Additional parenting advice needed, please

winery

What the fruck is up with screaming fits? 

DS: "Want lunch! Want lunch!  WANT LUNCH"

me: "Lunch is on your table, sweetie."

DS: "NO!  NO WANT LUNCH"

*runs away like a lunatic* (DS not me, though I sometimes want to)

Everything is contrary.  If he asks for a cookie and I give him a cookie, he no longer wants it.  And forget asking him to come inside or take his shoes off or, better yet, take a bath and go to sleep.  MH says he feels like he's been just screamed at for the past 2 days.

Do we need to discipline him more?  Less?  Get a bigger dog crate? 

oparcm

My dd went through that for a bit and we just redirected when we could but thankfully it went out as quickly as it came. 

Marchmamma

Sounds  like the fights we have in our house.  I'm hoping this phase ends soon or I'm moving out.

I try to ignore it as much as possible.  I figure she is looking for a rise out of me so I won't give it to her.  She throws her fit and I walk away.  She finds us  later and says "I sorry, I feel better now" and then does what we ask her to do.

butterbeansmama

LMAO! I'm sorry :-)

Sometimes Preston doesn't know what he wants either, but if I tell him I'm putting it away then, he will take it. Also, his drink has to be on the TABLE!..lol.

Rebekah1021

Audrey does the same thing and I really think she's going to drive me crazy before she's 5. I just put whatever it is down and walk away. I figure if she wants it bad enough, she will get it.

I get really pissed when she is playing with something and then throws it and then tells me to get it for her. Umm now way, little girl

KrisBriMcBunny

welcome to toddleteen-hood!

I put Michelle in a timeout when starts screaming for no reason because she's beeing contrary.

butterbeansmama

Rebekah1021:

I get really pissed when she is playing with something and then throws it and then tells me to get it for her. Umm now way, little girl

lol. Preston has done this too, but I refuse to get it. He's got some nerve.

KrisBriMcBunny

butterbeansmama:

Rebekah1021:

I get really pissed when she is playing with something and then throws it and then tells me to get it for her. Umm now way, little girl

lol. Preston has done this too, but I refuse to get it. He's got some nerve.

ummm yeah Michelle does this too...the little diva! 

 

reilly17

we are going thru the same thing in my house. ds thinks that everything is "his". he is into screaming his head off and is starting to really throw tantrums--even in timeout. we have resorted to ignoring him, or telling him to take a deep breathe (he does), and then count to 10 (he does).  then i ask him if he is calm, and he usually says yes.  at this point, he either acts normal or starts back up again. if he does, i walk away to avoid child abuse...j/k.  i just think its the age of the terrible 2's. i hear 3's are worse. if you find a solution--let me in on it. good luck!

chris

*brendan 10/20/06

*connor 3/19/08

winomom22

And so is the life of a 2 1/2 year old.  Sucks doesn't it?  We have this fight regularly in our household.  Usually it's cause she is too tired.  Walking away and ignoring it helps.  God help us all....

luluroo

Um...do you have my youngest son?!  Seriously!  Yesterday he threw a fit because he wanted me to put his arms in his shirt BEFORE his head.  Love it, clothing battles before the age of 2....

No words of advice...just sympathy.

sweetie1528

you just described G.  NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

gracendantho26

Well per my sig I vote for the larger crate...and make sure it can fit 2 comfortably.

And as an aside I don't know if you've seen a pic of me, and I hope this doesn't sound weird or offensive, but I feel like you and I look a lot alike.

MomToTGH

We don't have a lot of screaming, our big thing lately is whining.  For general misbehavior I do the old time out, or "use your inside voice, mama doesn't listen to yelling/whining/etc."  I don't know if this is kosher or not, but if he's really revving up, I'll tell him he can't watch his shows/play/have treats until he calms down.  That will usually work pretty well. 

belle204

I ignore it and tell her we can talk about it when she can use a normal/lower voice b/c I will not talk as long as she's screaming. If she keeps it up I let r  tolerate it and she has to have a time-out. If she changes her  mind about things I tell her she has a choice and can let me know when she makes up her mind. She usually chills after a few minutes.

Zenya

"That's not the way to ask.  What is your question? Nicely?  Do you need to go calm down in your room?"

That is what works best here but NOT what usually happens.  But when I'm on form it works great.

Then the usual things like sleep.. food.  C is a mess without those.  He needs to snack a LOT. He's very thin and active and just burns calories like crazy.

CubbyMama

K goes through phases like that, too, and it's exactly like that.  One second she's screaming for her blankie; then we give it to her and she's screaming that she doesn't WANT Blankie and running from the room sobbing like a soap opera character.  It's bizarre.

hikerbeth

Stay consistent.

Don't sweat the small things, concentrate on the things that are really crucial for him to do.  Eat, sleep, bathe and give him lots of options about everything else.

eshaffer

I am SO glad my child is not the only odd one. He wants something so badly he's screaming for it. I make him say please (or try to,) and by the time I get it for him, he's screaming that he doesn't want it anymore, then throws himself down on the ground face first crying.  I just walk away at that point.

MarchMom06

CubbyMama:

K goes through phases like that, too, and it's exactly like that.  One second she's screaming for her blankie; then we give it to her and she's screaming that she doesn't WANT Blankie and running from the room sobbing like a soap opera character.  It's bizarre.

This, and LOL at the way Cubby described it. Sam is getting better, but sadly for me, Nick is just starting to enter that crazy phase. I just keep telling myself, "it will be over soon". I also drink a lot of wine. . .

MarchMom06

CubbyMama:

K goes through phases like that, too, and it's exactly like that.  One second she's screaming for her blankie; then we give it to her and she's screaming that she doesn't WANT Blankie and running from the room sobbing like a soap opera character.  It's bizarre.

This, and LOL at the way Cubby described it. Sam is getting better, but sadly for me, Nick is just starting to enter that crazy phase. I just keep telling myself, "it will be over soon". I also drink a lot of wine. . .

karen6784

Winery, i could have written this post!  In our house "angry baby" rears her crazy head when she is hungry, or is tired out or is overstimulated.  I respond to it with "you seem flustered" or something along those lines.  It seems to calm her down when I respond to her feelings.  C gets upset when she can't express how she is feeling.

 I went to a workshop on disipline by Dr. rebecca bailey.  She has written several books.  She uses this theory w/ much success.

babykin18

This is my life right now.  I joke with my dh that we have a bipolar phase right now. "I want to go in the kitchen and get breakfast...OK buddy go to the gate...NO breakfast..I no hungry....OK fine don't eat.....NO I WANT BREAKFAST".  And it cycles over and over.