How do I say nicely I don't want you watching my DD? Re IL's

irishprincess46

My IL's are BSC. My MIL gets mad if someone tells her that my daughter looks like me and my FIL is so hung on my little ones looks as in photoshops the pics we give him and told her how did you get so cute look at  your parents. Thats part of the reason I don't went them to put hateful ideas about me in her head. Also they are not big on safety at all and have guns all over the house. How do you tell someone that you do not want your kid to be alone with them ever?

exhausted_bride

Act like you never go anywhere. I have a friend that's always offering but there is no way in helll I would leave her with my baby. She always offers and I just say "oh, thanks, we'll keep that in mind...."

smfinallymg

"I don't want you watching my daughter."

meggiekins

I wouldn't tell them necessarily, I just would never give them the opportunity. Have another sitter lined up before you tell them about plans, etc. And when they ask directly, I would let DH handle it if possible, and if not, then I would just be honest.

The guns would be a deal breaker for me unless they were properly stored and locked. Without more details, the other stuff sounds a little petty. But it all depends on how and in what context its being said/done.

jess1984

If you want to be nice... first posters

If you want them to back the eff down on belittling you to your dd, second posters anwser...

Good luck.

I personally would say, um that's ok, Billy bob down the street wants baby sitting experience and such... May make them wonder why you would trust a new babysitter rather then them...

missfire

First make sure you and DH are on the same page with it -- or at least find some kind of compromise. Then communicate it one situation at a time, honestly but also tactfully if possible.

I'm dealing with this too -- I'm still working on getting DH totally on board with it. He is mostly worried that he is going to cause big family drama. So I'm resigned to being the one who will have to break the bad news when needed, just to help save his relationship with his parents. But I know he and I need to be agreed on it or it will be a losing battle.