I hate when I feel disappointment in DS.

hopefulmom

This is day one of potty training. Of course this is our first time and I'm no expert by any means. He has been doing great all day (never even went in his "big boy undies" during his 2.5 hour nap). He got up from his nap and I spent at least 15 minutes with him in the bathroom while he sat on the toilet (I read him some books while he sat there). He never went, so I asked if he wanted to try later. He said yes, so we went out to the other room. He asked for some frozen peas, I gave him some and then he sat down in his chair in the familyroom. Not 3 seconds later, I asked him if he had to go potty and he looked down to his undies and said, "I go potty". I saw the trickle and took his hand and led him to the bathroom potty. It was too late, he had already gone on the chair. I reinforced that we only go pee pee and poopie in the potty, but he seemed to think that going in the chair was hilarious.

For the record, I never smiled, laughed, etc. I was very serious (not stern), and let him know that going potty is only for the bathroom toilet.

femmegem

So you think he did that intentionally?

FWIW, it's only day 1 of PTing for you. DS had 6 accidents during our first PTing weekend. So it sounds like he's doing great, IMO.

veloelle

DD did this last week after being PT for 6 months. PT accidents happen a.lot. I know it is hard, but PTing accidents have to be totally disregarded or you'll send yourself to the loony bin. He isn't doing it on purpose, he's learning and figuring things out.

belle204

Potty training is not easy. I think you're right not to encourage the peeing on himself/floor if he's indeed doing it on purpose. But I think it's important not to be too stern with them so that you don't scare them and put them off of it. Kwim? Make sure to give him praise and rewards (if you're into them) for staying dry during his nap or any other time he does well. That will go a lot further than anything. A beamed when I let her know how great she was doing. I still do it when she starts to regress.  Also, I think sometimes they really do get wrapped up in what they're doing and don't think about it. You just have to feel out the accidental vs the intentional. Hang in there!

femmegem

I really try to stay as positive as possible with DS when it comes to accidents. As belle said, we tell him often how proud we are of him for how well he's doing when he stays dry, goes on the potty, etc. When he does have an accident I tell him everyone makes mistakes. I treat it very, very lightly so he doesn't get discouraged or become too hard on himself.

He had pee accidents for the first week of PTing. The second week we dealt with poop accidents. At the start of week 3 he insisted on wearing underwear to bed at night and he's gotten really good at being able to tell us when he has to go, both pee and poop. Sometimes it takes some time in underwear for kids to be able to identify the sensation of having to go to the bathroom.