Choosing natural m/c over d&c

pinkpuffyhearts

I am having a d&c tomorrow. My doctor feels it's the easiest way to move on quickly and it is just as safe as a natural m/c. I know a lot of you chose to let it happen naturally instead of a d&c. Why is that? I'm just curious.

CrazeyJaneyR

I'm sorry about the loss of your baby.

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I've had both and natural SUCKED. So I think you made the right decision. Healing was much faster with the D&C, f'd me up less mentally b/c it was final, where waiting for it to happen at hoem was torture. The meds they gave me to help it along at home really hurt physically it was essentially like giving birth with all the contracting.

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D&C was quick and over - I've had 2. I'll be praying for you.xo?

pinkpuffyhearts

Yeah I think the finality of it all will really help me with moving on. It took my friend 9 months after her natural m/c before everything was out of her system and she could start trying again. 

Rocknmama

I had already started seeing signs of a miscarriage(very light spotting) and I just felt that I could wait it out and let it happen, my body was already starting the miscarriage process. The whole process from the first sight of blood, the actual miscarriage and then to stop bleeding completely took about 2 1/2 wks. A little longer than I wanted but everything turned out ok. I wasn't given any meds to help the miscarriage along and fortunately it wasn't painful(def crampy but I have had worse AF cramps). I don't regret my decision at all.

soontobemrsvega

my first mc took a month to happen after the u/s showed no hb i really didnt want a dc. i didnt want to wake up and it all be over like nothin even happened.  my second happened the same day i went to the er bc i spotting with clots.  i passed everything and didnt need a dc.

MelissaM09

I was only about 6 weeks when my m/c started, and the sac (I had a blighted ovum) had stopped developing at 5 weeks, so it was pretty early in the pregnancy. My cervix was already open within just a few hours of bleeding, so that gave us a good indication that my body would handle everything by itself. I don't really like to take a lot of medication, even Tylenol, and I really would rather avoid any kind of procedure if at all possible.

As with any medical procedure, there is always the possibilty that something could go wrong, and there is a very, very slight chance of having fertility problems afterward from scarring and tearing. That's why I did not have a D&C, and I think it was the best decision for me. It has been 8 days since the bleeding began, and although it has been the worst experience of my life, it has gone pretty smoothly, and I can tell it is almost coming to an end. I have already passed the sac and everything.

 I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that you heal quickly.

sweetsarahsmiley

I had natural. I was never given a choice - both times we didn't know anything was wrong until I started bleeding and both times I lost the baby and the sac within 24 hrs.

samm1983

I have had 2 natural miscarriages and 2 D&Cs.  The D&C was the "easiest" part of it all.  It was FAR LESS PAINFUL and my pain was monitored closely, so it didn't get too bad.

MrsNJTiger

I have had both (just got back from my d&c this afternoon)

The first time I had natural...it was just the right thing to do for me.  I had to see what my body was going to do, and I just didn't want surgery.  HOwever, it was incredibly painful and I was a complete mess.  I had contractions for several days and bled heavily for a good week.

Today I had the d&c...I was really upset at the thought of it and what is really is.  However, today I had the d&c and it was very emotionally taxing, even my DH cried as they were wheeling my in, and he doesn't cry.  But even the same day as the surgery, I am hardly bleeding...just a little spotting.  What a dfference.  I was quite uncomfortable when I woke up, but they kept pumping meds into me.  I have cramps, but it is nothing compared to natural.

To me, I just couldn't do natural again, especially two in a row...I just didn't want to be a part of it, that is why I decided on the d&c this time.  Also, I am having testing done, so it is easier with a d&c.

I hope this helps, but maybe I am just rambling...I dozed off a couple times writing this..

JennLuvsMatt

I had a D&C and really I wasn't given much of an option.  The doctor confirmed my m/c and scheduled the D&C.  I am sure if I would have said I want to do it naturally they would have let me but I was in such shock I didn't even question it.  I'm glad it did it that way though because my D&C was the next day and those were the longest hours ever.  All I kept thinking about was how my baby was still inside of my body but was not alive.  Every little cramp made me run to the bathroom to see if I had started bleeding.  I think I would have drove myself crazy if I would have waited for a natural mc. 

