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PammyG08

Does anyone else here have friends who find it extremely hard to understand the emotional rollercoaster of TTC?

I feel like my RL friends (mainly those who dont have kids or never TTC'd) think that I'm just ultra sensitive and b!tchy for no good  reason. A few of them are taking it really personally no matter how hard I try to explain that sometimes I just really dont want to be bothered.

They think it's just an excuse and that I'm just not into being friends or not wanting to hang out with them.

My mind is preoccupied a lot of the time with TTC and Dh's low testosterone and my long cycles and drs appts, testing, b/w... then the monthly disappointment of AF. i try to not let it get the best of me and try to remain positive and get my head back inthe game but my friends make it especially difficult with their "it'll happen when it's meant to happen" type comments...

Rant over!  

Bcbscorp

My friends don't understand the concept of trying, they apparently all get pregnant on accident! I get all the relax comments, even still since no one knows we're pg and I get a lot of "hurry up and get KU already" comments.

I think it's really important to not let TTC take over your life but at the same time your friends need to understand its a priority for you. Think of it this way though, once you get KU you will need to make the effort to continue the friendships with a kid in tow, not a good idea to put them on rocky ground now.

Rory419

I definitely know what you mean! My friends are trying to be supportive but they keep not understanding how emotionally draining it is and how it is OK to be afraid and nervous!  They either A, don't understand why we are trying so soon (because medically it would be in our best interests to try sooner than later) or B, think that "it will happen when it is supposed to" or "if we really believe it will work and think good thoughts it will help," or "they are just sure it will work so stop worrying."

Clearly they do not understand crazy cycles and anovulation!  End rant 2 :-)

Mrs_Hamlin

I did not tell my friends.  I didn't want the questions and I didn't want them to think something was wrong with me... they all get pregnant by "accident" which makes no sense to me.  How does that really happen???  You know about the birds and bees.  There are only two - three days and a 20% chance each month.  I would like to think that you must be having regular unprotected sex and that you didn't just happen to "forget" contraceptive during the day of ovulation!  rant over.

Soon2BMrsAlfano

I totally agree! I JUST had this conversation with one of my RL friends!

After a serious let down (60 of no AF, just to start spotting hours before our dr. appt for bloodwork) she is telling me to "relax it will happen". I replied "if you tell me to relax one more time you will be throat punched, consider yourself warned."

ALL my girlfriends are single and trying to AVOID having a baby. I truly believe that unless you're in this, trying to get PG, experiencing the ups and downs you don't "get it". It's heartbreaking to see the divide, but it's there.

And the worst part is my best friend since childhood told me honestly that she doesn't want me to get PG - I won't be "fun" anymore - thaaaaaanks.

PammyG08

Soon2BMrsAlfano:

After a serious let down (60 of no AF, just to start spotting hours before our dr. appt for bloodwork) she is telling me to "relax it will happen". I replied "if you tell me to relax one more time you will be throat punched, consider yourself warned."

lmao

k-mart

Yeah - some just don't understand.

One friend tried to tell me it tooke her friend 7 months and another almost a year and then blah blah blah about how they used CBEFM and BAM! Her friend was pregnant. Then I wrote her a novel about what I knew and what she could do (they are starting to try "seriously" instead of letting things happen) and I got the email back that was like her jaw hit the floor. I guess I usually don't talk to many people about it, if a close friend asks, then I will answer their question, but I really don't offer anything to anyone. I just hate the response I get.