Jingle Bellies Tuesday check-in

Sookie16

Stacia, you are so good with coming up with QOTD every day, thank you for all your work with this check in!

I am not dreading telling anyone, I am just super nervous now after my spotting incident/ER trip today.  I wish I could go to sleep and wake up tomorrow in second tri!

wendiebird

Hi all!

I am somewhat reluctant to tell my students. I feel so bad, though, because some of them called me out on it today. They said, "We know you're pregnant!" I totally lied. I said, "You guys think I'm fat, huh?" I know they'll be excited when I finally do tell, I just don't think I can make it much longer without telling...   

beffysky

I think the only person I am somewhat reluctant to tell is a girl I have become friends with recently through a show I am in.  She has been trying for 2 years and just recently started seeing an RE.  At the same time I also was having my first consult with an RE, and was scheduled to start treatment next cycle.  Well next cycle never came, and I just feel badly for this friend.  I probably won't mention it to her until well after our run is through.

Sthrnbell

I am a bit hesitant to tell my IL's.  We have a great relationship, but this is our 3rd and they know how much os a strain 3 children can be finicially and I know they just don't want us "pinch" they way they did.  Although after that moment i know they will be happy for us and love this one just as much as the first 2!

Mrs.KaityJane

I refuse to be anywhere near my MIL when my H tells her.  She says to us everytime she sees us, you are waiting to have kids right, I am too young to be a grandmother.  Sorry not your choice, we made the decsion when we were going to have children and your opinions were not even considered.

mrskruse07

I'm very reluctant to tell my principal. Our maternity leave sucks and its a big deal when you have to go to the doctor because no subs want to come to my school. Also my friend who had m/c a month ago, I don't want to hurt her feelings or sound like I'm rubbing it in.

bananasmomma

I am actually very excited to tell everyone, but I will wait until 10-12 weeks.  I had a m/c once before and I had already told EVERYONE we were expecting.  After I m/c, I would still have people ask how the baby is doing 3 weeks later.  Very hard to deal with that.

WendyinSwitzerland

I had a scary (but ultimately ok) experience that makes me want to be careful about telling too much too early... 

I've really been lucky, sailing through bring PG up to now...tired & hungry of course, but thankfully very little m/s or other negatives.  Until yesterday when I started spotting.  Yikes.  Wasn't too much, but every site I consulted said to get it checked out immediately.  DH very sweetly also insisted we play it safe.  So we called the doctor and then went off to the emergency room on the doc's advice (not sure if that's just Switzerland or what?) 

All of this was pretty scary--I'm not big into hospitals!!  I haven't even had my first apptmt yet (it's next week), so this was an totally unexpected way to get a look at baby.  Fortunately (my heart was in my throat), my first view was this tiny spot with a little pulsing dot...a heartbeat!!  Obviously that was an enormous relief for us to see...  (So weird/helpless to be thinking that the baby could just pass out of you...!?) 

The doctor told me to rest and stay home for 2-3 days(!!), just to play it safe, and to call immediately if the bleeding resumes.  Hard to do this because I feel totally fine otherwise and I never take sick days....how to explain 3 days off all of a sudden??  ah well...will do what's best for baby!

Anyway, we have told no one yet--I'm 36 years old, first pregnancy, trying to play it safe...  After this little scare, I'm glad we've been mum.  I can only imagine how hard the questions would be after a loss... 

Will feel better I guess after our first "official" appointment next week, and we'll then tell just the parents (at 8 weeks).  Will tell the rest of the world (very, very gladly) at 12 weeks.  The boss won't be thrilled to lose me, but they'll figure it out...no one is irreplaceable, right??

Thanks for letting me vent.  I particularly appreciate being able to share on this board, since we're keeping it quiet for the moment!!