"B/C its your job"

Faith1318

victoria1977:

gatorgrrl27:

You work all day just like he does. So, at night it's a shared responsibility. That's my opinion.

I will be in the minority here, but I dont agree with this. It is MUCH harder to go to an office full of people with little or no sleep, than to stay home tired with a baby the next day. Your husband cant take a nap when the baby naps. He needs to fuction at?a job that probably doent care if his kid was up last night?to provide financially for your family. I say all of this, and I work full time outside the home. So yes, in a way, I do think it's your job, although help from him I'm sure would be appreciated.

?I'll join you in the minority. DH probably wouldn't ever say this to me, but I won't get to find out because I wouldn't ask. He needs to get up and go to work in the morning, and I don't - I think it IS my job to get up with her. Yes, we're both the parents, but like pp said, I can nap when she naps later in the morning. I can stay in my pajamas and be tired the next day. Yes, I work too, but I have a LOT more flexibility than his outside-the-home job allows. Just my opinion.?

LaGambagGIRL

I get this too from my DH...I also get the "this was your decision"....because our little DD wasn't planned.....he always jokes around that I decided to get preganant. I didn't but I am thankful for our litttle angel.

 

Stephanie Varner

cbwm:

I would have kicked him in the balls and then shoved him out of the bed. No effing way that would fly in my house.

lol!

Punk*Mommy

I'd kick him in the balls.

lanie26

I work, go to school and take care of my kid. It was WAY harder on me as a SAHM than a working mom.

Generally speaking one night a week to sleep a bit while your husband gets the baby isn't much to ask IMO. Unless your husband is a wimp or an asswipe, he should voluntarily get out of bed one night a week to get the baby at your request.

It's no competition. But I can't imagine comparing my day to my husbands.  He works 12-16 hour shifts at the hospital. This means I get up, do her morning routine, drive her to daycare, work my ass off, go to school at lunch, go back to work, pick the baby up drive home and do her evening routine, prepare dinner for us, and put her to sleep. Then clean the house.

Let me tell you. We BOTH work that 12-16 hour shift. 

MooByrd

Yeah, that would piss me off too. I agree that as a PERSON, SAHM or not, you need sleep as well just to live a healthy life! Even if you do get to "stay in your PJ's all day and play on the floor", going day after day with no sleep can drive someone insane. I don't think that asking him to get up every once in a while is ridiculous at all. It's not like you're asking every morning! If my DH ever said that to me I would throw a sh*t fit.

Heidi Lanigan-Potter

victoria1977:

mlf625:

victoria1977:

gatorgrrl27:

You work all day just like he does. So, at night it's a shared responsibility. That's my opinion.

I will be in the minority here, but I dont agree with this. It is MUCH harder to go to an office full of people with little or no sleep, than to stay home tired with a baby the next day. Your husband cant take a nap when the baby naps. He needs to fuction at a job that probably doent care if his kid was up last night to provide financially for your family. I say all of this, and I work full time outside the home. So yes, in a way, I do think it's your job, although help from him I'm sure would be appreciated.

wtf?  Are you a SAHM?  You seem to think it's a piece of cake.  "Taking a nap when the baby naps" is some kind of urban legend.  Baby nap time is time to get the housework done (or in my case, work, since I work part time at home)- I can count on one hand the number of times I've napped when he naps.  And are you saying SAHMs DON'T need to function at our jobs?  DS's well being is every bit as important as the income DH brings home.  If I'm totally exhausted he is definitely affected.

I think that was a really dumb response. 

Nope, as I stated I work full time. I never said being a SAHM is a piece of cake. I just said I belive its much harder to function at work in an office than to be tired while trying to keep the house and baby up the next day. It would be nice if her husband helps out more and if he doesnt in general, then that is a seperate issue of itself. If you feel my response is dumb, thats fine.

 If you've never stayed at home full-time with your child then you have no idea what you're talking about.  I do both, I'm with my son all day long and got to work all night long three nights a week.  I think it's MORE difficult to be up with him all day with little sleep than to drag my butt to work for a 12 hour shift.  You have no idea.  None.

victoria1977

Rob&Heidi:

victoria1977:

mlf625:

victoria1977:

gatorgrrl27:

You work all day just like he does. So, at night it's a shared responsibility. That's my opinion.

I will be in the minority here, but I dont agree with this. It is MUCH harder to go to an office full of people with little or no sleep, than to stay home tired with a baby the next day. Your husband cant take a nap when the baby naps. He needs to fuction at a job that probably doent care if his kid was up last night to provide financially for your family. I say all of this, and I work full time outside the home. So yes, in a way, I do think it's your job, although help from him I'm sure would be appreciated.

wtf?  Are you a SAHM?  You seem to think it's a piece of cake.  "Taking a nap when the baby naps" is some kind of urban legend.  Baby nap time is time to get the housework done (or in my case, work, since I work part time at home)- I can count on one hand the number of times I've napped when he naps.  And are you saying SAHMs DON'T need to function at our jobs?  DS's well being is every bit as important as the income DH brings home.  If I'm totally exhausted he is definitely affected.

I think that was a really dumb response. 

Nope, as I stated I work full time. I never said being a SAHM is a piece of cake. I just said I belive its much harder to function at work in an office than to be tired while trying to keep the house and baby up the next day. It would be nice if her husband helps out more and if he doesnt in general, then that is a seperate issue of itself. If you feel my response is dumb, thats fine.

 If you've never stayed at home full-time with your child then you have no idea what you're talking about.  I do both, I'm with my son all day long and got to work all night long three nights a week.  I think it's MORE difficult to be up with him all day with little sleep than to drag my butt to work for a 12 hour shift.  You have no idea.  None.

Actually I stayed at home for the first 4 months with him. I do know what its like. I know that on a really bad day (one where lets say I didnt get enough sleep the night before) I can sleep in a bit or nap with the baby, not shower or get dressed and slack on the household chores. My boss wont fire me for that.

Being a SAHM during the day and working nights is a complelty different situation. And again, I never said being a SAHM was easy. Its just more flexible than a job job outside the home. I bet most of the SAHM's on here would not trade places with their husbands.

 

DaisyAdair

Well, my assclown of a DH is snoring and keeping me up and refusing to go sleep on the couch. 

So, you can bet your ASS he's going to get up at 3am when my 10mo old usually wakes up to eat, if I manage to fall asleep.

I can't nap during the day because my oldest doesn't nap.  

He sleeps and snores and sleeps and snores and I get to sit here while he does it.  

So, yeah, if I manage to fall asleep at any point during the night and one of them gets up, I shake him and make him get up.

I don't give a crap if he has to be up at 4am to go to work.  I really, really don't.