I have to vent about this.

emiliemadison

I had posted on another board about the irony in the timing of DH's vasectomy (tomorrow) because it is right as I'm starting fertility treatments for a donor egg cycle. Someone posted this and it just REALLY rubbed me the wrong way:

"I also want to know more details about how your egg donation goes. Even though I don't want kids it doesn't mean that there shouldn't be kids out there that look like me. I just don't want to raise them. I could be like a deadbeat mom (rather than a deadbeat dad.) I just donate some cells and let someone else do the rest. Of course, I have no idea if I would want to be anonymous or not. That's a toughie. I don't know how the kids would feel about a biological parent that wants no committment."

WTF? For real? Egg donors are "deadbeat parents" who just want someone out there who looks like them without the commitment? I was offended for myself as a donor, but quite offended for the parents who use donor eggs to get pregnant. This implies that the parents are just nice people who took over when the "bio parent decided they didnt want to be involved. That's called adoption (not that adoptive parents are "less" of parents either). I think it was the comment about wondering how the child would feel about a "biological parent that wants no commitment" that really rubbed me the wrong way. It's just so incredibly condescending and....snide? Ugh. The whole thing has an air of mocking.

 

Kersbear

Wow!  Just wow.  Very rude of her.

camrude

Um wow. She's a peach. Did you call her out?

co18co

Some people are true (_*_)holes.  Seriously.