My doc vs. your doc

Ms_Loucel

So I am getting weekly appointments now and my doctor is in and out within minutes and doesn't talk to me about anything unless I have questions.  I feel like she should talk to me more.  I told her I was nervous and she just said yeah the baby will soon be here.  I asked her when I should go to the hospital and she just said when I start hurting.  Are all doctor's like this?  I feel like just a number.  Are men OB's better? 

emaria

no my doctor's awesome and very patient - she's a woman. ?i haven't had a male OB but i don't think bedside manner has much to do with whether your doctor is male or female. ?i'd say look into switching doctors although you're near the end now. ?maybe tell her how you feel?

water-fairy

I have a female OB and she is fab. She takes the time to chat with me. If I don't have anything to ask and she doesn't have anything to tell me then yes, she is in and out in minutes too, but I don't feel rushed or just a number.

penguingrrl

It sounds like your OB doesn't have a very good bedside manner.  I've had different OBs for my two pregnancies (moved out of state in between) and neither has blown off my questions like that.  And I don't think it's a male/female thing since both of my practices were female only.  I'm sorry your doctor isn't being very communicative.

nbillups1908

I was having this same probably in my 2nd trimester! I made the decision at my 20 week appointment that I would not be returning to her office ever again!

- She would ask me to review all the information that was in my chart which she had not reviewed. (I am a realist so I know she has other patients and probably wont remember everything, but give me a break)

- She took my fundal height without even telling me why or what she was doing or how it all works

- She was rambling through my chart mumbling about how stressful everything was.... (I was like hunh?)

I know you are probably to close to delivery to change, but I would definitely let her know how impersonal and aloof she seems to be towards you and your birth! I would explain although she does this everyday, this moment is a special one for you! I would try and outline to her what you feel like you need from now on that would help decrease your anxiety!

Good Lucck! By the way my new doc is a woman as well and I LOVE HER!

Aliliv

It's not a male or female thing.  At my last appointment my dr. stayed to chat with me for 45 minutes on my birth preferences (and then we also talked about diaper bags and mat. clothes - she's pregnant too).

yo.mama

My doctor was always happen to answer any questions I had, but questions like when to go to the hospital are covered in your basic birthing class.

Kflie83

I have a male Dr and he's the same way. I've had to tell him to wait and not leave the room on me a few times!!! I'm starting to see a different Dr in the same practice because he's really making me mad!

MILLER2K8

my dr. is male...but he's gay....

i absolutely LOVE him....he delivered my first, and my best friend's baby and now he will be delivering my 2nd.

he will stay in the room with me and answer whatever questions i have, or my husband has.

 

sounds like some dr's have too many patients and don't know how to handle them all.....