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DD was bit at daycare bad
DD was bit at daycare. Normally I am understanding about certain things...toddlers bite sometimes I get that. But she was bit on two occasions today. Once on her left arm, an obvious bite mark. And FOUR times on her right arm. Four distinct chomp marks.
I am livid. I've spoken to the director and will issue a formal complaint but am not sure if I can do anything else about this.
One bite..okay it happens. But FOUR? The biter shouldn't have made it past one chomp mark without a provider stepping in. This screams negligence to me and I have let the director know exactly how I feel.
What else can I do about this?
DH wants to hire an attorney and he wanted to call the cops..... Now he MAY be overreacting...but I'm so pissed about it he's sounding logical at this point.
Oh. And DD is fine. Playing and jabbering away like normal.
Left arm:
Right arm:
under:
Any advice is appreciated.
The kid is being moved to the next room, but that does little to make me feel better.
DD#1 is such a big girl!
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Re: DD was bit at daycare bad
Honestly, I was shaking so bad when they told me that I couldn't even think clearly enough to ask the proper questions. I waited until I got home to call the director. I was on the phone when DH saw the marks and needless to say his cussing tyrade was enough for her to really get how upset we are. I plan on putting something in writing and speaking with her again tomorrow.
She did not call me when it happened.
She assured me that they had proper supervision. Which is bullshit because I KNOW DD cried after that first chomp. Someone should have stepped in right then. I highly doubt that a biter can get four bites out simultaneously.
We spoke earlier, but this statement completely speaks to what I told/read to you - there is OBVIOUS neglect on the part of the daycare provider that needs to be remedied immediately. After seeing those pictures that is crystal clear neglect and OMG if that happened to Tessa it would have been holy hell on earth for those people.
I don't blame your DH for wanting to contact an attorney just to explore your options; one thing that could possibly be done is drafting a letter stating that the offending child (who has bitten OTHER children) MUST BE kicked out of the day care facility or further legal action will be taken. After seeing those pictures I would think you may have merit in a neglect proceeding.
Now I'm all mad again - poor sweet Addybear.
That is not good. Were they hoping the marks would go away before you picked her up?
The under picture is clearly a defensive wound and IF there had been "adequate supervision" there would not be FOUR bites on your child. That's a load of effing bullshit right there.
In your complaint I would make it VERY CLEAR that you MUST be called when this sort of thing happens, as should the other parent so that you can meet with them too. This is not something to be swept under the rug, and it sure sounds like the director is trying to.
One i totally agree with Creamy, i do not think your DH is overreacting, i know my DH would be out for blood too.
Also, i agree with avz, i don't think it's enough to kick the kid out of daycare. If ike got hurt while i was away from him accident or what have you, i would expect a phone call immediately! The fact that they did not call you when it happened sends up huge red flags to me.
Ugh, i just wanna cuddle Addy, poor sweetpea
Yeah, I agree about the director wanting to sweep it under the rug. Good point about the defensive wound. I missed that perspective.
We are switching daycares but that is still over a month away. Should I also request action against the worker?
I'm still livid and shaking.
Exactly. I responded on 12-24, but I would be homocidal Lizzy. I would have totally spun into orbit.
Those bites look awful. Poor Addy.
You report to 1-800-252-5400 (all types of abuse.... adult protective services, child protective services, and child care licensing).
I'm drafting a letter now and am going to contact the director of our new facility tomorrow to see if maybe we can transfer her to the sister facility as soon as possible until the new facility is open.
I am not sure if we should contact a lawyer? But filing a complaint online would certainly help other parents look at this facility.
It's sad, because the first two rooms I LOVED her teachers. LOVED them and I knew that Addy was not neglected there. They would not of allowed this to happen. The first time she was bit two weeks ago, her old teachers came in and took her back to their room for the day.
I asked DH what he would do if this was our DS. He said he knows that little ones bite and it will sometimes happen. He stated it was unacceptable if DS was to come home with bite marks like your DD.
Your daycare is trying to sweep this under the rug. It doesn't matter that the child will be moved to the next room because he/she will have their next victims there. There is a supervision issue going on in your DD classroom. There is no way she didn't scream like crazy after being bite 5 times. It is also unacceptable that they didn't contact you after your child was bit. It is a good thing that you took pictures too. Who knows what else could or could not happen if this was allowed to happen.
I?m sorry. Those bites look pretty painful. I can understand why you?re livid. I would expect the daycare to take more action then simply moving the offender to another room. How do you know that he/she hasn?t done this before?
I agree with the others who said this should definitely be reported.
If you know someone or have one on retainer it might be a good idea to get his or her thoughts on the matter. I think transferring her to the sister facility in the interim is a good idea, especially if this is not the first biting occurrence. My daycare won't stand for it - when I came in yesterday to pick up T the director was telling a parent that she could not bring her son back because of his biting, and I distinctly heard "You were warned at the first occurrence and he has bitten again. He cannot return to our facility." I didn't lurk to hear the parent's reaction but I sure felt better about who was caring for my girl. Addy, and you, do not deserve this kind of treatment.
OMG! I can not believe this I am so upset for you right now!!!!
I can tell you without a doubt if Keanan came home with bites like that DH would not let him go back the next day. That screams neglect in that room. There is no way the teachers were watching these children like they should.
I agree with everyone else definitely get this documented other Parents should know about this. Also did you get a parents handbook? I know in the handbook it mentions problem children getting removed from the school. This child being moved to the next room does not solve any problems at all.
Ugh Eric saw the pictures and he is now mad as well...
Poor baby, I have no real advice just wanted to say how sorry I am that it happened. Drew starts daycare next week and I am terrified. I am glad to hear she is in good spirits right now though. I'd definitely take some sort of action against them.
Wow, I have never seen anything like that. I am so sorry that happened to your daughter. I have no advice as I have never seen or heard a story like that before.