Wait, so what is good registry card etiquette?

asianbymarriage

I'm a little confused. I never used to analyze this stuff before this board! Lol. What is the proper way to let people know where you are registered? My family, who threw me both my bridal shower and my baby shower (the only baby shower I plan to have had - for my first), included registry cards in the shower invitations. That's how you're supposed to do it, right? Otherwise, how would people know? Are you supposed to do it by word of mouth? I would not include it in the actual wedding invitation or in an announcement of any kind. Is that correct etiquette or no?

august0605bride

word of mouth. ?registry cards are a no-go, I think

katie277s

They are for the shower invitations, not the wedding invitations.  I never buya  gift to take to the wedding, I give money at the wedding.  IMO, the gift is for the shower. 

kevschickee2

We always sent them with the shower invites and never with the actual wedding invite.  I never thought of it being tackey with the shower invites

AngelaSue

I've never thought of it being tacky in a shower invite, just in the wedding invitation.

HappyTXChick

Yes, its okay with shower invites.  Thats the whole point of a shower.
But not okay in the wedding invite.

kylara111

Its fine for a shower but not for a wedding invite.

If you ask me, who cares?  Do you care about this person?  If so, buy them a gift, give them money, tell them you can't come, whatever.  I, personally, don't care if someone I love isn't an Emily Post groupie.

asianbymarriage

august0605bride:

word of mouth.  registry cards are a no-go, I think

Yeah, I can definitely see the logic behind this (any kind of insinuation of expecting gifts is tacky), but I don't think this is what is most commonly practiced nowadays. Is that what is expected in your region or family?

pookie2005

Registry cards are meant to be put in a shower invite...NOT a wedding invite.  A wedding invitation is supposed to be very formal and special...not littered with "buy me this" stuff! 

People shopping for your wedding can always refer back to your shower registry for gift ideas if they don't want to give a monetary gift.  Most of the gifts we got on our wedding day were of the monetary sort, we had very few gift packages.

hopefulmom

Actually I think registry cards are fine in shower invites (bridal or baby) since that is the whole idea of a shower (showering the mother to be or bride with gifts) but a wedding invite should not include registry invite.  You are inviting people to witness the marriage and celebrate afterwards and not to "shower" you with gifts.  People generally do give gifts at a wedding but it really should not be a given.

Brewster

AngelaSue:

I've never thought of it being tacky in a shower invite, just in the wedding invitation.

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august0605bride

Old school etiquette books say no cards @ all-- only word of mouth.

Stores nowadays produce cards (so more people will shop there), and cards have found their way into invites.

In my region/family-- no mention of gifts on any invites. ?When people call the shower host to RSVP, she says, "By the way, they're registered at blah blah blah."?

But I don't blink an eye when I see the cards in other people's invites--- they're just not for me personally, KWIM??