When you gave birth...

VivaAmore

did your parents wait at the hospital? Why or why not?

DH's mom does not want to be there (too stressful and it's fine with me), but my mom on the other hand, is trying everything she can to get in the delivery room with us! So annoying...  

xbrooklyngrl

My mom and brother were in the waiting room. No one but my H was allowed in the delivery room and my mom wouldn't even want to be there!

I didn't have J call her until I was already all checked in because I knew they were out until 1am for a big party and I went to the hospital at 2:30, so I had him call her around 4am. My brother drove back from Boston in the middle of the night to be there

DevonPow

No - all of our family lives out of state. We actually didn't see any family until a week after DS was born (at my request - we wanted the first week to be just the 3 of us)

However, even if they lived nearby I wouldn't have wanted them waiting at the hospital. Too much pressure for me

~Kat~

Originally, I had wanted my mom there with me and my dad would wait in the waiting room. My parents made a 3 hour drive in the middle of the night to be with me. By the time they got there though, it had been decided that I would have a c-section, so they both just waited in the waiting room. They actually took some really funny pictures of themselves waiting outside the nursery. We were all deliriously tired! MIL came later that morning and FIL came after work like we had originally planned.

happ17

My parents were there, and DH's dad and stepmom were there, too. So were my brother and aunt. When I actually gave birth, my mom and DH were with me. My aunt snuck in later, which turned out to be great because she was a lot of help (my aunts are like second mothers to me so it wasn't weird). DH's mom and stepdad couldn't come up (which is a good thing because, god help me I love them, but they're insane).

I did, however, put my foot down when my mom invited DH's stepmom into the delivery. I don't need that many people seeing my ladyparts, as swelled and stretched out as they were.  

happy_momma

Nope. I didn't want anyone at the hospital and we made that clear to both families.  I knew that I would want to spend some time alone with the new baby before having visitors in the room and felt like I'd feel pressure to let people come in before I was ready if I knew they were in the waiting room, so we asked everyone to wait until we called and told them we were ready for visitors.  It turned out that both were born in the middle of the night anyway. (And with the second, my parents were staying with DS anyway.)

cbidt*sgirl

my mom was in the delivery room with me and dh.  that was my choice, she was invited, wanted and appreciated.  my sister wanted to wait at the hospital, which was fine with me but it was a long labor so she ended up going home and waiting for the call.  I called my dad and sister immediately after giving birth.  I can't remember when dh called his parents, partway through labor.  they had a longer drive and wanted to be there right away.  i didn't care if people were in the hospital, it's not like i had to see them when i was delivering. 

mlm1128

My mom was there.  She stayed with us off and on.  She was not able to stick around when I was in pain or when I actually gave birth because she couldn't tolerate seeing her own baby in any pain.  I originally would have said I wanted no one but dh there when dd was actually born, however after 100 or so dr's and students had a good look at my nether regions I could not have cared less who saw me.

My grandmother and uncle were actually there part of the time too as she was ironically having tests run in the same hospital. I am glad now...she died a year after dd was born.  She knew when I found out I was pregnant that she had something that would eventually kill her, and all she said for the whole pregnancy was that she just hoped she lived long enough to see my baby.

veloelle

Yes. DH, against my wishes, called everyone the second we got to the hospital. My parents came and waited. And waited. And waited. My sister came and waited. I had a 23 hour labor, a lot of it in the hospital. No one but DH was with me, and that was known that no one was going to be in L&D besides DH. FIL (RIP) also came, but later and still waited.

Bless their hearts, they were up until 2 am when I had her so they could see her. I really, really, really do love having such a dedicted family close enough to do that. And it is all the more special that FIL was able to do that since he's since passed away. But I was like, it's your choice to stay here... I felt no guilt and had no stress that they were there because I didn't have to deal w/ them, DH did.

Also, the nurses were very clear that they are more than happy to be the bad guys w/ family. On our hospital tour, they said they would tell the family anything we wanted if we wanted them out of the room.

