Update to PG after vasectomy!

SusanBrideNJ

Thanks for all the support last night.  I'm still in a bit of a fog, but I spoke to Joey last night.  He is possibly even more shocked than I am, if that's possible, but I think he'll be okay with this once it sinks in.  There were a few awkward minutes where I know, even though he knows I have always been faithful, there was some uncertainty.  That hurt, but honestly, who could blame him.  He got over it pretty quickly, thank goodness.

So, now we soldier on from here and what life has in store for us, only time will tell.

Thanks again for the support!

Susie

gibs

If I was your DH, I'd get a DNA test first chance I got.

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Your story sound entirely unbelievable.?

BubblyToes

gibs:

If I was your DH, I'd get a DNA test first chance I got.

 

Your story sound entirely unbelievable. 

Ah, a lovely ray of sunshine here to brighten our day.

gibs

So Bubbly, you believe the post and yesterday's post??????

Halo79RN

BubblyToes:

gibs:

If I was your DH, I'd get a DNA test first chance I got.

 

Your story sound entirely unbelievable. 

Ah, a lovely ray of sunshine here to brighten our day.

 

LOL... I was thinking the same thing! 

 

 

SusanBrideNJ

gibs:

If I was your DH, I'd get a DNA test first chance I got.

 

Your story sound entirely unbelievable. 

And you sound entirely like a b!tch.  Let's all reserve judgment, shall we?  Funny thing about my relationship with my husband is that we TRUST each other and know that neither would ever be unfaithful.  Sorry to hear your relationship lacks that element.  Maybe counseling would help?

It never ceases to amaze me how ugly strangers (adults, even!) can be to each other from behind the safety of their monitors.

gibs

I'd say the same thing to your face. ?I just think your story has holes in it and your DH deserves a paternity test.

Brewster

Stranger things have definitely happened.  GL with everything.

SusanBrideNJ

gibs:

I'd say the same thing to your face.  I just think your story has holes in it and your DH deserves a paternity test.

You can think whatever you want to.  Your thinking does not affect my marriage.  It is a crazy story, and whether or not you believe it, it's true.  And failed vasctomies are not that uncommon.

Considering Joey is the only man I've ever slept with in my entire life, odds are pretty good that either the child is his, or I'm carrying the next Messiah.  I'm okay with either scenario.

gibs

You're so full of it. ?Here's your post from November. ?Good thing the search function works again! ?Sounds to me like you wanted to get PG, tried to get PG, and got PG. ?One man in your entire life? ?Whatever. ?

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First off, hi!? I haven't been on in awhile and whoaw, things sure look different around here.? That's gonna take some getting used to.Anyway, DH and I have been having some friction lately, and I want to get the Nestie's opinions!? We have a 3-year old DD who is the light of our life.? We love her so much and have been very happy with just our little family of three.? We had agreed that we would just have her and that would be it.? I was happy with that decision for a long time, and everything was great.? But the past few weeks or so, I've been having baby fever a little bit again.? I talked to DH about it a few times, and he thinks it's cute that I am going gaga over babies again, but is still dead-set on DD being our one and only.? We are in our early 30's, so I know we still have time before we need to really make a decision, but I just don't know what to think or do.I kinda think I really want another baby.? But I am definitely not 100% sure.? And DH is definitely 100% that he doesn't want anymore.I know most of you will say to wait it out and see what happens, but I'm not looking for that kind of answer.? Can you tell me how you knew you were done, how you and your DHs came to an agreement if you disagreed like we are, etc.?Thank you!

Susie?

gibs

I don't see anything in your November post about your DH having a vasectomy when your DD was tiny, like your post yesterday said he did. ?I think you're a liar. ?And I think that whether or not anyone thinks I'm a 'ray of sunshine,' I'm correct here. ?

Lea LaJeunesse-Askren

gibs:

You're so full of it.  Here's your post from November.  Good thing the search function works again!  Sounds to me like you wanted to get PG, tried to get PG, and got PG.  One man in your entire life?  Whatever.  

