles_123

The exact quote we heard last night was from my mil, "we hardly ever get to sit down and relax before 10:30 pm because we are so busy."

Busy doing what? MIL teaches a few piano students, but that is it. Do you ever hear us complain about being busy. I am a working mom of two children, one of which has autism. So basically running/organizing his weekly therapy program (he is in therapy 16 hours a week) and coordinating who takes him where each day, most often me, and coordinating my work schedule around everything, and dealing with all the insurance issues for his therapy, is a part-time job in itself.

Plus, all the regular responsibilities at home. . .I mean, seriously, she doesn't get it. Sorry, vent over for the day.

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i think being "busy" is relative.  When i was one of the few single/childless women left in my group of friends I was really offended if my friends assumed I had tons of time to do stuff - just b/c I wasn't married and didn't have kids.

Just b/c someone doesn't work/have kids, etc - doesn't mean they don't have their schedule filled.... and sometimes part of that schedule is "relaxing time", too - esp if you are retired- you earned that, IMO.

Yeah- if you put your day up against her I'm sure anyone would say that YOU are crazy busy compared to her- but that doesn't mean she doesn't feel really busy, too, ya know?

bstngrl578

Not sure why you are so up in arms about this?!?! Is it because they don't have time to see your LO's. My grandparents are retired and I can honestly say that they stay busy all.the.time. Sure, it is not the same as a working Mom with two kids type of busy, but it is still busy.

skittles_123

Oh, there is a history with my in-laws that I could go into, but I won't as it would take way to long. . .it was just a vent. I am better now.

noonecarewhoiam

I hear ya, sistah! My Mom always makes comments about being busy--or worse yet, making demands on ME--not stopping to think about how she comes off. But some people have to have everything be about them, KWIM?

Busy is relative--and for working mommies, sometimes it means "no time to eat or pee."

annette&gordon

Definitely busy is relative! ?My FIL is "so busy" and complains a lot about walking the 3 blocks to the mailbox every day!

LMHCnewlywed

I hear you! Do they always try to "one up" you like they are busier, more stressed etc.

Reminds me of my friend who tried to compare taking care of a dog to having a baby/toddler! Sorry not the same!