MrsCorms812

My DH and mom were in the room with me.  My dad and brother waited in the waiting room for a long time, but left as it started getting late.  (I got to the hospital at 8 am Sunday and didn't have DS until 3:39 am Monday)  My ILs came some time that next day-they don't like hospitals and more than that don't like going out of their way or changing their schedule for anyone-they are retired!

LinzDavid

Yes.  We had a waiting room FULL of people.  Dh's aunt got married the day before ds was born so we happened to have OOT family there, too.

Looking back I really didn't like it.  It seemed like I barely got to hold ds for 2 mins before people started pouring into the room and therefore wanting their turns at holding him.

Next time will be different, at the very least one set of grandparents will keep ds while I'm in labor.  I don't expect to keep him in the waiting room.  They can all come after the baby is born and we've been able to spend some time with him/her.

ChicagoBaby

We decided after the birth of DD#1, that there is no way we would want my mom in the room. She wasn't in the room the first time, but it was a stressful situation and I could just see my mom freaking out and making it worse. This time it wasn't even a question-my mom had to stay with #1 to make sure she was OK and got to school and everything. We called when the baby was born and they came to visit after that--pretty much right after we got settled in the postpartum room.

nettie

Yes, the first time the waiting room was full and I guess it was quite a moment when Dh announced we had a boy . My mom came in for some of the contractions, but it was just me and dh for the delivery- well and the medical staff. The second time both our mom's were in the wating room and no one came in my hospital room until after the delivery. I didn't mind anyone coming to the waiting room, I think it is great and love thinking back on how exciting it was. We didn't find out the sex either time..

joseysbride

My IL's were there, and were kicked out when the labor was getting intense.  They waited outside until we were ready for them to come in and see her.  They live here.

None of my family lives here, so my dad and stepmom came the day after she was born for a couple days and helped us get settled when we went home.  Then that weekend, my mom and grandma came and stayed. 

Overall, it was all good with me.

annak23

No, we lived 3 hour drive away from both of our parents.  We called them both AFTER she was born.

Heidisean

My mother, il's and dh were in the room with me until labor got intense. Then my mother and il's went into the waiting room and about 1 hour later Giada was born with just dh in the room.

stacynikki

With DS only my sister was there (and of course DH).  IL's came up after work since DS was born at 5:12pm.  Next time I told MIL and my mom they could be in the room since MIL didn't get experience that with her DD (lives in another state) and my mom has always lived too far and didn't get to be there for my sister or with DS.  No Dad's though! They can come later or wait in the waiting room!

shellbug79

When I was in labor I didn't care who was in the room so my mom & 2 sisters were there, my dad had to wait for my brother to get out of school before coming up and then my mil, fil, & sil were there too.  For the actual delivery my mom & husband were in the room.  This time around I'm having a c section so only dh can be in the room but my inlaws & my parents will be at the hospital at my scheduled c section time, I'm not sure about everyone else but I told everyone that there was no need to take off work so if they have to work then to just come up when they can.  We have a very close family so I can't imagine people not being there.

Michelle

Zenya

nooo.  we're private people where things like that are concerned.  we called people when we were ready.

Temp159135562506975

my mom was in the room with us - the only person we wanted there.

nobody waited- b/c we specifically told them NOT to come to the hospital until we called and said we were ready for visitors.

 

WBs_Bride

Nope. Both sets of parents were kept apprised of the situation via telephone. We called when the babies were born and then they came to the hospital, once I was out of delivery and in maternity. No one ever asked to be in the delivery room, thank God.

olsentobe

my mom was in L&D with us until I was sent to OR for C!!!!!! mil came after ds was born and everyone else came the next day. I had some issues during delivery and the orginal deal was mom would be w/us until i began pushing and when that time gave dh was like your mom is staying if thats ok w/u. it sure was I def needed my mommy. also have to say im glad they let just her back into recovery bc dh was off w/ds and i was able to tell her that I mau have to have a hysterocmy (thank god i didnt) my logic at that moment was i didnt want to upset dh, lol!!!!!