 

First off, hi!  I haven't been on in awhile and whoaw, things sure look different around here.  That's gonna take some getting used to. Anyway, DH and I have been having some friction lately, and I want to get the Nestie's opinions!  We have a 3-year old DD who is the light of our life.  We love her so much and have been very happy with just our little family of three.  We had agreed that we would just have her and that would be it.  I was happy with that decision for a long time, and everything was great.  But the past few weeks or so, I've been having baby fever a little bit again.  I talked to DH about it a few times, and he thinks it's cute that I am going gaga over babies again, but is still dead-set on DD being our one and only.  We are in our early 30's, so I know we still have time before we need to really make a decision, but I just don't know what to think or do. I kinda think I really want another baby.  But I am definitely not 100% sure.  And DH is definitely 100% that he doesn't want anymore. I know most of you will say to wait it out and see what happens, but I'm not looking for that kind of answer.  Can you tell me how you knew you were done, how you and your DHs came to an agreement if you disagreed like we are, etc.? Thank you!

Susie 

Yesterday you said YH got a vasectomy 3 years ago. But in November you still wanted to have another baby???

 

BUSTED.

SusanBrideNJ

gibs:

I don't see anything in your November post about your DH having a vasectomy when your DD was tiny, like your post yesterday said he did.  I think you're a liar.  And I think that whether or not anyone thinks I'm a 'ray of sunshine,' I'm correct here.

Again, think what you want to.  You're wrong.  I am not hiding anything.  I DID waver back and forth about wanting another.  My DH was 100% positive about being done, hence the vasectomy.  

I love that the part that has you really skeptical is that I've only been with one man my whole life.  We met and starting dating in high school.  It happens.  I'm proud of our history together, and proud that we are each other's only partners.

And now I'm done dignifying you in your little game.

Suck it honey!

gibs

Any of you want to apologize to me now? ?

Mominator

Yeah, sorry. I'm with Gibs. This whole story is seven kinds of shady.

gibs

gibs:

Any of you want to apologize to me now?

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Bubbly?

Halo?

Brew?

Or are you still thinking she could have gotten PG by her DH under all of the 'facts' she herself has posted????

Mrs.LB705

Wow, congrats!  I'm glad your DH took it well.

And to those of you who are being so nasty: Dave also had a vasectomy when we had our son.  And I still waver back and forth about having another.  Sometimes I entertain the thought and don't let on that he's been snipped, because, frankly, it's not anyone else's business.  This girl is some random chick on an internet message board, why would she have to give you all background on everything?

It's possible to do the deed and feel regret--even if it's not something you act on!

Also, how on earth could she "want to get PG and try to get PG"??  It's not like she could suddently regenerate her husband's pipes, LOL!

Lea LaJeunesse-Askren

None of it adds up. It didn't last night either. And now after Gibs post, you just confirmed it. Don't believe you. Not for a minute.

 

Mominator

I don't know, but but I'm pretty sure that if I got knocked up by my DH who'd had a vasectomy that the Nest wouldn't be the first place that I went. Especially if I hadn't been here in 5mths. The whole thing just wreaks of MUD.

belle204

The search function works? That's even more intriguing than "pregnant after vasectomy."

Mrs.LB705

Wow, I stand by my statement on my local board the other night: the people on these boards have really changed.  I can't believe how jaded and downright mean some of you are.  It's really heartbreaking.

You know what, maybe it IS all a story, who the heck knows.  But SO WHAT?!  How are you invested enough in it that you feel the need to call her out??  What on earth do you gain from that???

Consider, for a moment, that she IS telling the truth--how do you think all of this is making her feel?  Hopefully she's smarter than the rest of us and isn't emotionally invested enough to let it bother her, but you know what, this just plain sucks.

Susie, whatever your story is, and although I believe you, I think there is probably more to the story than you have shared--and that's absolutely find because, once again, this is a MESSAGE BOARD LADIES!--I hope everything works out for you.  The girls who are digging up old posts just have nothing better to do with themselves.

I think you were smart leaving here to be a better mom to your DD.  This place is not worth your time and energy.

Mrs.LB705

belle204:

The search function works? That's even more intriguing than "pregnant after vasectomy."

LOL!

r9stedt

Congrats! I hope it is twins! It seems to be in the water around here!

gibs

I think it just might be quadruplets!!!

