Do you ever wonder why DH married you?

isabella22

We always vent about DHs, but does anyone ever think, why did DH marry me???

LOL... sometimes I do.

When I see the 'I baked DH cupcakes for work' and 'I cooked this elaborate meal last night, what should I cook tonight' posts, I think - I suck as a wife!

I can't/don't really cook, I hate to clean (although I love having a clean house, hence the cleaning lady), I work too much/too late, I have to travel a lot for work, leaving DH as a single dad.

WTF, DH should be on here venting about me!

DandR

I think this often and sometimes ask my DH why he married me.  He is way too awesome to me and when I complain about his 'quirks' like grocery shopping...ehh....in the big picture, grocery shopping with him, while painful at times, is a small price to pay for all the things he does for me....back massages a few times a week....cleaning stuff all the time...taking care of the kids, giving them baths, putting them to bed, etc. 

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why should he complain? Do men want a wife and partner- or a maid and personal chef?

neither DH nor I subscribe to the belief that a wife should cook/clean.... We are a team and we love being around each other. We feel most at home when we are near each other - no matter where we are.  THAt is why we got married- not b/c of what one of us can provide for the other in terms of cleaning/cooking/money, etc.

We share cooking/cleaning duties... we both do our share. neither of us has to complain to the other about not doing things, etc.

If my dh wanted elaborate meals or cupcakes - he should have married some women from the 50's IMO thankfully- he doesn't care about that.

xbrooklyngrl

I'm starting to think you and I were separated at birth.

Although, I don't wonder why, I'm awesome even if I lack in the domestic department.

kittycarr

Sometimes he wonders that outloud and I have to remind him that he's the reason I am the way I am as to why he's unhappy.  He says 'you're right honey' and then everything's okay again...

kittycarr

Goldie_Locks_5:

why should he complain? Do men want a wife and partner- or a maid and personal chef?

neither DH nor I subscribe to the belief that a wife should cook/clean.... We are a team and we love being around each other. We feel most at home when we are near each other - no matter where we are.  THAt is why we got married- not b/c of what one of us can provide for the other in terms of cleaning/cooking/money, etc.

We share cooking/cleaning duties... we both do our share. neither of us has to complain to the other about not doing things, etc.

If my dh wanted elaborate meals or cupcakes - he should have married some women from the 50's IMO thankfully- he doesn't care about that.

So then you're saying that you think isabella and her husband got married for those reasons?

I think you're way over-analyzing her thoughts...

femmegem

Well, I know why he married me, but I also know I can be annoying as all get-out. So sometimes I wonder how often he contemplates how much easier his life would be if he didn't have to deal with my crazy mood swings, critical nature and OCD. Poor DH.

xbrooklyngrl

LOL I see a bunch of Husbands getting "I LOVE YOU" texts or emails shortly.

isabella22

xbrooklyngrl:

I'm starting to think you and I were separated at birth.

Although, I don't wonder why, I'm awesome even if I lack in the domestic department.

Perhaps! 

Maybe I make up for the lack of domestic skills in other areas LOL

shopgirl78

he luves me.  why?  IDK. 

we are way different, which sparks some flames but I think it also compliments each other....  I do cook for him and clean.  

I can't imagine being with anyone but him. 

stacynikki

Nah - I'm a pretty awesome cook and I do most of the cleaning.  But I don't think I'm some 50's housewife or anything.  Those are just the responsibilities I choose to take on because DH works late and he sucks at cleaning.  He married me because he loves me and because we make a pretty terrific team.  Even so, I'm sure we annoy the crap out of each other sometimes.  He hates it when I'm bossy and snappy.  He can't stand it!  That's probably what he would vent about me on here.  DH is lazy.  If he put the same effort into the house as he does his job I wouldn't have much else to complain about.  That's my big vent!  Oh and he sucks with money but I've come to terms with that. 

isabella22

kittycarr:

Goldie_Locks_5:

why should he complain? Do men want a wife and partner- or a maid and personal chef?

neither DH nor I subscribe to the belief that a wife should cook/clean.... We are a team and we love being around each other. We feel most at home when we are near each other - no matter where we are.  THAt is why we got married- not b/c of what one of us can provide for the other in terms of cleaning/cooking/money, etc.

We share cooking/cleaning duties... we both do our share. neither of us has to complain to the other about not doing things, etc.

If my dh wanted elaborate meals or cupcakes - he should have married some women from the 50's IMO thankfully- he doesn't care about that.

So then you're saying that you think isabella and her husband got married for those reasons?

I think you're way over-analyzing her thoughts...

Thanks Kitty

kittycarr

I've got the nest police badge out today....

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isabella22:

kittycarr:

Goldie_Locks_5:

why should he complain? Do men want a wife and partner- or a maid and personal chef?

neither DH nor I subscribe to the belief that a wife should cook/clean.... We are a team and we love being around each other. We feel most at home when we are near each other - no matter where we are.  THAt is why we got married- not b/c of what one of us can provide for the other in terms of cleaning/cooking/money, etc.

We share cooking/cleaning duties... we both do our share. neither of us has to complain to the other about not doing things, etc.

If my dh wanted elaborate meals or cupcakes - he should have married some women from the 50's IMO thankfully- he doesn't care about that.

So then you're saying that you think isabella and her husband got married for those reasons?

I think you're way over-analyzing her thoughts...

Thanks Kitty

i think you are way over-analyzing MY thoughts....

obviously that is not whey they got married- b/c she doesn't do those things.... I'm saying she should not wonder why - nor feel guilt for not doing those things- b/c that's not what makes a marraige a marriage... or at least I'd hope most men are not out searching for that in a wife.

if people like to have "traditional" roles- and enjoy it- that's great- but for a woman who doesn't like to cook/clean to think 'why did my Dh marry me" is a little sad... of course- i don't think she's really thinking that - i think it's mostly a joke.... but my sentiments still hold true for how I feel about my marriage and men in general.

when women are venting about their DH's on here it's usually that they don't do their part in the housework, etc.... not that they aren't doing their job as a man in the traditional sense.  I think that it should be a partnership - a team- each doing his/her own part.

kittycarr

::joke flies way over head::

I obviously do not really honest to god believe that you really believe they got married on a 'who does what chores' basis. 

amanda&rob

Yes, because I'm awesome.