I want to scream in H's face

starlight_24

I seriously do. That wouldn't be right, though. I feel so over loaded and I wish he would just hear me on this one! I'm frustrated, exhausted, haven't had a freaking entire hour to myself in weeks and I feel like all I do is parent. I don't even feel like a person, just a mom robot. I change diapers, clean, pick up EVERYTHING over and over and over. Laundry. Dishes. Vaccuum. It gets so messy I have to do it every day. DS is 3 and DD is 2 months and sometimes I just want to leave for a week or 3 to feel like me again. H is so busy with school (master's program) and work. School has been the biggest issue this week as he has not been here at all because of studying. I feel so trapped right now. I wish he would understand how hard it is to stay home. I literally stay home. We have 1 car and he takes it to work. Everyday. It's hard to get both kids up and packed up just to drop him off at work. One more month of this until summer break but I'm just at the end of my rope. He said that I'm the mom so I should handle it while he's doing what he has to do for our family but that makes me even more worked up. He helps me a ton when he can but during the work week he is so darn busy it drives me nuts. I'm just needing a break. I can't wait for the weekend!

TimingisEverything

Breathe honey. Is there someone else that can help out for just a few hours so you can have a few minutes to yourself? I know it is frustrating but your DH is obviously doing the best he can. Remember, he is working and doing school so he is just as busy. He probably feels the same way...like he could use a big break too. Sorry you are so stressed. GL!

Sunny1inTucson

I understand it's finals week (or gearing up to be) and all, but your husband needs to understand that he is a father too. Ergo, he cannot be the top student he once was. A good student? Yes. But he needs to devote more time to helping out. If that means studying AFTER the kids are in bed, so be it. Even if he doesn't study as well at home as in the library, I'm sorry. You make sacrifices to be a parent, work, and be in school. If that means a B vs. an A, I personaly think that's reasonable.

All this said, what is he getting his master in?

starlight_24

He's getting his MBA. I know this is a process but sometimes I feel that its more stressful on me than it is on him because I always have the kids. He's tired because he works so hard all day and has to study. I completely agree on compromising. Last night he came home from work, napped (I wasn't too happy about that) and then went to the library. I called him a few hours later and told him the kids were sleeping so he could study here (at home). Its just getting old, fast. He is a great husband and father, he's just busy. I know this won't last forever but I'm tired of the rush to be out the door to work by 7:20 and then having to be with the kids until 9 or 9:30 at night some days. I wish we lived closer to family.

starlight_24

He's getting his MBA. I know this is a process but sometimes I feel that its more stressful on me than it is on him because I always have the kids. He's tired because he works so hard all day and has to study. I completely agree on compromising. Last night he came home from work, napped (I wasn't too happy about that) and then went to the library. I called him a few hours later and told him the kids were sleeping so he could study here (at home). Its just getting old, fast. He is a great husband and father, he's just busy. I know this won't last forever but I'm tired of his rush to be out the door to work by 7:20 and then my having to be with the kids until 9 or 9:30 at night some days. I wish we lived closer to family.

Sunny1inTucson

imo it IS more stressful on you. yes he is busy, but he is fulfilling himself professionally by pursuing his goals and interacting with different ppl and out in different settings everyday.

you are stuck at home with no car unless you manage to drop him off with 2 kids and a house to clean repeatedly day after day.

I realize it is wonderful to SAH with your kids, but honestly you have it rough since he is gone so much.

I wish you had family nearby too. You are clearly stressed. I remember your easrlier post. I hope you are able to get him to make some sacrifices for your sanity. Imo he is being unreasonable.

starlight_24

Aww at least someone gets it! We were about to purchase a second car but last week H's work announced they'd be laying off 1000 people by July so we decided to put that on hold until we know more. Needless to say I never envisioned myself this way. Maybe that's why it bothers me so much. I went to college, obtained my bachelor's degree and got accepted into a master's program in a different state where my mom lives. I just feel like I could be doing more with my life. I miss adult interaction and doing things I find to be normal. I think H and I will have to have a talk this weekend. He knows all of this but I think its time we do something about it. Again, thanks for listening, I really and truly appreciate it!