If your DC goes to an in-home daycare/preschool...

CubbyMama

...are there other adults in the house, or older children of the daycare/preschool provider?  Would it make you uncomfortable if there were?

The in-home preschool/daycare I just started sending DD to is right here in our neighborhood, and the lady is licensed and came recommended by another mom I know.  She has a teenaged son, though, who was home when we visited, and when I picked DD up yesterday, she mentioned that her son is CPR certified, so when she has babies enrolled--which she doesn't now--it's legal for her to put them upstairs to nap if he's up there and she leaves a monitor on, but otherwise all the kids have to be downstairs in the family room/playroom where she is at all times. 

That seems good to me, but part of me is just a little paranoid about having a teenaged boy I don't know around my DD when I'm not there.  Would this bother you?  It didn't at first, but I've just been thinking more about it since yesterday.

Dougsgirl4ever

Yes, it would bother me too. 

SMHWife

My daycare provider has her mom living there and 3 kids.  The boys are 14, 8 and 5.  The 14 year old is a BIG help to my provider during the summer.  He helps with walks to the park, etc.  All of her kids are great with the day care kids.  Her mom does all the cooking for the lunches, etc.  Her mom is also licensed/registered.

It has never even phased me ONE bit that her kids are there or that her mom is there.  I think they are all a great help!

KoriBrett

DD & DS are at an in-home.  Her daughter lived there for a while and helped out, her son did also (and is back again now that college is done for the summer). 

I have no problem with this whatsoever - however I've also known their family for 15-20 years, the kids grew up with my little sister. 

JOEBunny

Why does it bother you?  Do you think he has some sort of problem? 

If I knew him and/or had good references for the lady and her daycare, It would not bother me.  DD loves my next door neighbors 18 year old son. and he is good with her.  There is a teenage boy who often babysits for a little girl with Autism at my local park.  I don't think he is any less reliable than my teenage girl sitter.  One of my good friends is male and the headmaster at a elementary/middle school. 

joseysbride

It doesn't bother me as long as I sort of know something about their family dynamic and the other members of the family who are around my daughter.  Since it is new for you, I think it's normal for you to feel that way considering you don't really know these people very well.

My dd's provider's husband is a teacher.  So right now, he is teaching summer school until noon, and then he is home the rest of the day interacting with the kids, doing things with them, etc.  I am more than fine with it because I have been around him enough to trust him.  And honestly, I love that my dd is in an environment where she sees healthy family interaction aside from what she sees at home.  Coming from a family of divorced parents, that is really important to me.  (They have two kids of their own who are involved because they are only 2.5 and 1.)

joseysbride

Also, another way I look at it is that is just another extra person there to give interaction to the kids, and that's always a positive thing (unless there is something wrong with the extra person's personality, beliefs in care giving, etc.).

mags2041

DS goes to an in-home DCP.  She has two teenaged daughters that help out during the summer.  Her husband also works an early shift and comes home at about 2p.  He interacts and helps out with the kids.  This does not bother me at all.

If she has a good reputation and her kid is CPR certified, then it wouldn't bother me at all.  That is, unless I got a weird vibe from the kid or something.
 

breezee_bean

it wouldn't bother me at all, unless I suspected that the teenager was somehow not trustworthy. 

mommy06

It would not bother me as long as long as I do nto get a bad vibe from the kid.  If you trust your provider and trust that she is doing what is best for your kid, then I would not be bothered by it. 

My sitter has her husband home all the time, they are an older couple and he helps out with the kids all the time.  He does not change diapers or change clothes, but he does play with the kids, feed them and sometimes cook for them.  She puts the babies to sleep in her room in pack n plays with a monitor. Follow your mommy gut, if you see something is wrong, then look into it.

Kelli

lucyfox

why would that bother you?

elm1032004

I think I would want to meet the teenager, esp if he is going to be in the house with the kids....

snickerdoodle27

My daycare has 3 older kids. One is her stepson who's a teen, and the other 2 are hers and are younger. The stepson isn't always there, but I've met him a few times and he's really nice. She never leaves anyone else in charge of the kids though.

dpdw

Like the pp's I woudln't be concerned with it unless the kids gave me a bad vibe.

 Our in-home provider has a college-age daughter, her DH & her mother all living in the house & they each help out occassionally in the daycare.  My kids love them all -- and I love that they are like our extended family.

Dougsgirl4ever

Tried the edit button but it didn't work.....Because he is not the one that has had all of the backgound info done on him (I assume) & who knows how he acts with the children.  In DD first in home daycare she had her teenage daughers there & one day when I went to pick her up she was in her bedroom (was there from 6-12 months) & the Mom said oh she has had her in her room the whole day.  I was not o.k. with it I thought it was weird. I pay the Mom not the Daughter to watch her.

dpdw

Dougsgirl4ever:

Tried the edit button but it didn't work.....Because he is not the one that has had all of the backgound info done on him (I assume) & who knows how he acts with the children.  In DD first in home daycare she had her teenage daughers there & one day when I went to pick her up she was in her bedroom (was there from 6-12 months) & the Mom said oh she has had her in her room the whole day.  I was not o.k. with it I thought it was weird. I pay the Mom not the Daughter to watch her.

You might want to check with your licensing board about the background checks -- in my area all people living in the house are subjected to the same background checks, not just the primary provider.