And the baby name drama begins...

liljooly

So, my Husband and I announce to everyone that we are due in February... and after all the excitement dies down, we mention that we love the name Truman if it's a boy.  And my MIL makes a face and laughs (in front of my parents as well) and says "hmm... well I will love the baby no matter what you name it."

I don't expect everyone to love our child's name, but come on!  My Husband apologized for her comment, but it still hurt my feelings.  Am I overreacting? 

 

bostonjen

Yes.  You are overreacting.  If you don't want people to give you opinions about the name, I would suggest not sharing your thoughts with them.    If they ask, just tell them you havn't decided yet or that you're keeping it a surprise.  Not everyone is going to like the name you choose and some people are more tactful than others.

LVila

Be ready for comments on EVERYTHING.

Brooke208

Get used to comments if you plan on giving away name choices.  It goes with the territory.  We all have different tastes so some people are going to love a name while others can't stand it.  Don't let it bother you.

That said, I've never heard Truman mentioned for a baby name before so maybe it will just take your MIL time to adjust.  You especially have to expect odd reactions when you're using a very unique or different name.

gibs

You are going to get a lot of critical responses to the name Truman, since it's horrible.

AllThatGlitters101

Don't tell family the baby's name until it's been born and the birth certificate is done.

naturelle25

dont tell anyone the name! avoid the drama. we didnt tell anyone and are really happy we didnt.

erinms

No one has to like your name but you. ?MILs are notorious for comments like that (and they will probably only get worse after you have the baby!).?

FWIW- I LOVE the name Truman.?

gjkhjr01

We told everyone our babys name and half liked it, the other half still want us to change it and DD is almost 3 months old

courtneyandandrew

I think I may wait until the baby is born to announce her name just for that very reason...

PunkyBooster

You are 9 weeks pregnant- chill out and don't share your name with people if you can't take any heat. Mothers are the most critical when it comes to baby names. Neither mine nor MIL will know ours until after baby is born.

berry25

Here's the thing. You are naming your baby Truman.  Which actually IMO is kind of cute, but come on!  You'd better prepare for a LOT of comments with an unusual name like that.  If you can't take it now, maybe you'd better rethink your choice.  Otherwise shake it off, and figure out how to teach your son to shake it off as well.  You can't expect to use an unusual name and be all sensitive when people make comments...I'm not excusing those people, of course, but you'd just better get used to it.

GettinNervous

Your MIL is rude. If it comes up again, remind her how she said she will love the baby and then smile at your name choice.

Brownie_222

I would be hurt if my MIL said that.  I'm sorry she reacted negatively!  We aren't sharing our baby's name with anyone (well, we've told one person), but other than that the name's top secret.  Personally, I really like Truman.  GL!

EastCoastBride

berry25:

Here's the thing. You are naming your baby Truman.  Which actually IMO is kind of cute, but come on!  You'd better prepare for a LOT of comments with an unusual name like that.  If you can't take it now, maybe you'd better rethink your choice.  Otherwise shake it off, and figure out how to teach your son to shake it off as well.  You can't expect to use an unusual name and be all sensitive when people make comments...I'm not excusing those people, of course, but you'd just better get used to it.

Ditto this.  My MIL had a very negative reaction to the name we picked.  EVen AFTER DS was born!  But..... whatever.  Her issue, not ours. 

Yes, she was rude (as I felt my MIL was too) - but people tend to be very vocal about their opinions about baby names.  So either stop sharing or get a thicker skin

shanBmcg

I think it's okay that your feelings were hurt. You were excited about sharing a name that you loved and it was shot down by a person who is going to be a big part of your child's life (no matter how rude her comment).

As already said by others, when it comes to baby names you're going to have to grow a thicker skin. Once you start announcing baby names the onslought of criticism begins. But I think it can be quite amusing, once you've picked a name you absolutely love and aren't going to change, and you can just listen to the criticism knowing they are wasting their breath!!

heatherlane

LVila:

Be ready for comments on EVERYTHING.

This...it only gets worse, and becomes about everything...whether or not the baby will sleep in the room, what he'll wear home from the hospital, who will be in the delivery room with you, etc. Esp. from grandparents! Try to keep in mind that it's only their way of showing how excited they are to have a grandbaby.

We are keeping our name secret, b/c we have shared everything else with family and wanted something for ourselves. It drives my mom and MIL crazy, but deep down they understand our reasons.

And for the record...I LOVE the name Truman...it's on our list of middle names.

EmmieB

While I agree that you should be ready for comments on everything...and I've gotten them (my MIL and your MIL would get along GREAT)

You said "I love this name" and she laughed in your face. Had that been my MIL. she would have been wearing my drink. Because that's rude. Beyond Rude. 

And I'm going to disagree with almost everyone else. 

Share your name choices, share your plans. Once you're settled on a name, you're welcome to do what I do. Say "We've chosen a name. Start learning to love it. It's Truman." Because it's not her choice. As grandparent her ONLY role is to be loving and supportive. And the longer she has for something to settle in:  like if you find out it's a boy and tell her "It's a boy! Truman will be born Feb whatever" and then only refer to him as Truman - she can get accustomed to the name and before you know it, she'll love it.

But right now. What a HAG. Seriously. She would have been wearing my drink. That was So Rude.

wheelenl

LVila:

Be ready for comments on EVERYTHING.

Ditto this. If your MIL is already like that, just wait as the baby preparations, let alone the actual baby care begins.  This is only the beginning.

tct1219

my friend is having a girl next month and they're naming her nixon. we were getting pedicures the other day and an older lady asked her and when she told her the name she just made a face like she hated it and walked away.

don't tell people your names if you can't take their criticism, it will just stress you out.

cdngirl82

Exact same thing happened to me, except that my MIL is even less diplomatic and said "is that the best name you could think of?" A few days later, she was still going on about it to my DH. So I wrote her an email saying that because of this we would not be sharing baby name choices with anyone until after the baby is born.

Some MIL's just don't know how to shut their gobs.

userdeleted

You're not overreacting. Yes, it happens all the time, but the comment was b!tchy. I agree with the pp that said it's better to just not share name ideas. Some people will never get over the idea that their opinion matters.

EMTX

Yes, that was rude, but it's going to happen... especially with a 'different' name like Truman.

Truman Capote is what I thought of first, by the way...

lisa5201

Sorry, but you are totally overreacting

 Yes it's rude, yes it's annoying, but you brought it up.

If your friend picked a name that you thought was truly heinous, you'd be a pretty bad friend if you didn't tell her you though it was terrible

Your MIL is entitled to her opinion, and she told you pretty honestly what she thought. I thought her reaction was pretty tame compared to other's I've seen on this board!

Truman is going to get comments. Go with Michael, David or Joseph if you don't want to hear it.  

 

liljooly

I guess if I had asked "What do you think of ..." then I would've expected the comments.  But we were all celebrating and congratulating the pregnancy announcement, and the comment just caught me off guard.  I'm super new at this but learning quickly!  Either way, we love the name and that's all that matters