DH is ready to throw in the towel

Addicted2thenot

Yesterday was a rough day for me as far as recovery goes.

I know my husband was just trying to say the right thing, but I just cannot believe that he is ready to give up after 5 months of trying. I feel the exact opposite, with every loss I want it more! ?

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Here is what he said

" Do you still want to try for another baby, maybe we should just be happy with our one child" ?He was met by silence, so he just kept talking?

"I just do not want you to have to endure any more pain or feel bad for so long" ?I said "Well you know Eric the next pregnancy does not have to end badly, Maybe the third time is a charm."

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He then said that we did not expect the last two to end badly. :O(

I am touched that he is worried about me & I know the Dr gave him a scary speach about how lucky we were to be there the day we discovered the ectopic. I hope that he comes around with time.?

Anyone elses husband react this way?

attyalice

Alex has been registering for adoption programs.

He worries.

I know he has faith we can work this out though... he just says it is hard to love the idea of having a baby more than the idea of me being safe. 

I tell him safe is not ok unless I am safe AND happy... i think I need to know we tried everything to be happy:)

jshay778

After this cycle, if we don't get our BFP and a sticky baby, I am giving up charting. I have changed a lot and he thinks that we are trying too hard. He thinks I am trying to bring it down to be scientific and its not like that. He knows I know about when I O and knows about CM so he wants me to just do that. If it doesnt work the first two months then he wants me to chart again. I understand where they are coming from.

 I think its hard for them to just see us this way. They know they can't do anything and its just a difficult situation. Good luck to you! I am hoping the third time is the charm too!

MsPeay

My DH has said that to me, the next day after I delivered our son, seeing me go through the pain of delivery and then getting really sick...he said he never wanted to go through that again and maybe we weren't suppose to be parents......

 On one side, when you go through something like what all of us have been through all we want is the baby back and the family we had planned of

 On the DH side, they saw for an instance ins some of our situations where we might be around and the thought of not having us as their partner in life is more scarry than not having a child....

Its a month exactly today of when I delivered, and my DH is okay with trying again, but just wants me/us to be safe, I am sure he will come around, he just doens't want the love of his life to get hurt...

 Good Luck, I hope you get everything you want and more

KateAndMark

I'm sorry your dh is feeling that way. I sure hope he comes around. Maybe he's just having a hard time dealing with this last loss. Big hug!

Addicted2thenot

MsPeay:

My DH has said that to me, the next day after I delivered our son, seeing me go through the pain of delivery and then getting really sick...he said he never wanted to go through that again and maybe we weren't suppose to be parents......

?On one side, when you go through something like what all of us have been through all we want is the baby back and the family we had planned of

?On the DH side, they saw for an instance ins some of our situations where we might be around and the thought of not having us as their partner in life is more scarry than not having a child....

Its a month exactly today of when I delivered, and my DH is okay with trying again, but just wants me/us to be safe, I am sure he will come around, he just doens't want the love of his life to get hurt...

?Good Luck, I hope you get everything you want and more

?I am sorry to hear about your loss. I appreciate you sharing your story/experience with me. ?I think you are right as far as DH's feelings.

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THANK YOU , it helps so much to gain perspective on my own experience through yours . ?