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bim38106
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Speaking of off-limits names... is this?
bim38106
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DH loves the name Jillian ever since hearing it on the Bachelorette (or Bachelor actually from last season..). We're having another girl and are having a tough time finding a name we both love. Jillian is DH's ONLY suggestion and I actually like it. My name choices we both like, but they're so popular that we're not sure we want to go w/ them (Emily, Alexis).. then there's Julie/a but as much as we like it, we're not sure it's really "us" and can't settle on it.
My hospital puts together a first-time mom's playgroup w/ kids born w/in 2-3 month of each other. You meet formally for 6 months, then can continue on your own. Our group started w/ 15 and there are now 10 of us who still meet twice a month. Of those 10, we're almost like 2 little groups. There are 6 of us who meet regularly and I consider good friends. The other 4 meet regularly together but I only see them at the scheduled playgroups and while I think of them as friends, they're not the kind I would just call up to meet for lunch or to talk...
One of those other 4 has a daughter DD's age named Jillian. So does that put the name off-limits? Part of me thinks it would be awkward (of course if we were 100% sure I would talk to her first) but part of me feels like I don't even see myself being long-term friends with her, unless something changes. Our DD's won't be in the same schools, etc.. WDYT? Put Jillian out of our minds, or still consider it and see where it goes? And if we do go w/ it, how would you even bring that up?
CP 3/07
BFP 5/07 - Kylie born 2/08. BPF 2/09 - Alexandra born 10/09.
TTC since 8/13 - diagnosed difficulty conceiving due to LP defect. Took vitamin B and Vitex Berry to help lengthen.
BFP 2/14 - Missed M/C found at 8.5 weeks. D&C at 9w2d. Partial Molar Pregnancy.
BFP 11/14
BFP 5/07 - Kylie born 2/08. BPF 2/09 - Alexandra born 10/09.
TTC since 8/13 - diagnosed difficulty conceiving due to LP defect. Took vitamin B and Vitex Berry to help lengthen.
BFP 2/14 - Missed M/C found at 8.5 weeks. D&C at 9w2d. Partial Molar Pregnancy.
BFP 11/14
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Re: Speaking of off-limits names... is this?
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
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Not off-limits at all. I'd just come out and say, "After tossing around names, we love Jillian the best. Does this bother you at all?" and go from there.
GL!
Ditto. I love the name Jillian!
This. I love the name and as other have said you will have your DD much longer than you'll be in the baby group. Honestly, you're going to run into kids over the years with the same name and it shouldn't affect your decision if you both really like the name. Go for it!
Agreed. It would be one thing if you were really good friends with her. But you aren't so no need to even bring it up!
I say decide if you want to use it, then have a convo with the other mom just to be respectful. But if your kids are never going to be in the same schools I wouldn't worry about using it, no big deal.
My DH just loves the name Jillian, it is on our short list along with Ava and Olivia.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I don't know if you'll like this but i heard the name Juliet at the park today and this little was so cute the name really suited her...But if you love the name of course you should use it, i think the whole name off -limits thing only applies when it's family or close friends.
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