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gibs

Mrs.LB705:

Wow, I stand by my statement on my local board the other night: the people on these boards have really changed.? I can't believe how jaded and downright mean some of you are.? It's really heartbreaking.

You know what, maybe it IS all a story, who the heck knows.? But SO WHAT?!? How are you invested enough in it that you feel the need to call her out??? What on earth do you gain from that???

Consider, for a moment, that she IS telling the truth--how do you think all of this is making her feel?? Hopefully she's smarter than the rest of us and isn't emotionally invested enough to let it bother her, but you know what, this just plain sucks.

Susie, whatever your story is, and although I believe you, I think there is probably more to the story than you have shared--and that's absolutely find because, once again, this is a MESSAGE BOARD LADIES!--I hope everything works out for you.? The girls who are digging up old posts just have nothing better to do with themselves.

I think you were smart leaving here to be a better mom to your DD.? This place is not worth your time and energy.

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If she is telling the truth then good for her, and she shouldn't be bothered by those of us who think she's full of it. ?If she isn't telling the truth, then she should apologize and leave. ?What good would this board be if everyone starting posting a bunch of made up crap??

femmegem

belle204:

The search function works? That's even more intriguing than "pregnant after vasectomy."

I heart belle!

I'm with the PP, though. I guess I just don't really get the whole eagerness to call MUD on people. It's one thing if the person has hurt me personally, like MrsC2B, but otherwise I feel like it doesn't hurt to offer support to someone who may, or may not, be telling the truth.

IDK, I'm probably extremely naive. I can live with that. I'd rather be naive and supportive of people on here than turn my back on someone who might be telling the truth and need help.

So, to the OP, congratulations, and good luck!

Mrs.LB705

I think she did leave.  Why in God's name should she apologize??

Holy crap, it's people like you who make me want to GBCN.  Only that I need the Nest to decompress in between writing chunks of IEPs, or I'd be so long gone.

You really are a b!tch, if nothing else this girl said is true, this is.  And now I'm done with you too.

Mrs.LB705

femmegem:

I'm with the PP, though. I guess I just don't really get the whole eagerness to call MUD on people. It's one thing if the person has hurt me personally, like MrsC2B, but otherwise I feel like it doesn't hurt to offer support to someone who may, or may not, be telling the truth.

IDK, I'm probably extremely naive. I can live with that. I'd rather be naive and supportive of people on here than turn my back on someone who might be telling the truth and need help.

Amen, sister!  Wouldn't the world be a kinder, gentler place if we all felt this way?

Chrisy-Wyobride

Sorry--gotta go w/ gibs on this one...all I did was click on her name & her most recent posts come up...the last one before the BFP was the one asking how people knew they were done back in November.  I think you mention that your DH had the snip-snip 2yrs prior in a post like that...seems like her post would be more about stay w/ DH & have one or divorce.  Sorry but the lack of postings (5 before the BFP, right) & the totaly inconsistancy reeks of MUD...nice try though. 

Halo79RN

gibs:

gibs:

Any of you want to apologize to me now?

 

Bubbly?

Halo?

Brew?

Or are you still thinking she could have gotten PG by her DH under all of the 'facts' she herself has posted??? 

 

no.... I've recovered patients who have had reversals after getting married to a different woman.  nothing in what you say disproves her... nothing that she says disproves the fact that this could happen.   it's a bunch of people we don't know IRL who could say whatever they want for whatever reasons they want.  how do we know you're not full of MUD??? we don't.  so why argue or care... if it is, then just let it be and ignore the person tossing mud around... unless you can come up with some obvious evidence one way or the other, who cares?  I don't care either way.   I honestly don't know why I'm even responding b/c this is dumb. 

Halo79RN

belle204:

The search function works? That's even more intriguing than "pregnant after vasectomy."

 

lol... ditto! 

Temp108743750006959

belle, lol

GrowingFamily

I had the same thought about the November post & yesterday's post not jiving.  According to the Nov '08 post, you & DH had not decided on whether or not to have more kids.  According to yesterday's post, DH had the vasectomy LONG before Nov '08....you can see why people are skeptical.  It doesn't add up.  

Zenya

painful MUD.

Alliebella

belle204:

The search function works? That's even more intriguing than "pregnant after vasectomy."

 

hahahahaha!  that was funny!