how do i get over this?

DomerJenC

I chose my words (carefully, but poorly) and offended a couple people, who told me that.  I felt very badly and apologized, deleted the offending words, but I still feel bad that they may have a negative opinion of me now. 

How do you get over that?  i must be hormonal b/c i don't even like one of them and i'm all teary about it.

NDwife07

Is this IRL or online?

If it's IRL, I would apologize again and say that you know you've already expressed this, but that you just wanted to say one final time how sorry you are. And then (MUCH easier said than done), just commit to not thinking about it.

If it's online, I'd just forget about it. If you already said you were sorry, slowl ease back in to posting again or whatever the situation may be. Again, easier said than done.

In my experience, I had a situation many years ago where I hurt someone. It ate me up for literally a couple of years despite my sincerest apologizes. I finally committed to trying not to think about it - any time it popped into my head, I told myself to stop and think about something else. It took a while, but it worked.

Mrs.Ashley

no advice here, but I know that horrible feeling ... I hate it when people have a bad opinion of me. If it's due to a particular instance, the memory of it eats me up. 

I was moody one day and snubbed this guy in one of my college classes ... 2 years later we ended up being the only 2 domers working for the same company, taking the same grad school class. He didn't even remember the situation in class, but it ate me up so much, I brought it up and apologized! We then worked in the same group for 3 yrs of grad school and we're the best of friends.

Sorry for the tangent, but I know how you feel & it's a terrible feeling. I hope you're able to see over it and realize that you are not a mean person ... things just come out wrong sometimes.

DomerJenC

an irl person who read an older blog post.  i think i'll just apologize again and let it go.

mrs.melluvslogan

DomerJenC:

an irl person who read an older blog post.  i think i'll just apologize again and let it go.

That's about all you can do!  I know the feeling too, it sucks.  If the person is holding a grudge or doesn't forgive you, then that is their problem.  Try not to let it bug you.  I know that's easier said than done though!