circumcision...

cardinals05

i totally regret letting my dh talk me into getting our son circumcised. i didn't want him to, i was worried sick about it, i cried when he was having it done and after- and i was pissed every single time i looked at it healing. it's so obvious to me that it's there for a reason and it's an unecessary process. it took me a long time to "get over it" and i still am pissed when i think about it- and mostly pissed at myself that i didn't say flat out no.

so we're going to have other kids- and likely another boy at some point. would it be incredibly dumb to not circumcise my other potential son? i know that they'd be comparing, etc. (which is why my dh wanted my ds to look like him)...but i cant stand the thought of it.

LucyPevensie

I would ask my DH right now if he and his brother ever compared their penises - but I know he'd look at me in horror and say "NO!" so I don't need to ask.  And FWIW - a little boy's penis looks NOTHING like his dad's anyway so that argument is ridiculous.

 Do what you think is right for your next son, if you have another son.  One of my sisters has 3 older circ'ed sons - and 2 younger intact sons.  It is not a problem.  No one compares penises.  All is well. 

cardinals05

you know how guys say they make fun of the uncircumcised dude in the locker room...this was my dh's defense. rediculous. i can't believe i let him do it- i'm just so mad at myself for it.

Brideofranken

I don't think there are a TON of moments of wang cross referencing in life...maaaaaybe a couple.

I do not get the whole dad and son matching weiners thing...it is weird to me.

we decided not to circ- my husband plans to tell our son ( if he asks when they compare weens) that when he was a baby, they performed unnecessary surgery on babies and that is why his is different.

pretty "cut" and dry, really.

also, I saw a similar post about this, and it seems lots of people have one circ'ed boy and one not. no big whoop.like I said- I am pretty sure that there isn't a WHOLE lot of time spent ween to ween comparing and contrasting.

I might be wrong, but my hubs backs me up. good enough.

minda31807

There is no reason medically if the boy is taught proper hygiene for the procedure.  That being said it has just become a norm in some areas to circumcise, so that the boys look the same as their fathers and the other boys in their gym classes. 

If you feel that strongly about it, say no next time and when they get old enough to ask the question of why they look different you can tell them your beliefs. 

LucyPevensie

And I just realized - my 39 year old circ'ed husband only found out 7 months ago that his own father is not circ'ed (we chose not to circ our little boy and when DH said something to his mom she replied "well, your dad's not circumcised.")

So there you go.  Never once, in 39 years, did DH compare his penis to his dad's.  He had NO IDEA, his whole life up until now, that they had different penis styles.  And um, yeah, that's a good thing.  Why would anyone know what their dad's freakin' penis looks like?  Jeezus.