MAK-now

I had a natural.  I had started bleeding and there was no sign of a sac when I had my emergency u/s so the decision kind of made itself.

Thankfully, it's been just about 4 weeks & AF is back... with a vengeance ... but she's back.

I got my final beta result back today ... back to zero.

1stTimeMommy2Be

My Dr almost made it sound like a D&C was a last resort and that I should WANT to m/c naturally... honestly, I m/c on a Friday at my parents' house with my mother there. I know the exact moment i passed my baby.... I'll never forget it. As for the tissue inside me though, I bled bright red for about 5 weeks. I then had a little brown discharge, was clean for almost a week and now I think i'm starting to cramp and have PMS... dark brown thick almost discharge, but looks like 'old blood' that I am about to pass in my next period. my dr had me go ahead and go on my b/c to help stop the bleeding, so I think that when I go to take the ring out (like going on placebos for the pill version of b/c) on monday, that I'll start my period as normal... i can already tell it's going to be bad... my cramping started Tuesday... so almost a full week of PMS is completely not a normal occurence for me... We'll see! It's been a long road; however, I agree with a pp that I'm not a huge fan of medication if I don't have to. Unfortunately, I'll be on medication the rest of my life, so if i can avoid one more, I will. 

stellar_magnitude

I chose a natural m/c because I've never really been comfortable with medications and "too much" medical intervention. (I put that in quotes because I know it's all relative for each individual.) I also was a little scared since it was believed that I had a reaction to similar meds before and we're unsure of what they were.

Of course, I'm not sure if my m/c is complete. I know I'll be bleeding for a while, but I hope that it's over for two reasons:

1. The pain last night was excruciating!

2. I still don't want to have a d&c, but may have to if I don't end up passing everything. Scary thought for me, but you've gotta do what you've gotta do.

Good luck with your procedure and I'm sorry that you even have to go through with it. ((HUGS))

Soon2bMrsImpson

My M/C was rather quick.. I had no signs or symptoms of a threatened M/C until Sunday morning when I woke up.  I had a few sharp cramps and thought I just had to go to the bathroom REALLY bad.  There was no blood in the toilet, but I had blood and clots on the TP so DH and I went to the ER.  I still wasn't bleeding when I got there, but once I was seen by the Dr. he said I was bleeding REALLY bad.  The ultrasound revealed that the baby wasn't developed right, and that the M/C had already begun.  Within a few hours I naturally M/C'd... I had an ultrasound about an hour later, and they confirmed that there was nothing inside.  The OB came to check me out and said that I wasn't actively bleeding anymore, and was sent home with Cytotec.  She, along with the ER Dr. and the RN said that a D&C would be more harmful for me b/c there was so little left inside at the time. 
The cytotec was painful at times (even with Darvocet for pain I could still feel a little crampy)... I turned down the stronger pain meds b/c I get sick from them. 
Its been 4 days since I M/C'd, and I don't have any pain today... My last pain pill was taken yesterday at 10:30am.  I am getting a second opinion from another Dr. about the clots they saw Wednesday, but thats ONLY b/c the Dr. I had a f/u with today REFUSED to do any type of exam or U/S to see if I had passed them last night.  I want to make sure that everything is out of my system so that I don't have risk of infection.

I was told by an RN that a D&C is very quick, but harsh to the body.  There is still a posibility for infection, and they can easily damage the cervix. 
I would ask a lot of questions before you make a decision.  I was concerned about a D&C b/c I don't like surgery, and don't like to be put under.  The fact that my body quickly recovered from the natural M/C made the ER doctors and OB feel that the Cytotec would be the best way to go.

TravelinMama

I've done both, and after having the d/c that is the way I prefered it.  My natural m/c took 18 days to complete and it was heartbreaking (on top of it being Christmas time) to see "it" everytime I went to the bathroom.

The d/c was quick, and although a little scarey not knowing what was going to happen, I went into the operating room, was asleep for the procedure and woke up in bed not having felt the pain of my baby being taken from me.  The pain afterwards was temporary, only lasted a couple days, although there was still a lot of bleeding for about 12 days.

Sorry for your loss, and good luck.