Back from 1st RE appointment......LONG

bklynbridecesh

Wow.......a lot of stuff to digest....I kind of felt like I was in a very well organized assembly line.  Anyway, I went with DH and DD, but no one told us of their "no children under 14 years old allowed in clinical area policy".  So I went in by myself : (  I told the doctor that my DH was here but we didn't know about the no kids policy.  He was like, "well live and learn", not obnoxiously, but I felt that he could have either made an exception, or asked me if I wanted to re-schedule.  I was very overwhelmed even though I took notes.  I don't know how I feel about the doctor yet.  He was a bit sarcastic when he found out that DD's name was Brooklyn....I was put off by that as well.  Otherwise, he seems to know his stuff, comes highly recommended, and the clinic is very efficiently run.  Maybe I was just sensitive.... but still.  They drew blood from me, and ultrasound shows I have lots of eggs and my uterus looks fine....YAY!  Poor DD was crying in the waiting room for her mama while frazzled DH waited and waited for me.  I was then shuffled off to billing where they explained what was covered under my insurance, collected $, etc.  Then DH went in for bloodwork when I came out, and I watched DD.  When I informed DH he had to provide another SA he was not happy, but oh well. He made an appointment for SA Sunday and asked for the cups so he could do it at home....LOL.   I opted to not do the HSG today.  I want to find out results of all other tests first, and who knows...I'm in the 2WW now......(fingers crossed.....) I leave for vacation on the 13th.  Hopefully if AF shows, she'll come before we leave, and I can do cycle day 2,3, 4 blood work before our next apt.  Now I am anxious about finding child care for the next visit in August.  Sounds stupid, but we don't have any family or friends near us and DD has never been away both of us.  This is what is stressing me out the most believe it or not.   

GymDogFran

Sorry the appointment was stressful!  Thanks for sharing the details.  I am going next week and very eager to find out what is going to happen.  Good luck with the 2ww and maybe you won't need the HSG!

NowDNAtoo

Sorry to hear you felt a little frazzled, but I completely understand about the DD thing.  I had to take DS with me to my last RE appt. which was just a consult and I felt a little like I was getting the side eye.  I have family in the area, but honestly none of them knew that we had help from the RE to get pg and I really don't want them to know.  I guess I will have to find someone though next month when we do the IUI.  I really don't think they'll want him in the room with us and I don't really either.

baze2

I am sorry that your appt was stressful..I don't understand the no kid thing...Maybe you could find a friend to watch dd for the next visit...easier said then done huh?

ToshaGirl

Too bad it wasn't a great experience, given you are in the 2ww cross your fingers you won't need to go back

shyntrue

I was reading about this in the book "A Few Good Eggs".  They said that other women who don't have any children and are having problems don't need to see children in the office when they are trying so hard to have their first....

Dochas

shyntrue:

I was reading about this in the book "A Few Good Eggs".  They said that other women who don't have any children and are having problems don't need to see children in the office when they are trying so hard to have their first....

 I can definitely see how that could be true.

joyfulnature

Oh, how I know that overwhelmed feeling!

Sorry your doctor sounds like a bit of a poop, but if you can put up with it, and he knows his stuff...hey, that's all you need.

 Good for you on the lots of eggs!

And may AF stay away, so you can skip the HSG all together.

FrannyS

Dochas:

shyntrue:

I was reading about this in the book "A Few Good Eggs".  They said that other women who don't have any children and are having problems don't need to see children in the office when they are trying so hard to have their first....

 I can definitely see how that could be true.

 

Me too.  

Dr. doesn't sound too good.  I had to switch REs because I didn't like the way the first one treated me.  Second RE is so much kinder and responsive.

MDBeachbride

Sorry you didn't have the appointment you expected.  As you said, it was a lot of information to collect on your own and that's probably why they don't allow children in the exam rooms.  I know I can't fully concentrate when I have to watch my child, even with the help of a spouse.  I just booked my appt for later this month and they didn't mention anything to me about not bringing my DS but fortunately we already planned for MIL to babysit. 

 

Good luck with this cycle...maybe you won't have to go back. 

bklynbridecesh

shyntrue:

I was reading about this in the book "A Few Good Eggs".  They said that other women who don't have any children and are having problems don't need to see children in the office when they are trying so hard to have their first....

The sign on the clinical area door said "Due to insurance reasons no children under 14 allowed."  I guess they have a point since a toddler could be a hazard.  I just wish someone had told me before coming in.  You are probably right about others though, and I understand.  Usually we get a very warm response even from strangers.  No one smiled or made a peep at us. 

Lucky&Lola

I'd offer to keep DD for you in a heartbeat if you were closer!  I'm sorry that didn't go as smoothly as you'd have liked it to.  Those appts are already stressful enough on their own without the DD thing.  Hopefully you get your BFP this month and you won't have to worry about it again!

MDBeachbride

I just got my paperwork from the RE and it is on it's own glossy flyer about no children.  They say other women/husbands are too sensitive.  I guess I wouldn't have thought that way BUT I know that when I use to post on the m/c boards I asked if my son's siggy pic bothered people. 

indianasunshine

So sorry that was so stressful!  I can't stand doctors (or office staff) that are rude!  I work in customer service, and I know I would lose my job if I made a sarcastic comment about someone's child's name.  Completely uncalled for!  I hope things progress smoothly, and this guy doesn't get much of your time or money!  

Dochas

My husband didn't come to every appointment so you might be able to go alone (if you think you can).  But I feel it's really important to be comfortable with the doctor and staff.  So if you still feel something is off at your next appointment you might consider a consult with another dr.  But it could have been your nerves that made everything seem weird.  I hope the next one is different for you.