TTC After a Loss

is anyone else dreading it?

So all I see is Mother's day commercials and all I want to do is cry.  Not only do I not have the baby growing inside of me that was supposed to be there, but I lost my Mom 3 years ago to breast cancer.  Since then this day has been super hard on me and I dread it.  This year is worse because of the miscarriage.  I almost can't wait until it's over.  Sorry had to vent.

Re: is anyone else dreading it?

  • I'm so sorry about both of your losses. I pray that the day goes by easily with lots of love expressed to and around you.

    I know it will be hard for me, BFF is baptizing her 4m/o son and it's her and DH's birthdays.  DH has told me that I will be getting a gift, so that I won't be caught off guard.  He's trying to make it a pain/surprise free day.

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  • I'm with you!  And it's more than okay to vent!  Hang in there!

  • I really hope that one day I will be able to enjoy this day but for the past three years it is hell.  This year is even harder.  Normally we go to my Aunt's house for Mother's day and I don't even want to go.  Is that bad?
  • imagejsworsham:

    I'm so sorry about both of your losses. I pray that the day goes by easily with lots of love expressed to and around you.

    I know it will be hard for me, BFF is baptizing her 4m/o son and it's her and DH's birthdays.  DH has told me that I will be getting a gift, so that I won't be caught off guard.  He's trying to make it a pain/surprise free day.

     

    That sounds like a great DH!

  • I don't think it is terrible that you want to go too your aun't house
    You & DH should just spend a nice day together.

    Sorry about your losses

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  • I'm right there with the rest of you... I'm NOT looking forward to next Sunday! We were planning on going to NE to the inlaws house, but, we're going to go the next weekend instead.... so I can just pity party myself on MD!

    Vent Away!!! (((HUGS)))) 

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  • I am. DH and I will be back in Texas for a visit and it's going to be super hard. I almost wish that we were going to be here in PA so I could just be alone. Hopefully everyone around me will know to keep a lid on it that day. I was so looking forward to mothers days this year because I was going to be 12 weeks pregnant but alas, here I am with nothing to show for being pregnant 3 out of the 4 months of this year.
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  • Thanks everyone for being so supportive.  No one understands like you all do.Left Hug
  • imageKateAndMark:
    I am. DH and I will be back in Texas for a visit and it's going to be super hard. I almost wish that we were going to be here in PA so I could just be alone. Hopefully everyone around me will know to keep a lid on it that day. I was so looking forward to mothers days this year because I was going to be 12 weeks pregnant but alas, here I am with nothing to show for being pregnant 3 out of the 4 months of this year.

     

    Oh, I am so sorry.  I hope the day goes well for you too.

  • Oh, I'll jump on this vent.  Heck YES I am dreading it.  We had planned to tell our families on Mother's Day (yes I am such a pessimist that we were waiting that long, as it turns out for good reason).  Now I think I'm going to avoid the holiday as much as possible without offending anyone.  The other day I did cry at a Mother's Day commericial, and it didn't even have a baby in it.  It was a mom talking to a college age daughter.  Who is this waterworks person I have become?
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  • omg - it is awful. and mother's day is my BIRTHDAY too. ugh. and I'm turning 35.
    m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks). and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers). IUI#1 and #2: BFNs Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie. Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
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