Anyone else NOT want to have a baby again?

bekahsue32 · May 2009

I love seeing the posts with signatures that people will have 2 under 2, and hearing that people are getting ready to start trying to have another baby. It makes me smile and I'm so happy for them. But I don't want to do it again! I mean, honestly, I want like 4 or 5 kids, but I DON"T want to have a newborn again. I know I can't skip that part, but I just am enjoying DS so much at this age, and the thought of going back to all the hard work of having a newborn is not one iota of appealing to me. Am I alone in this?

Hippinski · May 2009

We are officially done having kids. 2 is perfect for us.

fIowerchild · May 2009

Oh no, you're not alone. I've changed my mind on this recently, but I was right there with you for a long time. You might change your mind too, you never know.

I can do the newborn part, I just don't want to be pregnant again. I was sick the whole time, then swollen, then preeclampsia. Pregnancy sux.

Toosdai · May 2009

I hear you, those first few months sucked monkey balls. Seriously.

I wish we could increase the incubation period to 14 months, that would be great. lol!

destea1 · May 2009

I've been waffling w/ that for the past 2 months, honestly. I hated being pregnant. I enjoyed very, very few days between nausea and tiredness etc. I just didn't like it! I'm not looking forward to being pg again *AT ALL* and it's probably been my biggest deterrent from trying again, but... well, I'm going to have to do it sometime, so I guess I'm just figuring wtf, get it over with Granted I only want 2 kids, so the sooner I just get that part over with the sooner I'll be done with it.

I'm more worried about the newborn + toddler portion than the newborn itself, I didn't mind that stage too much aside from the sleep (or I guess, NO sleep, factor). I guess it almost helps me to see so many people just do this and it's not the end of the world I keep making it out to be in my head.

MandC17 · May 2009

I have no desire to have another child. I don't miss being pregnant and I don't miss the newborn stage. We are very happy with one child and it will probably stay that way.

Agrippa · May 2009

I'm happy with just one. DH is on the fence. We'll re-evaluate in October.

byrne15 · May 2009

i feel the exact same way....

i wish i could just be pg...then someone else give birth to my child and give it back to me when it is like 8 months old...is that awful? oh well

saragus · May 2009

MandC17:
I have no desire to have another child. I don't miss being pregnant and I don't miss the newborn stage. We are very happy with one child and it will probably stay that way.

Exactly. It's funny, last night I was actually thinking "I could do it again," then DD woke me up 3 times and the memories all came rushing back. She JUST started STTN (at 13 months). I think we're one and done.

bekahsue32 · May 2009

If it's awful, then we can be awful together. I think an 8 month old would be great. I loved being pregnant even though I was sick the entire time. I just want to skip the no sleep part

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fiona21408 · May 2009

I think we are one and done. I can't imagine two right now, she keeps us sooo busy and we both work fulltime.. it's hard but such a joy everyday to have her around.. I think if we DID have another it would be around Fiona's age of 2 and i would have to stay home.. We'll see..

olivia_eve · May 2009

I always said I wanted two kids, until I had DD. I think DH and I would be perfectly happy with just one child. I do think we'll have another baby, but I know it's not going to be for a while. We're thinking of maybe trying in a year, when DD would be 2, but we may wait even longer.

I truly and honestly do not understand people who have baby fever when they have a 3 month old. Maybe their babies sleep? I am petrified of having 2 under 2... maybe it's because it happens so often on here!

kelly&marty · May 2009

We knew before we got pregnant the first time that we were 'one and done.' The subsequent m/c, then troubles with DS's pregnancy, delivery, BFing just confirmed it for me. I don't think my body is supposed to have any more babies, this one was hard enough to get!

But aside from those issues, I didn't mind being pregnant, and I didn't mind the newborn stage. Ok yeah, there were days when I thought I'd pull my hair out, but I think I was lucky with a pretty good baby. Plus, I think the 2nd time around would be easier, because you'd know more what to expect. Still, I'm completely happy with our decision to have just one, I can't imagine our life any other way than it is right now.

BrownEyedWifey · May 2009

I'm with you! I always thought I'd have 3 kids, but now that we're "in it" we're pretty sure we're one and done. I feel so excited that we're finally getting out of the baby stage. DD is getting so independent and learning so fast I can't fathom starting over by having a newborn attached to me for 75% of the day. 10 diaper changes a day, feeding every 2 hours.... no thanks, I'm good.

tinawife · May 2009

I am not normally on here but I am glad I looked. I was feeling very guilty about the way I was feeling, but now at least I know I have company. I loved being preg. but the first 8 months were awful. and i had a great baby! he didnt cry alot or anything, but hte whole eat every 2 hours thing was crazy, I LOVE to sleep so it was soooo very hard for me. My husband travesl for work so he is gone Mon-Thur every single week so doing alone was so hard. I think once they are 8 months it keeps getting easier and eaiser, everyone says wait till they crawl ...wait till they run...but my sone walks around and i still think its eaiser then when they were infants. I am horrified to have a second but I feel like I have to.

jlw2505 · May 2009

You are not alone, I have 2 kids and I hated the newborn stage with both of them. The first 3 months to be exact. No interest in ever doing that again. I'm happy for everyone having babies but so happy to be past that stage with my girls. My sister both felt the same and I know a lot of others who do as well. I am loving life with my girls now and finally feel like we can get out and do so many more things.