first timers?

krif9@yahoo.com

I was just wondering if anyone was ttc for the first time and if so, why did you wait? Just curious.

 

I am 39 and am trying to have my first. I didn't meet my my hubby til I was 36 and we've been married for a year and a half, so I just got a late start myself.

shyntrue

I'm 41 & didn't meet my DH until a month before I turned 39.... I was going to start looking at donor sperm when I turned 39 if I hadn't met anyone.... 

So, DH & I got married last October & I got off BCP's after the honeymoon.  DH was convinced I would get pregnant the minute I went off.... HA HA!

So, now my cycles are finally regulating.  Here's hoping it happens soon!

Good Luck to you!

 

GBW

This is my first time trying also.  I started trying right after I turned 35.  It was just the "right" time for both me and DH.  We got married when we were almost 34 and we wanted to wait a year.

I'm now 37 -  and no baby yet... 

In hindsight, had I known then what I know now, I NEVER would have waited that whole year.  We had been together for many years prior to getting married and - silly me - I just "wanted to wait" because I thought it would be SO simple to get pregnant.  Well, it was on the first try, but then after having a m/c and no pregnancies since (unless by some miracle this is my lucky month - too early to POAS)... I just wish I would have gotten started much sooner.

92005bride

I am 35.  My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years.  Our problem was that he had a vasectomy with his ex after his last child was conceived.  We had to save up the money for the reversal which happened almost a month ago now.  This is the first cycle that we are ttc.  According to the OPK, the next 24 to 36 hours are our best bet!

ToshaGirl

I think quite a few of us are ttc #1.

I am 38, DH is 32. We've been married for 5 years. I was busy with career and just enjoying life for the most part. Wasn't really ready until now.

Such is life!

GymDogFran

I am ttc #1!  I just married DH a year ago.

FrannyS

Here's why...met DH at age 34, married at 35, didn't start TTC until 38.  Also, like someone said, in hindsight, I would not have waited. But I have to say this, neither of us were really ready until last year (I'm 39 now, TTC for over a year).

joyfulnature

First timer and late starter here, too. I'm 39, DH is 40.

We met when I was just about to turn 36. And got married a few months before I turned 37. We weren't ready to TTC until 6 months ago. 

baze2

First timer here too..

Reason for waiting:;;;;; my first dh passed away suddenly 6 months after my first marriage..didn't want to meet anyone for a while then met dh and married him. (4 years after first dh passed away..) We started ttc right after the honeymoon.

Sometimes life just gets in the way of our plans...

AnotherChance

I'm a first-timer, too.  I'll be 37 next month, and DH is 43.

DH and I have been together for 3 and a half years now, but only married for a little more than one year.  Our first year of marriage was spent fixing up two houses to sell, selling them, buying a new house and moving in...by the time we were done, it was almost our first anniversary.  We did a delayed honeymoon to Japan, and then started TTC. 

I would have loved to have gotten started earlier, but we didn't meet until later in life...so it is what it is.

panda246

DH (36) and I (39) have been married 12 years and quite honestly we just weren't ready until now.

Better late than never, I suppose.  I hope there's still time left!

itsmexine

Another first timer here.  DH and I got married in May 2008 and we wanted to just be married for a few months before TTC. So we started in December. I just met the right guy later in life. This will be his first too although he has 2 step kids that are 19 & 17.

calico39

I'm 39. I got married soon after I turned 36. We wanted to a full year of marriage under our belts before we started. I got sick with Graves Disease at 37-38, and then had to wait a bit after treatment with radioactive iodine.?

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I don't regret waiting the year after getting married. But being completely honest here, I do have regrets ?that we didn't get married sooner. We met when I was 30, and dated for five years before getting engaged.?

hollymichael

First time here too. I just turned 38 and DH is 37.  We met when I was 33 and dated for a few years before getting married last November. We started TTC in January.

CharBart

::raises hand::

We got married last Sept and started TTC on the honeymoon.  We are both 39 now.  Well, we were "reuinted" in 2007, he lived in ABQ and I lived in Columbus, OH, so we had a distance thing going on...took me about 6 months to find a job out here...moved out in Feb 2008, married in Sept 2008.  The only thing is that if we would have gotten together back when we were 22 (and he tried to date me, but I said no, we're just friends) I doubt it would have lasted. We both had to just wait till later in life to appreciate everything we have now.  Late bloomers I guess...but I couldn't imagine myself happier

ColoradoMelissa

Yep...we're TTC #1

We're both 35-married almost 4 years ago and started trying 11/08.  I often say I wish we'd started a year sooner, but the truth is we weren't ready.  I was all about my career that was both emotionally draining and really demanding of my time-I wasn't ready to give it up until recently.

Now, I try not to look back and re-think those decisions.  I'm really proud of the time I spent working the cases I did, and now, I'm ready to have my focus be "us."  I just hope "us" starts to get bigger soon! 

mscandyman

I just turned 37, DH is 36 and we are first timers.  Honestly, we waited because we wanted to be absolutely sure we wanted to be parents.  Yeah, it's taken more time than we thought it would to get pregnant, but I think it was definitely the right decision for us.  I don't know if we would have been mentally ready years ago.

kjpam

First timer as well.  I am 40 and my dh is 39.  We met in 2007 and married in April of this year.  We had intended to start ttc a year ago but my dad was terminally ill with cancer and that was of course our priority.  My dad passed away two weeks before christmas.  We started ttc in January.  We got pg in early February but lost our baby in late April.  So here we are again ttc. I pray that our dream to be parents will be realized ... I get very sad to think it may not happen for us. BUT I try to stay positive. 

krif9@yahoo.com

Thanks for answering. I loved reading all your stories! I don't know about all of you, but I am glad to know that I am not the only one who got a late start. I live in Ohio and just about everyone I know was married and having babies by the time they were 25. Of course it would have been nice to find the right man and get an early start, but it is what it is. And I have to say, I am glad I waited for him, because he's the only man I've ever even considered having a baby with.

 

Good luck to everyone. Let's hope none of us stay on the ttc boards for too long.