where do you hang w/childless friends??

kgail11

I ask bc a gf just called me that I haven't seen in a while.. we used to meet during the day every so often at a Starbucks, and we would just shoot the breeze... but that's when DS was YOUNG and immobile! (those were the days) A Starbucks meetup now would be insane.. he'd be wanting to crawl everywhere and it'd be a mess. She wants to meet up again for coffee, but I don't think it's wise.. and she's always working/booked on the wkds. Ideas?

And just the whole 'unbabyproofed' house thing too.. like another friend who I love dearly, her house is ANTIQUE central, and I wouldn't want to ask her to put her valuables up, but when we go over there I can't even concentrate on our conversations bc I am grabbing things out of DS's hands (he understands NO, but on his own terms!)... and if I ask her to come my way, I feel like she gets bored quickly.. bc well, babies are sometimes boring to adults when it's not their own kid! 

618mom22boys

I say let her get bored than!  Eaither have her at your house or go to a park.  She is flexible, you not so much. 

Josie22

The park(especially if that friend is bringing a doggy), or a place you can use a highchair are popular places for me.

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I either get a sitter or we meet at my house so he can roam free.

Mama Jan

At a restaurant for lunch or at Starbucks still.  Yes, DS likes to explore but that's part of who he is and who I am now.  Most of the time they love to help me keep an eye on him and keep him occupied anyway.  You're not going to have uninterrupted coffee time again for a long, long time.

Michelle110

We go to the zoo, where DD can play and watch other little kids (and the animals, of course) and I can talk with my friend. It also helps that we have a zoo membership and can get in two other adults for free at any time - if my friend doesn't have to pay for it, it's good.

kgail11

yeah.. I s'pose I could let him roam at Starbucks.. but the floors?!? they're dirty!! Sigh, I know, I need to loosen up....  maybe once he's a walker I'll be ok w/letting him loose in public.. but he'd drag up every crumb in that place if I let him crawl around!

Mama Jan

kgail11:

yeah.. I s'pose I could let him roam at Starbucks.. but the floors?!? they're dirty!! Sigh, I know, I need to loosen up....  maybe once he's a walker I'll be ok w/letting him loose in public.. but he'd drag up every crumb in that place if I let him crawl around!

Does he cruise?  I usually let DS walked along the windows and look outside.  He cruises around his stroller (we walk to Starbucks from our house) and plays with all its buttons and knobs.  There is also outside seating that I try to snag.  I will let him crawl out there... not that it's really any different from the inside floors!  I don't worry about the dirt and stuff he will pick up, I just keep an eye on him to make sure he doesn't put things in his mouth and I wash his hands and change his clothes afterwards.

kgail11

he does cruise a ton.. but he's def more a crawler still. I am thinking I'll say I'll meet her at the mall.. maybe they'll have one of those play areas where he can crawl around (w/out the starbucks food bits & coffee spills to contend with!)..

gatogrrl

Most of my friends don't have kids.  If we're hanging out with friends in a restaurant or a coffee shop, DH and I usually go out as a couple.  That way, we can switch off taking care of DD.

If it's just me, I usually hand DD off to DH and go out alone.

jenifairies

at my house. maybe the park. we can take dd to child friendly restaurants and can keep her happy for a bit stuffing her face. either your friends bend or don't - it's their choice if they want to hang w/ you!

fIowerchild

Yes, my BFF is unmarried and child-free. She and I are like peas and carrots. I stop into her house every Friday on the way home from work for 'happy hour'. DS tackles her dog while we drink wine.  We try to get out a few times a month, just the two of us.