Update on MIL and Mother's Day

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Many of you commented on my post about my MIL wanting to ruin my Mother's Day link

 Anyway, DH had the guts to tell her that he didn't feel Mother's Day was the day to do it, but he was sure he and BIL could come up with another day if that is what she wanted.  MIL actually seemed OK with it.  So, DH came up with this other idea.  My mom and his mom had been wanting to go to the zoo with DS.  He asked me if he could take me to the zoo for Mother's Day and invite our moms.  I told him I thought it would be great, but we should probably invite our dads as well.  So, he did, and also invited them all to dinner afterward.  My mom immediately accepted.  She was super excited.  His mom on the other hand said BIL had invited her to go to brunch with he and his wife, so FIL and MIL were going to be doing that.  DH said that we could change the zoo time and go a bit later.  She said she'd let us know.  Well, she let us know two days before.  She decided she was just going to do brunch and maybe meet up with us for dinner. 

We weren't that offended except that we didn't leave for the zoo until 2pm, and I would assume most brunches are done by that time.  We still tried not to dwell on that fact.  We had a wonderful day at the zoo.  The did all these special Mother's Day activities for the kids and moms.  It was GREAT!  My mom really enjoyed herself!  It's his mom's loss that she missed out.  So, after the zoo, we went to dinner.  DH's parents and grandma met up with all of us.  MIL greeted me with this, "Here's your card."  She never wished me a Happy Mother's Day, and never said anything at all to me the rest of the evening except for asking me if we were finding out the sex of our new baby.  She said nothing nice at all.  She also didn't talk to my family at all at the dinner. 

So, after dinner, DH decided to ask how her brunch was.  She said it was nice.  DH asked where BIL took her for brunch.  She said, "We took them to the club."  So, she refused to spend time with us to take BIL's pg wife to brunch for Mother's Day.  BIL did nothing for her, and she refused to spend time with us--you know the people that wanted to do something for her.  I guess maybe she was sulking b/c DH said no to the whole spending the entire day golfing thing.  I really try to have a relationship with my MIL despite her rudeness, but I think I am done.  She constantly complains that she never gets to see DS, b/c my mom and dad watch him (an option she refused to help us with).  We give her plenty of opportunity, and she always has something better to do.  Sorry for the LONG vent.  I just need to get it out of my system.  I hope this makes sense.  I'm really not a jealous or mean person.  I just feel so frustrated, hurt for DH, and hurt for DS.  
 

jlw2505

I feel for you and just wanted to say that you are not alone in how you feel, what you are going through.  Reading posts like this always makes me feel better sicne I know I'm not alone with the MIL situations.