How did you know you were done having kids?

almostjennifer

We have a boy and a girl and theoretically were going to be done after that.  BUT....when I think about being done, it makes me sort of sad.  BUT....on the bad days, I feel like one more kid might put me over the edge.

 So how do you know when you are done??

GettinNervous

I know I'm done, because I never have the feeling of wanting more. Actually, I knew we were done right after #2 was born. Horrendous C-section recovery, 2 in day care ($$$), and both not good sleepers. I've never even toyed with the idea of another one.

 I loved being PG, and I'll miss that part of it.

VivaAmore

I just knew when I got PG with this one. Despite having two great pregnancies I knew I did not want to go through all of this again in 2-3 years. I'm sure I may WANT another at some point but actually HAVING one is not something I think I'll ever be up for.

DH is already having a stroke about paying for 2 college degrees, 2 weddings, etc. 

KoriBrett

The day we found out I was pg with number two, we planned that if I had a repeat C, I'd get my tubes tied.  If vbac worked, DH would get snipped.  We both just knew immediately.

Brewster

i've never wanted more than 2

jorie

Hmm, I don't know but I hope someday I'll just having a feeling about it.  As harried as life is with 3 right now, I don't feel "done."  Don't get me wrong though-- if I never have another child, I will feel like the luckiest mother on earth.  I'm content and happy.  But I could entertain the idea of a 4th in the future. 

AnnapolisLari

Aside from the fact that 2 was what we agreed on before we got married, we knew.

I am 40 and DH is 48. I can not see myself having any kids after 40.

mikeandmonica

I knew we were done when I was so sick/miserable being pregnant BOTH times - I cannot go through that again, and I cannot put DH or the boys through it again.

Then having the epidural not work sealed the deal!

In all seriousness, we just couldn't afford our lifestyle with another kid, and we're happy with our lifestyle and that we don't struggle.  It sounds selfish sometimes, but that is how we feel.

UBMyBaby

Everyone keeps telling me that they definitely knew when they were done, and that if I don't know, I'm probably not.  Yikes!  Because I just am not sure.  We are content with 2, but I'm not ready to get rid of any baby stuff.  Yet not really ready to really entertain the idea of a third.

Time will tell I guess.  

marigolds

I've always known I just wanted one.  The whole time I was pregnant, I knew.  When dd was  2 or 3 months and she grew out of the first batch of baby clothes, I had no qualms about giving them away.  The same followed with the swing and baby bathtub....  I just knew I wouldn't be needing any of it again.