baby names

texas77

so DH and i have talked about names on and off for a long time.  well his problem is that he says all the girl names that i come up with are "white girl names."   we already have the boy name figured out, that one was easy. 

anyone having a similar problem? 

xleslieraex

I think we have pretty good names picked out. We agree on 2 boy and 2 girl. It did take us awhile to et to this point though...

nemattox

DH and I had the opposite problem - we generally agree, but usually when discussing the names with other people, the feedback that we get is that they sound like "ethnic" names.  What I can't figure out is why that is a bad thing?!

Jacquiemark

DH wants to use a family name for a boy so I told him that I get free dibs for the girls name.  I pretty much picked out really nice Italian names. He seems okay with it.

krate24

My DH won't discuss names until I'm pg.  And even then, he really didn't want to talk about it until after we knew if we were having a boy or a girl.  But in general, we both kind of agree on names.  Although, I tend to like a lot more names than he does.

lovesinthehouse

We don't have quite the same problem.

However, DH says it's a family tradition to give sons the middle name of the grandfather's first name. (I swear his parents are the only ones that have done this and have never ever suggested we do that.) So, if DH's dad's name is Harold, he wants to give our son the middle name Harold. His dad's name isn't Harold, but it's something really awkward and totally NMS for a middle name especially. Ugh. And it doesn't work at all with my grandfather's name, which we want to give as a first name. 

eline0325

We agreed from the beginning on the girl name.  But he did not like the boy name that I liked.  It took us a while to agree, but we have one of each now.  Chelsea Eline for a girl.  Eline is my middle name.  And William Kenton for a boy.  William is my fathers name and Kenton is my husband and FIL's middle name along with my FIL's mothers maiden name.

myafoo

We've been good at agreeing on names, just not the spellings.  I hate when MIL chimes in with the names SHE thinks should work and then criticising all the names we come up with.  She needs to get used to the fact that we most likely are not going to name our kid(s) a traditional Polish name.

Anywho, that said, I can't help much more.  Being married into a Polish family, I'm sure any names we pick will all be "white people names".  LOL!

csquared425

We picked a girl name right away, and it took us forever to pick a boy name.  We're going to do Irish names.  

texas77

nemattox:

DH and I had the opposite problem - we generally agree, but usually when discussing the names with other people, the feedback that we get is that they sound like "ethnic" names.  What I can't figure out is why that is a bad thing?!

i agree, what's wrong with that?  oh and one of my fav names is Vanessa, which i fell in love with originally from the girl on the Cosby show, and ummm she wasn't white.  LOL.   

jen-dale

We have 2 girl names and 2 boy names picked out. They are what DH likes to refer to as "resume friendly" so I guess they could be called "white" but they are not super traditional, especially the girls names...and most of DHs family have pretty "resume friendly" names, so he is ok with it.

texas77

jen-dale:

We have 2 girl names and 2 boy names picked out. They are what DH likes to refer to as "resume friendly" so I guess they could be called "white" but they are not super traditional, especially the girls names...and most of DHs family have pretty "resume friendly" names, so he is ok with it.

resume friendly...that is hysterical! 

SLM05

We agreed on a girls name after much debate but never came up with any boys names we both liked.  DH comes up with all these off the wall names one day and then does not like them the next. 

eline0325

Oh, and H was adamant about wanting names that were not made fun of easily.  We know that kids are mean and that they will make fun of most anything.  But we both agreed that we wanted them to work for it.  Why make it easy. 

PeetiePie

eline0325:

Oh, and H was adamant about wanting names that were not made fun of easily.  We know that kids are mean and that they will make fun of most anything.  But we both agreed that we wanted them to work for it.  Why make it easy. 

 

My DH is the same way.  Almost every name I think of he finds a way to tease it!  When I was pg we agreed on the girls name, but no boys name or middle names yet. 

JenyM

we don't really discuss names. I have some names that I like. But by the time I actually give birth to a live baby, I'll either not like then anymore, or someone in my family will have picked it. So, I try not to get to hung up on them.

jen-dale

JenyM:

we don't really discuss names. I have some names that I like. But by the time I actually give birth to a live baby, I'll either not like then anymore, or someone in my family will have picked it. So, I try not to get to hung up on them.

