At my wit's end with DD and her behavior...need advice

mislogis

i just can't handle her tantrums anymore, she is just acting out all the time, screaming and telling me no, she will hit me, and kick me, and no matter what I do to discipline her it just doesn't work. ?Time outs, ignoring it, spanking, I just dont know what to do. I have #2 on the way and I am hoping she will calm down in that respect by the time she is 3, but I just dont know how to handle it anymore. I dont know what to do anymore......

roseroseroseroserose

Ugh.  that's tough.  I know that tantrums of any size are exhausting.

I highly recommend Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood

JulieandBen

My son is three weeks older than your daughter and I could have written this same post minus the hitting and kicking two days ago. For Jack it was a phase that came and seems :::crossing fingers:::: to be on it's way out. It's been a tough couple of weeks though. Jack is usually a pretty easy going kiddo. Lately I haven't been able to take him anywhere without world war three breaking out. It was awful.

All I can tell you is to be firm and do not give in. One woman on here or the parenting board suggested expecting their basic behavior and nothing more. I noticed if I didn't pay attention to some of the minor meltdowns, he would sometimes bring himself down.

I'm almost 12w pg and boy has it been hard. I haven't had the patience that I should to deal with  him.

JulieandBen

Another thing that helped me anyway was to have Jack reword things. Like if he screached and melted down because he wanted me to hold his hand or carry him down the stairs, I would say of course as soon as you ask in a nice way. I noticed this morning that he used measured words asking me to hold his hand going down the stairs.

annak23

Ugh! I don't know what to tell you either! It's so frustrating! All I can tell you is to be patient & consistant, give positive reenforcement when she does something good, stay calm during disciplining.  The best advice I was given is to look at parenting as being your child's teacher & not the "disciplinarian"/boss.  Try to redirect her if the meltdown is over something small (picking your battles as they say).  I know it's hard & with a baby on the way it can be frustrating. I hope things get better!