What if the guy wants to keep the baby and the woman does not?

camrude

(s/o Jodi's post)

If a woman gets pg and she does not want it, but the guy does - he has no rights. The woman can get an abortion and that's that. Do you think that is fair/right?

 

Jodi&Joe

No.  I don't think it's fair.  But in that situation, the man would have to have rights over the woman's body.  THAT is definitely NOT right!

KoriBrett

*points up at Jodi*  what the NKOTB hussy said.  lol

cbidt*sgirl

no, it isn't fair, but there is no way around it.  If she could hand over the pregnancy then fine - let him be pregnant and raise the baby, but since that isn't happening it is just too bad.  Life isn't fair.

camrude

I agree with not having rights over a woman's body. It just something that seems a little sad to me. Someone wanting a baby and having no say in the situation.

Littlejen22

I am with Jodi on that.  But, if the woman decides to give the baby up for adoption I think the man should be able to raise the baby and the woman should be able to give up rights.

Jodi&Joe

Littlejen22:

I am with Jodi on that.  But, if the woman decides to give the baby up for adoption I think the man should be able to raise the baby and the woman should be able to give up rights.

This is my point exactly!

The woman DOES have this option.  The man doesn't.

summerbrideDC

I feel for the guy; it sucks. ?But that's the way it is. ?Until men can gestate, they shouldnt' have a say in it.

dnagal

Well, if he DOESN'T want the baby, and she does, he really can't do anything about that either.  If fact, it's even LESS fair because he'll have to support the child as well. 

But I'm guessing there are a LOT more women out there bearing the responsibility of children from relationships with men who left, let them down, were a-holes in general, etc. than guys looking to prevent abortions, so you tell me what's fair.

camrude

dnagal:

Well, if he DOESN'T want the baby, and she does, he really can't do anything about that either.  If fact, it's even LESS fair because he'll have to support the child as well. 

But I'm guessing there are a LOT more women out there bearing the responsibility of children from relationships with men who left, let them down, were a-holes in general, etc. than guys looking to prevent abortions, so you tell me what's fair.

I'm not saying any of it's fair. It's been stated a few times that life is not fair.

Mrs.Provost

Fair? No.

But never ever should we even consider taking away the woman's right to make her own choices for her own body. I feel really badly for the men in that situation, but to me it's just not worth it to set a precedent for taking away a woman's reproductive rights. 

juniper19

dnagal:

Well, if he DOESN'T want the baby, and she does, he really can't do anything about that either.  If fact, it's even LESS fair because he'll have to support the child as well. 

Men shouldn't have sex if they aren't prepared for the potential consequences.

kittycarr

Not right at all but I've heard of cases where the father took the mother to court to try and order her to stay pregnant.  I do not know the outcomes though...

kittycarr

Jodi&Joe:

No.  I don't think it's fair.  But in that situation, the man would have to have rights over the woman's body.  THAT is definitely NOT right!

To me, it's no longer her body when the little being inside it belongs to not JUST her.  That shouldn't be the issue in these particular cases.

PoundCake

I don't think its fair.

We had a case like this in the county a few years ago.  He wanted the baby and she wanted an abortion.

In the end they ruled for the woman because its her body.

ToledoDeux

You can't argue with biology.  If there were some way for the man to take over gestating and birthing the baby, he can have as much say as he wants.  As things stand, it's not biologically equal, and the woman has the final say, IMO.