I have lost several names due to family members popping out babies all the time. So far, the 4 I have are still safe! *crossing fingers* of course, when I have a live baby in my arms, we could end up changing our minds. Time will tell.

MsZoeB

I have always loved our girls name and DH has grown to like it too. The only reason that we pause to name our child that is the meaning. It means "dark one" and dh doesn't think that it is appropriate to name a bi-racial child the dark one!

I don't have a problem with it really. The other name we liked after seeing a movie was Grey for a girl. Again, not really well suited for a bi-racial child. 

blondie223

DH and I agreed on the boys name very quickly, we've known what we've wanted for years.  Now picking out a girls name was much harder, though now we have agreed on one.  Our first girls name we picked I really liked and both agreed on until I found out DH dated a girl with the name.  It wasn't a serious relationship, but I can't see naming my child with a name of someone he dated.  Am I wrong to be like that? 

dansgrl05

My Dh and I are in agreement about first names for both a girl and a boy, but it's the middle names that are challenging. If we had a boy we thought we might like to have our father's first names be our son's middle name but hyphenated since that what Dh's middle name is. But our father's names  are Anthony and Edwin and I just don't think that sounds right together. If we knew in advance that we were going to have only boys maybe we would cuz we could give each one a name rather than hyphenating it but since we can't perdict that I don't think we'll be naming our children after family members.

jen-dale

blondie223:

DH and I agreed on the boys name very quickly, we've known what we've wanted for years.  Now picking out a girls name was much harder, though now we have agreed on one.  Our first girls name we picked I really liked and both agreed on until I found out DH dated a girl with the name.  It wasn't a serious relationship, but I can't see naming my child with a name of someone he dated.  Am I wrong to be like that? 

I had to ditch one of my most favorite girl names because of DHs ex. grr.

crysbena

Ha DH and I have this discussion about appropriate names for our race... it's not a big deal it's just that certain names just don't sound right with our last name. 

DH is a third so the boy name is in the bag. I've tried to fight it but I just think it's a battle I'm not going to win.

For girls I'm all over the place.  I like Melia, Victoria (g-ma name), Isabelle, Alayna, Melyn.... I used to love Olivia but then the initials would be OB!  I also loved Julianna but a friend took it.  For some reason I really want a name that starts with an A???  I just like to write names with an A.

jen-dale

crysbena:

Ha DH and I have this discussion about appropriate names for our race... it's not a big deal it's just that certain names just don't sound right with our last name. 

DH is a third so the boy name is in the bag. I've tried to fight it but I just think it's a battle I'm not going to win.

For girls I'm all over the place.  I like Melia, Victoria (g-ma name), Isabelle, Alayna, Melyn.... I used to love Olivia but then the initials would be OB!  I also loved Julianna but a friend took it.  For some reason I really want a name that starts with an A???  I just like to write names with an A.

DH is a Jr and i keep asking him about a boy being III but he doesn't think he wants to do it. I think it would be so neat!

kristinem17

We did.  But we finally came to an agreement on a few.  DH felt that my favorite picks were "too American"... yeah yeah - whatever.  Since he is not American (from Croatia) he wanted something that his family could pronounce and that would also not scream USA.

soontobemrsvega

we had a girl name picked out with the first pg but hadnt agreed on a boy one yet when i mc. second pg we had a girl and a boy name picked out and then i mc.  i cant bring myself to "reuse" them.  we didnt do any tests to see what the babies were. it felt wrong to name them without know if they were a boy or a girl.  so the way i look at it is those names are already taken. 

amberdaz

DH's parents are from Mexico and although they've be in US for 40+ years they still have an accent and it's hard for them to pronounce some names - they can't even say my name right. Plus DH says a white name doesn't go well with our Spanish last name. And DH has a large family (8 kids) so there's already 20+ grand & great grandchildren so a lot of the spanish names I would consider are taken ... I told him we can be different.