Please help me make a decision

RoAnt05

Before I got pregnant, I always said that my child would go from the hospital into their own room.  Then I found out that we were having twins and I got concerned about them being preemies and being in their room alone so we got the co-sleeper.  They have been in our room since we all came home together about 3 weeks ago and the nights are getting rough.  Every little moan and noise they make keeps one of us up and I am just exhausted.  I am not BF but EP so I still have to take them from my room and downstairs to feed them then keep them up for a bit before I bring them back into our room where they fuss until they pass out then I go into their room to pump.  I mentioned to DH about moving them into their own room and he thinks it is a good idea but as soon as I said it, I felt so guilty.  I feel like Im putting my sleep ahead of their safety.  Please help me make a decision one way or another.  I am open to all comments regarding the subject. 

pea-kay

you should do it. we put the boys in their own room from day one, and not only did it help us sleep a bit better (i imagine) but we never had to work on transitioning them to the crib.

don't feel guilty about it...you need to get some sleep to be a mom!

mrskimmieD

I put them in their own room as soon as we got home and think it was the best decision I made.  They started self soothing themselves to sleep around 6 weeks.  At 6 weeks I had a bedtime routine and the both of them started to go right to sleep at night around that time, including when they wake up in the middle of the night for their feedings.

I don't think your putting your sleep ahead of their safety because they will eventually need to be in their own cribs and then it will be harder of a transition for them because they have become accustomed to sleeping with you.  Plus you NEED your sleep.  This may give you an extra hour of sleep every night and that will make you such a better mom to them because your head won't be so cloudy from lack of sleep.

lajolla09.30.06

I think I would have done it if we could have, but my mom was living with us in the only spare bedroom (now the nursery) so it wasn't an option.  I think if it will help you sleep do it!

tumbleweed80

I agree...do it! They are completely safe in their cribs as long as you don't have blankets, stuffed animals, etc in there. Babies make all kinds of noises. New mommies have such a keen ear for their babies that if they do cry you will hear them.

One thing that helped us is the Snuggle Nest . They looked so small in their cribs that I wanted something that helped them feel more secure. We ended putting them side by side in the crib and that's how they slept for a couple months.

RobynK

They are more than safe in their cribs!  Besides, a very tired Mom is not as safe as a well rested Mom.  You need to do it -- you will feel so much better. 

The first few nights are hard but it gets easier.  We bought a Summer Day/Night video monitor and I can turn it on and check on the babies anytime I want without waking them.  I used it a TON the first few nights (probably slept less than when they were in the room to be honest) but then it magically got easier.

JustaKidAtHeart

We had the boys with us in our room to start because of reflux/ aspiration  issues.  We realized that no one was sleeping.  The boys were listening to us and would react when we moved in the bed and we were listening and reacting to their sounds.  The night we moved them in their room we all slept better and we have never looked back.  It was the best for all of us.  PLUS they started sleeping longer as soon as they were in there.

FaeryStarGazer

Put them in their own room. I don't understand guilt over needing sleep and a couple hours to yourself. They are just as safe in their beds are they are in your co-sleeper if not more so. Don't feel bad!

Jessarella

My babies slept in our room in a co sleeper for 3 months. I finally had to get some sleep- I was a zombie! The night we put them in their own room.. I was like "why on earth did we not do this sooner?!!" It was the best night sleep I ever had. Get a video monitor and you can lay awake and watch them all night if it makes you feel better.

macchiatto

Honestly, parents getting sleep is for the babies' safety, too! And you can always have a baby monitor and adjust the volume. Having the babies in the cosleeper in our room didn't work for us at all either; we actually ended up having to do shifts at night b/c trying to actually sleep in the same room as the babies (or even the baby monitor!) was near impossible in those early weeks!