Am I a beoch, my MIL says no...

Lyssapee

DH picked out my engagment ring, and while i love it... it's not what I asked for and very delicate, so I don't wear it often...

My idea is... to keep the setting and put the stone of the month we got married in and put the diamond in a new setting.

MIL thinks that is wonderful, since she thuoght I would have been involved in the actual picking of the ring any way...

I really want a plain secure setting, that's it... I'm not going to change the dimond or anything.

So Beoch or not so beoch?

PS, my MIL is awesome and I adore her for many reasons, and this just add to my love for her!

StephanieBride1

Does DH care? I don't think that is biitchy if you are and he are in agreement.

Tim'sWifey

I vote no- that's not a beochy thing to do.  I changed my original engagement ring and love the one I have now even more.

mrs_b_2007

I personally would wear whatever DH picked out for me- to me that is what an engagement ring is all about.

I never hinted or picked out anything. I would also never think of altering my ring in any way. Just my opinion...

goofyteacher

not so beoch...atleast I hope not because i did the same thing.

crushandtang

Not at all my husband bought me an engagement ring I hated so he had to get me a different one. His family thought I was a beoch but I did not really care. There not wearing it I was!

Mrs.PeachyKeen

No - Do you have pictures?

aeg51107

I don't think so. It's not like you are saying you want a bigger/better diamond or anything (which is bitchy IMO) You just want a new setting so you will wear it more often.

 

Lyssapee

DH might be a littel sad, that's the only reason I'm thinking about not doing it.  I'm not going to do it now, I might wait a bit, but I would really love to wear my rings every day, but I worry because the setting is so high and it gets caught on the gloves I use, and I'm terrified it will come off or break.  I know too many nurses who love their diamond or even their entire ring.

I might just keep the similar setting and add some prongs so it's more secure.

goofyteacher

mrs_b_2007:

I personally would wear whatever DH picked out for me- to me that is what an engagement ring is all about.

I never hinted or picked out anything. I would also never think of altering my ring in any way. Just my opinion...

True, however, I have to wear it every single day for the rest of my life and I think it is only fair that I actually like it.  I wonder if you would be saying this if you didn't care for your engagement ring.

MrsS008

I would never have picked the ring DH got for me. But, he spent SO much time shopping and went to a bunch of different places and he was really proud of it. He did diamond research and knows how to locate the small flaw in mine (I still can't see it..).

I love it now. Mostly because it reminds me of how hard he worked to make me happy. That would be the only thing I wouldn't want to give up. 

 

Oh, and mine is 'tall' too, and gets caught on stuff (or scratches DH). It's is annoying sometimes.

mrs_b_2007

goofyteacher:

mrs_b_2007:

I personally would wear whatever DH picked out for me- to me that is what an engagement ring is all about.

I never hinted or picked out anything. I would also never think of altering my ring in any way. Just my opinion...

True, however, I have to wear it every single day for the rest of my life and I think it is only fair that I actually like it.  I wonder if you would be saying this if you didn't care for your engagement ring.

I guess I'm just not that hung up on it. It's a ring - it has meaning to me, and the meaning is more important than the "look" of it. (edit: not to say that you guys dont feel this way too, as I'm sure you all do)

I will say that it sounds like the OP was referencing more the fact that the setting is weird (gets caught on stuff, hard to wear with her job, etc.) which I think is totally different & I can see why she might want to change the setting. It's not like she wants more diamonds or something - which is what I am opposed to. (I've had a few friends do that because they didn't think it was "bling" enough for them immediately after getting engaged).

again, just my thoughts - not everyone has to feel this way. 

danlexi04

Not beochy at all. DH decided last minute that he was going to ask me on a specific day, the only setting the jewler could have done in time, for the stone DH had, was ugly. DH knew it was ugly but got it anyway so he could ask me on the specific day he wanted to. He and I immediatly designed the ring we wanted me to have and had it redone. And I think it's would be really nice to put the stone for the month you got married in, into the original setting....best of both worlds.

PIP of the ring please.

goofyteacher

mrs_b_2007:

goofyteacher:

mrs_b_2007:

I personally would wear whatever DH picked out for me- to me that is what an engagement ring is all about.

I never hinted or picked out anything. I would also never think of altering my ring in any way. Just my opinion...

True, however, I have to wear it every single day for the rest of my life and I think it is only fair that I actually like it.  I wonder if you would be saying this if you didn't care for your engagement ring.

I guess I'm just not that hung up on it. It's a ring - it has meaning to me, and the meaning is more important than the "look" of it. (edit: not to say that you guys dont feel this way too, as I'm sure you all do)

I will say that it sounds like the OP was referencing more the fact that the setting is weird (gets caught on stuff, hard to wear with her job, etc.) which I think is totally different & I can see why she might want to change the setting. It's not like she wants more diamonds or something - which is what I am opposed to. (I've had a few friends do that because they didn't think it was "bling" enough for them immediately after getting engaged).

again, just my thoughts - not everyone has to feel this way. 

I totally agree on the "needing more diamond" issues that seems shallow.  I had problems with my setting because I injured several children because of how high it was, so I switched out the setting and kept the same diamond.

fnkeefresh

There's nothing wrong with that.....would DH be more upset about this or if the diamond fell out of current setting and got lost?

Lyssapee

it's similar to this...

 

Mrs.PeachyKeen

Beautiful, but how is that delicate? If you think that is delicate you should see mine.  I have the thinnest diamond band I've ever seen, but I have really skinny fingers so it works. 

Either way,  as long as your DH is fine with it do what you want.  It doesn't sound like you are doing it to get a better, bigger ring, just a ring that is more 'you'.

 

 

Lyssapee

I feel like the center stone is too big for the setting... it kinds of sticks out and the prongs are streched to their limits.

That isnt' my exact ring... it's a smiliar one on the internet...

boxermama24

I think if you're the one wearing it forever, you should completely swoon over it and feel comfortable in it.  I am definitely a biitch then if you are, because I have upgraded my diamond from .75 carat to 1 carat and I've also added a second band for the other side.  I absolutely love my setting and my wedding band but it looks much more balanced with 2 bands.  The second band DH got for me for my graduation from college and it's engraved with "Class of 2007".  So I'm definitely all-for changing it up if that's what you're happy with!