How big is too big for your shower?

krmlaw

Right now I have 77 people. OMG that sounds huge.

 

babyjoy09

Lol i am in the same boat! I loved growing up with a big family but Jezze i now wish i had a small one it would be cheaper LOL! iyahayah i have about 80 ppl(and this is just my family since my boyfriend's parents are in FL and his only aunt lives in CA) and out of that only about 10-15 are friends!

EastCoastBride

To me, that's huge.  Showers I've always been to have been about 20 - 30 tops. 

jolis_petits_bijoux

That is huge... I have a friend who's pregnant also, and she expects about 70-75 people to attend - so, she split it into friends and family.  I'm giving the family shower and her aunt is hosting the friends' shower.  So, there'll probably only be around 35 people at each shower, which is manageable.

Just make sure to treat it like a wedding, and ensure you get at least a few seconds to speak with everyone that comes.  Whether this means you greet the guests at the door, or make sure to stay near the exit to say goodbye as they are leaving.

Also, here's a time management idea for bigger showers.  I recently went to a baby shower that was pretty big (about 55 people?) and instead of playing games, we did an activity - colored fabric squares with markers to make a quilt for baby.  After the hostess explained the activity, the guest of honor started opening gifts while we were working on our squares.  That way, we were doing something during the present opening (which obviously took a long time with that many people/gifts), and it made the game time/present time overlap so that it didn't take quite so long.  As it was, the shower was 3 hours long.

erosa

im having about 50-55 people, which some would consider big.  but both dh & i have a big family and very close friends... it's not your fault you're loved, lol.

krmlaw

ive gotten it down to 69 by cutting distant friends i dont hang with alot. still seems like alot though!

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mrs.ataylor

Uhmmmm I am almost ashamed to put this but currently we have 140 on our guest list we figure that about 1/2 to 2/4 will show up.  We decided on having just one big shower rather that separate showers.  I have literally thrown over 10 showers for other just because its what I love to do, so thankfully, my closet friends and family are working together to pull it off.  We have large families and I have a lot of friends, I am a extremely friendly person.  I am also very very involved at my church and the total above includes a number of my churhc family as well.  For us alot of people are aware of our previous 2 m/c and they just really want to share in the celebration for our bundle of joy.........so I say no such thing as too big!  (Slightly w/ a cring, lol)

hopefulmom

I'd say over 50 is too big...only because it gets boring watching the mom-to-be open gifts!  LOL  If it is a couples shower then it is OK since the number of gifts would be cut in half.  Are all 77 coming?

At1stsight

EastCoastBride:

To me, that's huge.  Showers I've always been to have been about 20 - 30 tops. 

This. If someone really wants to throw you that big a shower, count your lucky stars! If you're creating the massive guest list (and it does NOT seem to jive with what the hostess thought she'd be planning), whittle it down or split it into multiple showers.

krmlaw

My mo is giving me my shower, and she said she'd like no more than 60 people there. So i figure with a guest list of 69 im pretty safe.

dansozzi

I say the more the merrier...I think having a shower that big is great!

Vixey529

If everyone we invited shows up, we will probably have around 70-80 people!

Bride7-7-07

I have 90, so now you shouldn't feel so bad.

kiarox2002

Wow, these seem huge to me! ?I've never been to a shower with more than 20 people. ?I felt bad because I invited almost 30 to one of mine! ?:)

Mrs.Teddy

my bridal shower was 120 prople! We played gift bingo which helped. I decided for this shower to do my side & DHs seperate as it was just too much, so i am having 2 with 50ish pl at each.

Kelli2507

we sent out 86 invited and 67 RSVP are expected to show.. it just depends on who you know, my FI and I both have large extended family's that we are close too...

HoweJones

LOL I'm a little scared to say but on the list so far, just for the Philadelphia shower there are about 100 people on the guest list and we're expecting about 60-70 of them to show up to the BBQ {which includes mainly DH's HUGE family and my co-workers and friends} and my NY shower I was told has an estimated 150 listed including my mother's church friends and the rest of my family...I think if someone is willing to host a shower of this magnitude for you, then you're a just a blessed person and you should start shopping for hostess gifts NOW!!

 Have fun!

MumtoB

Holy Mackerel! 

That's alot of people!  I guess everyone's circumstance is different. 

Personally, I would try to scale it back.  I recently went to a shower and it got pretty boring waiting for all of the gifts to be opened.  My mom told me that baby showers are supposed to be more intimate than bridal showers.

Just my 2cents..

*good luck*