My post-partum blues vent...

hunnybunny2021

I was finally starting to feel much better after feeling very down and out a couple weeks ago and no all of a sudden tonight I am feeling it again...

I am feeling very self-conscious lately about how clothes are fitting because everything either makes me look pregnant or fat... then tonight DH is playing his computer game and was talking to some girl on there and even though I know he is not cheating on me it really made me feel bad...

Also, lately I feel like all I do is work, take care of children and clean the house... so when we go places I feel like I have nothing to talk about besides my children and my job (which usually no one asks to hear too much about because I am a social worker for the mentally ill)... so then I feel boring and uninteresting which makes me feel bad... and I hardly have the energy to clean my house most days after taking care of the boys and working fulltime, so I feel like the worst mom ever as a result...

DH has hobbies that he gets to do on a regular basis and has friends nearby that he hangs out with and talks to.  I have a few close friends, however they live far away and I hardly get to talk to them anymore because of being so busy with work, children and housekeeping.  My one good friend who lives near is busy taking care of her newborn twins that were born at 24 weeks gestation.  I have many people who are casual friends, but no one that I really would talk to/hang out with on a regular basis.  So again I feel bad and really alone...

I am just having an all around crappy evening that I wish I could snap out of... thanks for listening...

loquita1

wow girly you sound like me a couple of weeks ago and to tell you the truth this is the first time I admit it! I just have all these people around me that never got it and as it is I wasn't able to bf and they are looking at me like I'm a bad mother! anyway we are here for you!

when you want to vent let us know and vent away...it helps a lot to do this after a good cry I feel much better...that and chocolate!!!!

tell DH you need two hours to yourself and take a good bubble bath or get out...a small breather is always nice!

 

good luck!

JLS0320

yup, I'm w/ you. It has actually gotten worse for me since returning to work a few wks ago, I'm going to my doc on Thurs. to discuss PPD. Although I took a few hrs to spend time w/ a friend this weekend and it felt great. You should get out and go shopping or see a movie. Even by yourself it can be uplifting!

librarianlisa

Hang in there.

DH went out with a friend tonight, and when he asked if I minded that he went, I broke into tears and sobbed about how I felt so out of touch with my friends. My bff moved to Chicago, and I've just been so consumed by first pregnancy and now motherhood that I feel like I've lost touch with everyone. 

I also understand what you mean by feeling boring. We went to a cookout at my friend's house on Saturday, and all I could talk about was LO and breastfeeding - totally uninteresting to my friends who have no kids. No one wants to hear about librarianship, and my hobbies ... reading? Woo hoo. And if I talked about the Bump they'd think I was insane. 

baylorflamingo

*e-HUGS* I know it is tough, but you really should try to find some time just for YOU. Start a hobby, meet new friends, get to know your acquaintances better, go help your friend with her twins. Anything that gets you out of the house, out of your routine, and (hopefully) out of any ruts you may be in.

And, fwiw, I think your being a social worker for the mentally ill is FABULOUS. What a noble, honorable calling...

hunnybunny2021

Thanks so much everyone... I really needed to hear that I am not alone/crazy for how I am feeling right now.   I really appreciate it! I will try your suggestions because I really can't stand to feel this way much longer...

Mrs_Stevens

I felt this way about a week ago. DH forced me to start blocking out an hour of time each week and honestly, it's helped so much for me. Today I went to the gym and it felt amazing just to be around people and talking about something other than the baby. Next week I plan on just going out shopping for myself.

 I agree with PP that you should at least start with a warm bath on your own. Taking time out for yourself is so important, we can get so wrapped in to our kids and what needs to be done, we forget that we're individuals as well and need our own space just like everyone else.

If anything, just know that you're not alone!!

 

 

 

nuttybunch

Bummer. I know the feeling (parts of it, anyway). I'm not back at work yet, so I literally have nothing to talk about except DS. And the gym, but who wants to hear about a recently pregnant woman's quest for weight loss?

I have only one hobby that I can think of. I love to cook. It's nice because I can do my hobby and still provide for the family. Well, only DH really because DS is too young. But it's like if I LOVED to do laundry or something. It's useful but I still have fun doing it.

Do you have anything like that? Maybe you could take up cooking or baking. If you cook dinner every night and make it something fun and interesting, maybe you'll have something to keep your spirits up even when you can't or don't want to go out.

erbear

You sound like me on a lot of days. Hang in there! Do you have family nearby?