Am I the only one?

CourtneyRDH

When someone asks for opinions on whether you like or dislike a name. why do people always say, "I don't like it because I knew a mean person named that"? Not to be rude, but who cares if you didn't like a person named Samuel (or fill in the blank)?! The question is if it's a good name or not. When people ask that, I say if I like it or dislike it, not if I knew someone nice/mean named that. I also don't feel like names are ruined by someone I once knew years ago that was mean that had the same name I'm considering. Am I the only one who feels like this?

shanBmcg

A name can be completely ruined for me if I knew or know someone by that name who is an awful person. I've also asked my husband to veto any names I suggest that remind him of someone he disliked or dislikes. I don't want him to say our daughter's name and think of the major, stuck-up *** from high school. But that's just me.

I agree though that my knowing someone has no bearing on you and cannot persuade a person to like or dislike a name. I try to give my opinion based on whether or not it's a good name. 

You've got to come in here with a thicker skin. We don't all agree about names on here and all of our styles are influenced by our life experiences. It's great that names you like or dislike aren't influenced by people you know or knew, but that doesn't mean it's wrong for others to be influenced in this way.

CourtneyRDH

shanBmcg:

A name can be completely ruined for me if I knew or know someone by that name who is an awful person. I've also asked my husband to veto any names I suggest that remind him of someone he disliked or dislikes. I don't want him to say our daughter's name and think of the major, stuck-up *** from high school. But that's just me.

I agree though that my knowing someone has no bearing on you and cannot persuade a person to like or dislike a name. I try to give my opinion based on whether or not it's a good name.?

You've got to come in here with a thicker skin. We don't all agree about names on here and all of our styles are influenced by our life experiences. It's great that names you like or dislike aren't influenced by people you know or knew, but that doesn't mean it's wrong for others to be influenced in this way.

I'm not saying I'm offended that they don't like the name. I'm just saying that it's kinda dumb to say tell someone you don't like it because you knew a rude person with that name. It doesn't mean anything to me since there are thousands upon thousands of people named that name.?

DMDavidson

I know what you mean.

A bad association I have with a name would ruin the name for me, but the person who is asking doesn't have that association - so it doesn't really matter to them. They want to know if it's a good name in and of itself.

CourtneyRDH

DMDavidson:

I know what you mean.

A bad association I have with a name would ruin the name for me, but the person who is asking doesn't have that association - so it doesn't really matter to them. They want to know if it's a good name in and of itself.

Right. This is exactly what I'm trying to say.

carolinag

it just gives you negative connotations. why use a name that gives you a bad vibe? if the name wasn't ruined then it wasn't that big of a deal to you. 

shanBmcg

CourtneyRDH:

DMDavidson:

I know what you mean.

A bad association I have with a name would ruin the name for me, but the person who is asking doesn't have that association - so it doesn't really matter to them. They want to know if it's a good name in and of itself.

Right. This is exactly what I'm trying to say.

And is exactly what I said too if you carefully read the whole thing!

amy5162

DH and I went back and forth a lot about names that I liked that he hated because he went to school with so and so with that name and they were a slut or something weird like that.  I think people just don't want to think about a name since it can remind them of something bad/weird.

bananachiki

people saying they dont like a name because of what/who that name reminds them of is the same as saying NMS. it's an explaination for why it's not a name they like.

ask and ye shall recieve.

ttmccoot

bananachiki:

people saying they dont like a name because of what/who that name reminds them of is the same as saying NMS. it's an explaination for why it's not a name they like.

ask and ye shall recieve.

exactly this.

thatgirlang

Well, yes, names can be ruined for ME because of bad associations but I HATE when people use their associations here as an argument against a name idea. So dumb. If a name is perfectly fine and spelled properly, why do we care if your DH has a crazy ex with ___ name? That's a reason for YOU not to use it. LOL

thatgirlang

bananachiki:

people saying they dont like a name because of what/who that name reminds them of is the same as saying NMS. it's an explaination for why it's not a name they like.

ask and ye shall recieve.

Yeah but it depends on what's said- association posts can sound silly. Like I recently read "every Tyler I've ever known was really bad" or something like that... as if the bumpie who wants to name her son that will have a bad son, too. LOL

jsillyfun

Sometimes I've answered like this, but it is only to give an explanation. Because if I just said nms, it would sound like I'm saying it's a bad name. Instead, I'm trying to explain that for personal reasons, I simply can't be objective about the name. In other words, I don't like it, but it's for a dumb reason, so if you like it, use it!?

CourtneyRDH

thatgirlang:

I HATE when people use their associations here as an argument against a name idea. So dumb. If a name is perfectly fine and spelled properly, why do we care if your DH has a crazy ex with ___ name? That's a reason for YOU not to use it. LOL

Yep. So dumb.?

CourtneyRDH

jsillyfun:

Sometimes I've answered like this, but it is only to give an explanation. Because if I just said nms, it would sound like I'm saying it's a bad name. Instead, I'm trying to explain that for personal reasons, I simply can't be objective about the name. In other words, I don't like it, but it's for a dumb reason, so if you like it, use it!

Oh ok, I get that!?

squeakerabudhbabi

Actually, that doesn't bother me so much; I've started noticing that most of the time if I've had a bad experience with someone of a certain name, other people will have the same stories.  It's just strange. 

I think it's at least really interesting; because whether the name's "nice" or not, when your future child introduces him/herself with a name, the person hearing it will associate it (and most likely them) with their past experiences with people who have the same name.  It's not fair, but I think it's human nature.

So, long story short, no it doesn't bother me at all.

mrsc720

I usually only say that if I am giving a reason as to why the name is nms. For instance, I HATE the name Austin b/c of the association but would love the name otherwise so I sometimes vote for it, even though I would never use it. I can see where you are coming from though. Like when someone says, "Samuel is an awful name because my second cousin's best friend's sister had a dog named that and it bit me when I was 11." (exaggerated example obviously)