Anyone else angry at being told no more babies?

mommyof4boys

I'm starting to got angry at the situation.  Granted 4 children should be more than plenty for most people, right?  I always had visions of tons of kids around and had hoped to have more than 4.  I had agreed to let DH have a vasectomy since the OB felt that I shouldn't have any more children.  I told him the other day that I regret letting him do it. 

The OB told me that they felt that I shouldn't have anymore considering I had HG, IC, PTL and HELLP syndrome.  Even with all of that I would do it again in a heartbeat.  Anyone else stupid like me and wish we could have more?

SBMBride406

I hope you saw my post below...I hope we're friends again!

I posted the other day about seeing a MFM before I TTC again. I feel like my dr is irrationally optimistic about me having another baby. Have you gotten a second opinion? I always wonder if I saw 10 drs, how many of them would agree with each other on the chances of me having another healthy pregnancy.

I'm hoping to have 1 more but I am cautious...I don't know if I could go through all this again. HELLP is so scary!

mcdev

Not angry exactly, but sad.

The funny thing is we've always said we would have only two. ?(And we have two beautiful girls) ?But for some reason being TOLD that there shouldn't be any more for us just hurts my heart and makes me wish we could have more. ?I feel so sad knowing Keira is going to be my last baby. ?I don't think anyone ever feels truly "done" though. ?I know ?I don't. ?:(

mommyof4boys

DH is also saying to me he'd want to be done anyway since we've had the developmental issues with Matthew and Christopher.  Me, obviously would want another one or two? 

I didn't consult with an MFM for the should I not have anymore kiddies thing.  I counsulted with one for the other health issues. 

I did tell the hubby that once I start back to work and we saved some money I would try to convince him to get his vasectomy reversed OR just to IVF since we did IVF with the twins.  He laughed.

BrainySmurfette

I wanted four, but I'm having to adjust to a downsized version of the family I wanted.  A second one is probably pushing my luck, but I still want more. 

jesh1111

I havent had this one yet but with all my complications friends and family keep asking if we are planning on just one now. MIL even said to DH I bet she wont want another one after all of this. But I still want 3 or 4, and there is no way I would just stop at one.

Clotho!

I haven't been told not to have more kids but dh and i made that decision based on all the trouble I had w/ both pregnancies. I wanted 4 kids and we have always talked about adopting so if we decide we want more kids then that is the way we will go. So I'm sad that I won't be pregnant again.

mrsjrmiller

Again, not angry - disappointed.... I am not sure how many I would have had if it was easy breezy, so to speak.... but I went ahead and confirmed that I wanted to get my tubes tied during my c-section.  If there is a desire to have more children, I can - I just will not be pregnant in order to get them.... But I think that we will be good with 2. My second has not been troublesome up to this point - but I cannot emotionally deal with another pregnancy.....