Girls who have had a failed adoption...
How long did it take for you to be chosen after a failed adoption? Its only been three months, but it feels like forever. June 6 is looming closer every day and I can't stop thinking about that baby and how I could be getting him/her in June. Somedays I feel like its never going to happen:( I keep seeing PG women EVERYWHERE and it makes me feel like a huge failure. I have always been able to achieve my goals, yet this is something that even when we do everything "right" we still have to sit back and wait while everyone around us is enjoying their children. I'm just in a low place today.
Re: Waiting after a failed adoption...
i'm so sorry for your failed match. that is a loss. i hope that you will be matched very soon with your child!
you are NOT a failure. i could understand your feelings completely,though.
sending you lots of ((((HUGS))).
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We had a failed adoption in July 2006 and then did IVF so we are in a little bit of a different situation. I will say when we decided to adopt again that it was only 2 weeks from the time we updated our home study and told our facilitator we were ready again until we got the call about Ben.
I will be thinking of you as you get closer to the due date of your first match. I hope you get another match soon. Hopefully, it will be one where you don't have to wait as long. We were so relieved that Ben was already born and the papers were signed when we got the call.
::points at ticker:: that long. We had a couple of possibilities one even the day the adoption failed, but that one we were not choosen for and the other we turned down because of the costs.
I know what you mean though- and I think for me the spring weather is making it worse. I feel like I should be out taking walks with our baby not twiddling my thumbs and jumping when the phone rings. It's also hard because my SIl had a baby right before our failed match and a gf had one right after so we are reminded constantly of where our baby would be.
I hope we both get a great match very very soon (oh, and everyone else too!)!
I'm so sorry for all of you in this situation. I wish I could make it easier. One thing I know, this is not in any way, shape, or form an indication of your success or failure. It's just the path your life must take until you find YOUR child.
Be good to and pamper yourselves, and may all the comfort in the world be yours.
It's so hard! The grieving took me awhile - it was much more painful than imagined it would've been. We ended up getting rematched about three months later and Lily was born just two weeks after that.
Thinking of you guys and sending you all my encouragement and support!
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