Do you leave your kid(s) alone with DH?

firefightersgal

That may sound like a silly question, but I just learned that several women I know IRL do not leave their kids with their DH's.  One lady said, "I've never left my kids with DH."  They are his kids, too!

I'm very lucky to have a great hands-on dad in DH.  He works 10 days a month, so he spends a lot of time with Nora.  I work on the days that he's off, so he stays home with her then.  I also leave them alone together quite often for meetings, dinner with friends, appointments, etc. 

Zenya

It's more frequent that they go out together (than I go out and leave them) but yes.  They definitely spend time alone together.  They have a weekly 'date' and then other random things.

Neither of mine as babies have been up for that though.  I don't remember when DS was ready but I know my baby (6 mos) would much rather I be around. I do leave her about once a month (book club) but it's not easy for her and so I bring her, sometimes.   But like tomorrow night I'm going out to a bar so obviously she'll just have to deal.  I think she'll be OK.

~Kat~

Not a lot, since he works a ton. He actually didn't work today though and they spent several hours just having daddy/son time. I can't imagine not ever leaving them alone. That is odd, IMO.

co18co

Yes.  All of the time.  I tend to have a girl weekend every 5-6 months, too...so they get a LOT of quality time together.  My husband is a father, not a baby sitter; we figured that out VERY early on.  Luckily, he's an awesome father, so we can all get our breaks and nobody worries about what is going on back at the homestead...

AngelaSue

Yes I do, though he has yet to spend time along w/ all three kids.

sooosie

I have but I'd like to do it more!  LOL

kancell724

All of the time. DH works nights and I work days, so Mon-Thur he is alone with Isabella while I am at work. Fridays are hard on him because he works day and night so he doesn't have that alone time with her.

Ciarrai

Of course.  All the time.  I work a lot of evenings and weekends so the girls are home with DH at least a few nights a week and often all day Saturday.  DH puts the girls to bed more often than I do because of my work schedule.  He takes them to the park (rarely but more now that DD#2 is getting older) and even runs errands with them if absolutely necessary.  That said, he cannot do ANYTHING other than "watch the girls" when he's home with them.  As in, he doesn't do any dishes, laundry, pick up the house, and often doesn't even eat.  He says he doesn't have time.  I'd feel bad for him except I usually come home to him vegging in front of the TV with the girls sound asleep...  Besides, it's what I do almost every day.  We make it work.  I couldn't imagine not leaving the girls with DH.  I wouldn't be able to work.

Jen2124

Yes..he takes them out alone all the time and he watches them a ton and lets me go out and do stuff or meet up with friends, etc. I would kick his butt if he didn't....haha.

Heidisean

Yes! At least 1 time a week he has daddy/daughter day and they do things together without me even if I am available and around. Since I spend lots of quality time with her alone he deserves it also.

MoRoseT

Of course....all the time!  DH is great with the kiddos...even better than myself at times. lol

He and DD go out together all of the time....he has yet to take both of the kiddos out by himself though.  The fact that DS will not take a bottle has a lot to do with that though.

HasteTheDay

Yeah, all the time. I go out and he stays with them, he takes them out on errands or something, we each take a kid, whatever. I can't imagine how hard it would be if I didn't feel like I could do that! 

I do have a friend who doesn't leave her daughter with her husband. She says she doesn't trust him and thinks she does a better job at parenting. Sad thing is, I think she's right. He's a nice guy, but not very responsible at all. I feel really bad for her.  

mamarazzi

I've probably only left him with both kids a handful of times, but he and Lawrence spend a lot of time together.  They have a standing "man date" each Saturday and they go run errands with H's twin brother.  When Andersen gets older and isn't so dependent on breastmilk, I'm sure I'll leave them both with H more often.

One of the things I love most about my H is how hands-on of a parent he is.  He never looks at taking the kid(s) somewhere alone or keeping them home as "babysitting" like some dads I know do.

eclaires

Yes, all of the time.

Jackson has obvs spent more time with me, but he is equally comfortable with his daddy and always has been.

I wouldn't have it any other way, honestly.  I think I'd go insane if I wasn't able to leave Jackson with MH on a regular basis.  I'm too selfish of "me time" to sacrifice it without losing my mind.

mags2041

Considering how much I travel for work, it'd be hard not to.  This week alone, I've had 2 overnight trips and will be gone from Sun-Wed.  Luc is actually better behaved with his dad than with me.

femmegem

Yes, absolutely! I've gone on two business trips since DS was born, one lasted 3 days, the other 4 days. I leave them alone together to meet up with friends, too.

veloelle

All the time. He picks her up from DC 2x a week. They do their special thing. It used to be getting a milkshake, now they go to the park. I also travel for work, so there is no option besides him. I married a partner in life, not a sperm doner. 

goldenprincess

I always leave DC with DH when I have to go out.  He is a great hands-on kind of dad so I've never had any concerns that he couldn't handle whatever situation may come up.

brightning

Okay, well I'll be the dork who has to say that DD has never been alone with DH (when she's awake) for more than a short time. It's a very long story and not something I'm happy about.

MarchMom06

Yes, absolutely. I travel for work, I've gone on one long weekend trip & he was at home with the kids, & I probably have plans with friends about 1x/month. Throw in the occasional business dinner every other month or so.

I handle the boys by myself a lot more due to his travel/work schedule, so he is great to make sure I get time for myself.

MarchMom06

brightning:

Okay, well I'll be the dork who has to say that DD has never been alone with DH (when she's awake) for more than a short time. It's a very long story and not something I'm happy about.

I'm sorry to hear that - it must be really hard for you.

meldoo2002

Yes.  When Joey was still in the NICU I left Nathan with him so I could go visit.  Now that they are both home I've left them to go to book club, the grocery store, Target, my brother's for his birthday dinner, and when I work a few hours a week.  He does great.  He's still learning how to feed 2, comfort 2, etc., but he's trying and wants to be good.

Temp159135562506975

I sure do! DH is great with kids.... would never think twice about leaving my kids with him.

shouldbeworkin

For sure!  he's got them all day today while I "study" as a matter of fact.  Kind of scary to think that someone doesn't trust their DH to be alone with their kids.  And sad!

JulieRNbride

Every weekend. I work nights and weekends, DH works Mon-Fri days, so he has the boys from 5:30 pm Friday night until basically Sunday afternoon at 1-2 pm when I get up. That being said, he usually just "has the boys" all weekend, as in no laundry, no dishes, very rarely does he cook them a meal, etc. I cook dinner for everyone Friday night before I leave for work, so Saturday he usually does fast food for lunch and picks up pizza for dinner. Annoying, but they are happy and I have learned not to pick him apart for not doing things my way....

It works out fine.