Someone please explain to me

Amrice78

the need for favors at birthday parties?  I'm not flaming anyone (the post below just got me thinking), but I don't understand why, after you've spent a good deal of money hosting a party, supplying food and drink, do you then have to buy gifts for your guests as well?

Gina418

When you went to bday parties as a child didn't you ever get a "goody bag"? I have never been to a child's party where adults got gifts, but the kiddies always do. It's cute - and relatively cheap enough if you shop around.

Jessibell

I don't know... There were always favors/goody bags at the parties that I went to growing up. It definitely doesn't need to be expensive. With Target and Oriental Trading you could do it for a buck a kid if you wanted to.

Amrice78

Gina418:

When you went to bday parties as a child didn't you ever get a "goody bag"? I have never been to a child's party where s got gifts, but the kiddies always do. It's cute - and relatively cheap enough if you shop around.

No we never did and I went to a lot of birthday parties.  Maybe our circle just didn't do it.  I also don't understand getting a small gift for the sibling of the child whose birthday it is - to me that's just weird.

lmdbww

Besides the goody bags for little kids, I dont see the point of favors either.

Unless it's like a copy of a special birthday photo or something, and you are giving one to each guest. But I dont consider that a favor, per se.

6fsn

I usually see some sort of little candy or something for the other kids.  My mom always takes the siblings (and cousins) gifts, but she's overcompensating for issues with her MIL.

Gina418

I never heard of getting a present for the sibling - that's a little strange to me. I've bought gifts for siblings if there's a new baby in the family, but never for birthdays.

southernbelle82

Amrice78:

I also don't understand getting a small gift for the sibling of the child whose birthday it is - to me that's just weird.

I don't understand this either.  To me that is spoiling the child.  Won't be happening here. 

Amrice78

Gina418:

I never heard of getting a present for the sibling - that's a little strange to me. I've bought gifts for siblings if there's a new baby in the family, but never for birthdays.

One of my SIL's does this for her kids and it drives me nuts. Her oldest son is 12 and her other child is 6, I think they both can understand that the other's birthday is NOT about them and that is okay.

Amrice78

I guess I can see something little for the other little children at the party, but I wouldn't be getting anything for the older kids or the s.

Swannja1

We are only giving favors to the kids at our party. Why? I guess because it's a kids birthday party and when I was a kid my mom always had favors for my guests, and I always received favors from my friends' parties. So, I guess the answer is.... it is the norm for me. To each their own.

Amrice78

Swannja:

We are only giving favors to the kids at our party. Why? I guess because it's a kids birthday party and when I was a kid my mom always had favors for my guests, and I always received favors from my friends' parties. So, I guess the answer is.... it is the norm for me. To each their own.

I really, really wasn't flaming, I was just curious as to the reasoning behind it.  That is all.

brandonsfuturewife07

Amrice78:

I also don't understand getting a small gift for the sibling of the child whose birthday it is - to me that's just weird.

ditto.  both my sister's kids seem like they have 2 birthdays, because they can't seem slighted at the other's birthday.  sooo weird.  it's the grandparents' fault, and IF i have anymore, i won't allow it.

Amrice78

brandonsfuturewife07:

Amrice78:

I also don't understand getting a small gift for the sibling of the child whose birthday it is - to me that's just weird.

ditto.  both my sister's kids seem like they have 2 birthdays, because they can't seem slighted at the other's birthday.  sooo weird.  it's the grandparents' fault, and IF i have anymore, i won't allow it.

I won't allow it either.  I think it is important that kids realize that everything isn't always about them and that other's can have a special day without them being "compensated" as well.

KGsky

I think it's just tradition, and something for people to remember the party by.  A little "thank you" for coming and helping us celebrate. We gave out bubbles, crayons, and boogie wipes.  I think it's just a nice touch, but I don't think all the parties I attended as a child involved favors. I don't think it's "necessary."